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katytc
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Re: stop feeling guilty, small rant (BENCHLAND)

Hope you are feeling ok JCJ and you did manage to go out for coffee, there seems to be so many bugs doing the rounds, arrrgh.

Glad appt for OH went well despite the wait, as you say regardless if consultant is very good. Also hoping there are no side effects.

Had ED's children Sat, all went well, whew. 

Christmas lunch yesterday, it was yummy, had prawns, salmon and salad, then sirloin and lots of veg, no room for dessert............

Having another next week before big day haha.

Lido tomorrow have booked appt for hair later in afternoon fingers crossed, last year everything was  cancelled so am getting in quick, loads going on Thurs if I am ok, fingers crossed. Think lido will be 4 and a bit hours this time because shouldn't be monitored every half hour. not sure if sub cut need to wait till I get there.

Cold and damp here brrrrrrrrrr xx

 

JCJ
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Have you had your blood pressure checked recently, Katy? Just a thought if you keep having nose bleeds.

OH's appointment went well. We had to wait 40 minutes past the appointment time - and we got there 10 mins early! - but I don't mind so much because Dr is very thorough: no sense of being rushed. She asks... and answers..... lots of questions and you really feel she's doing her best for you. The wonder drug that improved things so much 2 years ago (?? Lost all sense of time with this ***** pandemic!!) has been increased from 10mg (5 tablets) to 12mg (6) with a warning that this MIGHT cause hallucinations but if it does he can go back down to 10...or 8mg...and she'll prescribe something else alongside. We are quite relieved that there's no new meds/SEs to get used to, at this point. She told him he needs more exercise as that is a proven benefit for PD. He did book an extra swimming session, for Friday, but we got a phone message - just as we were getting ready to go - that there was a technical fault at the pool and they had to cancel. He was NOT disappointed!!

Christmas decs up today. The inside ones... put the outside lights up on 1st December. Everything seems more of an effort today. I don't feel 100%. Could it be the flu jab? 'though that was 8 days ago.

Made Welsh cakes this afternoon and took the freezer stash of mince pies out so I'll need to make some more of them before the girls come (🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼) Obviously, quality control is required to check the pies survived the freezer and taste the Welsh cakes: one of each with a mugatea. Help yourselves in the shed.

I've promised to take my 80 year old neighbour to the garden centre for a coffee on Monday and she's so excited about it so I hope I'm not going down with something; I'd hate to cancel and disappoint her. 

katytc
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Well did get up and go into town, was a nightmare..........

2nd shop I went into, thought oh no my nose is running (underneath mask) had a wipe and you guessed nose was bleeding arrgh. Managed to clean myself up and carried on.

next pen burst in my pocket, WHAT?

Then as I was turning the corner towards home the wheel fell off my new chariot.

Had to balance shopping etc to get into house, thank goodness wasn't far. Checked and screw thing had disappeared arrrgh, could be anywhere? It's now too dark to see if I can find it and now I can't use chariot.

Had a brainstorm............used buggy to get me to a nearby DIY store, spoke to the kindest girl ever, they didn't have the specific thing I needed but girl searched for an alternative, she spent ages and eventually found something that would work hurrah! She said she would tighten for me if I was unable to do so myself (that was the problem with first one obviously). Went home and put new one in, couldn't tighten so went back to store, girl tightened and said it would never come out now. Honestly was so very grateful and thanked her profusely, so near to tears.  Went over to supermarket and bought chocolates for her, honestly such a fabulous girl!

Was so tired went to chippie for tea, hurrah xx

 

katytc
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Aaaah grumpy, you must be so relieved that you have finally been taken seriously and hopefully beneficial painkillers will be with you soon, hurrah.

Oh my goodness JCJ, what a fright with OH, glad he is ok, hope his appt goes well today.

Laughed at your little GD hanging lots of little bits all over the place, like that haha.

Am on the "totally CBA" bench, added the new word haha. 

Really have to get out and about to the shops because need foodstuff.............

Maybe soon xx

grumpy
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Hi ladies

You may recall me complaining about joint pain - and being told it is nothing to do with the drugs. I have now got a diagnosis from a pain management specialist. It is, wait for it, Chemotherapy Induced Neuropathic Joint Pain, and apparently there's a lot of it about. I'm waiting for the letter to say what pain relief to get from my GP. The drugs being used off and on for the last 11 years have been ineffective and had horrendous side effects, and no one seemed to believe me. Thank goodness for the pain clinic!!!! 

Anyhow, minty lamb kebabs and spicy cauliflower in the shed. Who has made the pudding?

Hope everyone's families are keeping well, Joey is wondering where Mamma has put his reindeer jumper. I can't tell him it went in the bin cos he unravelled it.....

Grumpy xxx

JCJ
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That's a bit scary, Katy, but I'm glad you're OK. ES once woke up with a nose bleed for no apparent reason. It really shook him up but I don't think it's ever happened again. Enjoy your coffee with your auntie and cousin.

I'm glad your D was able to visit you, Jane, so you could have girly time together. Carbonara. Yum. 

I'm on the K bench today. We had a lovely time with the girls. GD loved the calendar. She took out the contents of about 6 of the pockets (random selection!) and we later put back all but the first 4 so she can enjoy "opening" them each day. One of the 6 was a tiny jumper, on a hanger, which she absolutely loved. She has "Little Spider" that she makes with her hand and talks to and makes up stories for. The jumper fitted Little Spider perfectly! GD immediately took the hanger out and wore the jumper on her hand; LS's head (GD's forefinger) through the neck hole and 2 of her fingers/LS legs in the sleeves. Hilarious. YD had put their tree up specially so the ornaments had somewhere to go but some of them got hung on drawer knobs and her toy boxes 😁

Frightening moment as we were leaving the house on Friday night for YD to drive us back to the 'hotel': OH tripped over a tiny change in level on their concrete front path, stumbled forwards and fell onto the pavement. He was a bit shaken, a small graze on his knee, but otherwise fine when we eventually managed to get him up. But for a moment, I was really worried because I'd just read out a message from my EB saying SIL had had a fall and badly broken her femur. She'd fallen asleep on a kitchen chair (goodness knows why) and toppled off. An ambulance was called because she was in too much pain to move, but it took 7 1/2 hours to arrive so she spent the night on the kitchen floor!! You can imagine what was going through my head with OH lying on the wet pavement on the outskirts of a city on a Friday night!! OH seems to have no ill effects and SIL has now had her operation and is starting the long rehabilitation process.

I have my flu jab tomorrow and OH's PD consultant appointment on Wednesday so it's a busy week... by our standards!

Fingers crossed for your scans on Friday, Jane. I'm glad they've made them at the same time for you and I hope they're organised so there's minimum hassle. xx

katytc
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Lovely to have your girl with you and wishing you well for today.

Did you open all the advent calendar days, JCJ? haha.

Had an unusual event this morning, was sleeping, woke up coughing and thought my nose was running arrgh. Went into bathroom and there was blood all over the place, well my face.....felt a little dizzy and lay on the sofa for about half an hour, nose stopped bleeding, made a muggatea and started to feel ok.

A couple of hours later started coughing again and a blood clot shot out of my mouth, oh dear.

Seemingly this happens if you are lying down when nose is bleeding, makes sense.

Am fine but what a start to the day haha.

Going for a coffee later with auntie and cousin, not seen them for almost 2 years xx

 

GIJaneH
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hope it all goes well....

Proper Italian Carbonara in the shed (no cream but really yummy).  YD showed us how to make it at lunchtime.  It's been great to see her this weekend.  She picked up that I needed some "girl time", and was well enough to come, so that's been fantastic.

Head scan and staging scan appointments both came through for Friday - one in the morning, one in the afternoon, but now both at the same time!  

I'm just about to attack the Christmas cards... must put some suitable background music on..  at least it will cover the noise of the dog snoring!!!! 

Hope you've had a good weekend x

JCJ
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Yep. On train. Both trains very busy but we got seats. Industrial action on East Coast Railway has made the staff shortage problem worse. YD is going to meet us at Norwich Station, take us to the pub to check in to our room and then we'll go back to theirs for Friday chippies. Hurrah.

Dodgy signal so won't attempt to write more. Hope everyone's OK.

katytc
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You should be on your journey now JCJ, the excitement woo hoo!

Have a fab time with your girls.

Thank you for all the foodstuff in the shed, notice you are now joining in grumpy haha.

Also a thank you for recipes, it was when I was in France just a newly turned teenager I sampled the pudding, it was fabulous. It had no spices or fruit, asked for recipe and it has been sadly lost over the many years, arrrgh. So have no idea what I would be doing haha, can't even remember if it was chocolate or a powder..........just know it tasted delicious.

Put up C tree this morning, early but will have no time so had to be done. Has taken ages because YD does it every year, not so now, therefore had to muddle on. It's looking pretty good so am pleased. She just has a knack, I have to try hard.

Have been quiet on here this week because just so much going on and by evening my brain has turned to mush haha.

Jane, it's prob as soon as you relax, everything happens.

Hope you and grumpy are doing ok.

Sausages (again) in the shed, late breakfast, early lunch. xx

 

 

 

JCJ
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I understand your husband's frustration with missing Etsy parcels - even if it was only one! - it's happened to me and, what with sellers fees, postage costs etc, you end up seriously out of pocket and it does feel pointless. Hopefully, he's calmed down now and can appreciate all his successful sales. If not, Google Ludlow medieval market 2021 and show him the pictures of the storm Arwen devastation. Those poor stall holders had all their crafts and produce destroyed. My heart goes out to them.

Oooh bangers and mash. ♥️ Proper comfort food. Cold and frosty today, so it's much needed. I just had to scrape the car to take OH 1/4 mile up the road to the library. Now back in the warm, with a mug of coffee, contemplating whether I can be bothered to go swimming. I need to pick up the train tickets for tomorrow - from near the swimming pool - and collet my Tapoxyfen from the chemist (for the penultimate time.... scary!!) but maybe I'll just sit here and enjoy the warm and quiet........ 

grumpy
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Clinic today, friend drove me there, and we came back via the scenic route  - so many trees down its scary.

Anyhow the stop driving thing is on hold says the oncologist - wait for new lenses and appt with ophthalmologist before final decision.

Joey is doing fine and enjoys his walks but hates wearing his Mac on a wet day. Typical boy....

Cumberland sausages and onion gravy with mash/chips in the shed....

Grumpy

GIJaneH
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Thanks for the mince pies - yum!

Recipe for chocolate bread and butter pudding attached.  It is very rich, but deliciours.

 

YD's friend wo rked in a London Theatre for a long time and knows people all over the place, apparently.  It was a lovely thing to do.  

It seems my immune system is surviving this chemo too, and is absolutely normal, which is great given the recent news headlines!  It's a funny thing.  I have two weeks of chemo, then a week off.  My logic expects that in the week off, I'll feel fine.  However, last two cycles have shown that a couple of days into the "break" the chemo seems to say "I'm still here" and I get a cluster of side effects and fatigue.  At least I now see the pattern and know that it's not going to last when I have a rough few days.  

OH turns wood, beautifully, and sells it on Etsy.  Just ONE of the hundreds of parcels he's posted out this year has just gone missing, and you'd think it was the end of the world.  "I may as well give up turning" "no point" and the gloom cloud is driving me potty!  I need to sit on a bench with a view... see you there!

 

Choc B&B.jpg

JCJ
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Hearing about parts of Scotland being still without power. Hope you're OK, Katy!

We've avoided the worst of the wind but we have had lots of snow today. I decided to use some of our bramley apples and make a pie for dinner and thought I may as well make extra pastry and make mince pies so I can take some for the girls next weekend (in a bizarre twist on the good old days when YD used to come HERE for the weekend to help me make them!) Christmas tunes on S***ify, snow pelting down outside and 3 1/2 dozen mince pies made. Very festive. I've boxed up some to take next week and a dozen, or so, have gone straight into the freezer keeping just a few to eat. And there's some in the shed, obviously. 😀

Yesterday, I finally finished my cross stitch owl. It's taken a loooong time... Cant even remember when I started it - 2 years ago at least - but I love the finished picture and I'm going to take it to be professionally framed (takes out a mortgage).

Hope every one is managing to stay safe and warm. xxx

JCJ
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Didn't get notifications of your posts. 

What a lovely thing to do for you, Jane. Does YD's ex work on strictly?

You will definitely have to take regular time-outs (times-out?) from the madness of family if you're going to cope with 2 weeks of invasion. Have a super time with them but don't overdo it. 

You getting speeding tickets with the new chariot, Katy?

Bread and butter pudding:

3 slices bread buttered on both sides - or equivalent in chunks of any sort of bread...... or stale hot cross buns work well 

2 or 3 large handfuls of dried mixed fruit

3/4 pint milk

2 eggs - beaten

1 tbsp sugar

1 tbsp cocoa powder

(No idea why it's insisting on double spacing these lines!) 

Butter a casserole dish

Line dish with bread slices with fruit between the layers (choc chips would be a good addition here too, but I didn't have any) 

Mix cocoa with a small amount of the milk and warm the rest

Mix warm milk, eggs, sugar and cocoa mixture together and pour over the bread.

Leave to stand for at least 20 minutes so the bread absorbs the milk

Bake for 45 mins 170°C fan

Enjoy. Also delicious cold for breakfast, apparently! 😋

Had my Pfizer covid booster yesterday. Bit of a sore arm, headache and very tired today. Also incredibly thirsty. All day. 

katytc
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Yes am racing around wheeeeeeeeeeeeeee!

Train journeys were perfect this time especially the one back, hurrah.

Have just got to say it is super cold here brrrrrrrrrrrrrr heating has never been off.

Early Christmas Dinner booked with friends yum yum, am the only one who doesn't have turkey haha.

That's great girls will be with you lovely time with a 2 year old.

Oh dear 2 weeks Jane?? You will just need to hide at times.

We had a recipe for a french bread and butter chocolate pudding, it was truly delicious but lost recipe many moons ago and can't remember what you had to do.

Do you think yours would be the same?

Can you send recipe to me please so I can have a look?

Am through at YD's again next week a flying visit, and from the 11th till 20th I will have no time to do anything arrgh. Full of babysitting, backwards and forwards, dinners out and lido on top. Good job am organised for the big day, one thing at least haha xx

GIJaneH
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I love choc b&b pudding - thank you!!

Hope chariot is good, take care....

Being able see the reaction to the advent calendar sounds great

Our GD is coming by train with her dad on 18th December and DIL drives down 23td...all staying till after New year.....fabulous but 14 full days of a 4 Yr old?????  I'm booking times out!!!.

We splashed out on a new 4k TV this weekend, which is glorious. My treat last week was a surprise video link from YD's ex from many years ago.  She was around when we all had cancer 10 years ago and, having lost her mum to cancer, was great for YD.  Anyway, haven't been in proper touch for years,  but YD must have told her recently of my diagnosis cause flowers arrived. The video link was of all the Strictly celebrities going "Hi Jane""" with little messages.   Dan walker's was super.  It was all interspersed with rehearsal dances, and so lovely it made me leak!

JCJ
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No speeding with that new chariot, Katy! 😁

My cold is much better. If that isn't tempting fate!! Just got a bit of a cough, like I always get after a cold, but it's a bit embarrassing coughing in public these days! People are a tad jittery. 😛

Yes, the girls are coming for Christmas - hurrah! - probably Christmas Eve to Boxing Day. Christmas is at the weekend this year so they should be OK regardless of the holiday situation in the new job.

The new job seems to be going OK. She's just getting to grips with the technology and systems at the moment but she says procedures seem much more "sane" than at her previous place.

We had a zoom call yesterday - because GD wanted to "talk to Nana and Grandad on the telly" and YD said they're going to delay the big advent calendar reveal until we're there. GD is only 2 1/2 so she won't know the difference and I'll get to see her reaction. I can't wait.

Took OH for his Covid booster and flu jabs on Friday and I received a text from the surgery asking me to book mine. When I eventually got through on the phone (having waited in the queue - on the 3rd attempt: previous 2, I didn't even get into the queue! - for half an hour, being driven closer and closer to the FF bench by a recorded message, every 30 seconds or so, telling me I was eligible for a free flu jab if I was over 65 and to ask the receptionist about it. Arrrrgghh!) where was I? Oh yes, when I eventually spoke to the receptionist, she said I wasn't old enough to have both jabs together (😊) so I'm having Covid booster next Friday and the flu jab on Tuesday 7th December - because it's got to be at least 7 days in between. I hope it doesn't incapacitate me because OH's consultant appointment is on the 8th so I'll have to drive him to the hospital.

Lamb steaks with roasties, veg and gravy in the shed along with a very successful - even if I say so myself - experiment: chocolate bread and butter pudding! Nom, nom, nom. 

katytc
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Hope cold is calming down now, am through at YD's and GS is full of cold, if I catch it again....

Great news about your trip, are girls staying for a few days at Christmas?

Be fab to see them, is YD enjoying new job?

You will be able to open advent calendar as well and see the joy, lovely.

Have my new chariot, it arrived just before I left home, notice a big difference so just shows how bad old one was......

Pouring with rain and gale force winds here, ED says it's sunshine with them haha x

 

JCJ
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Whoop! Whoop! Stable, grumpy! Hooray! Many happy returns of that news!

You've given me your cold, Katy. Snotty nose, weird, thick throat and headache. I went to the school library today, hoping to distract myself, but I didn't stay too long - the stuffy atmosphere made me feel worse. I never get ill. Took a lemon sachet (one that you SIP.... but a local chemist's [not a Bank!] own version) in hot water just now and it helped a lot. The use by date on the packet was July 2011: that shows how often I get ill!! *touches every piece of wooden furniture in the house*

I have booked a "hotel" (room above a pub) for our Norwich trip at the beginning of December! Yay!! It's got to be a weekend visit because YD started her new job yesterday (had to actually set her 7am alarm and make a packed lunch! Bit of a culture shock after 18 months working entirely from home!!) and doesn't want to ask for time off yet. OH has been iffing and arring about it but I decided to book the hotel (and not tell him it's free cancellation up to 24 hours before!) and I'll go without him if necessary. I won't book the train tickets yet as we never get any discount for booking that journey early anyway. I am excited that I will see GD with her advent calendar, although I don't expect her to be disciplined enough, at 2 1/2 to only open one pocket at a time. I fully expect all 24 ornaments to be out by the 3rd December 😂

Hope you enjoyed your lunch, Katy. 

katytc
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Woo hoo grumpy, that's brilliant news, whew!

Hope you & grumpy boy celebrated.

 

Isle of Wight?? Instead of treading water you could have swum in your bath hahaha.

Had a really quiet weekend which I have enjoyed, been going to bed early, cold still not over arrrgh I think it came back again. Been sneezing and coughing non stop.

Have had to purchase a new chariot, wheel is wobbling and has been for a while but it was sticking a few times too. Thought it was just wheel and could be replaced but when I really looked at it, wheel is encased and by the time someone looked at it etc, would prob either be told there is nothing they can do or would cost as much as a new one, not quite but...........

Hopefully will arrive before I leave for YD's.

Out for "a lady who lunches day" tomorrow, hurrah xx

 

grumpy
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Just got back from clinic - MRI scan all good, no nasties anywhere!!!! What a relief. And everything else is stable.

Then had sandwich lunch with friend in A### and came home to sit by the fire with Joey.

Weather grim, so no after tea walk tonight.

Grumpy x

JCJ
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I'm swimming "around the Isle of Wight". Since mid-December last year but it is 90km and I was treading water for several months while the pool was closed! A pity I wasn't actually there because I have a friend who lives in Ventnor: I could have visited her for a mugatea in the garden 😁. 29ish km left

Slippers. Have you thought about putting insoles in? You can get padded ones, fleece, gel and all sorts - and replace them when they go flat. Or do you wear the mule type ones? My slippers are "granny" ones (but NOT the zip up bootee type!! I won't go that far! 😛) by Pad*ers. They have thick plasticky non slip soles so I can go outside in them - although I almost never do - and they've lasted years. I'm asking Santa for new ones only because I've trodden the backs down and they're looking a bit tatty.

Hope you got to Newcastle OK, Jane. Enjoy.

We all need food, grumpy. Sometimes it's the highlight of my day!! Fish, chips & mushy peas in the shed tonight. 😁

katytc
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Thank you grumpy, yum yum. It's because we love food hahaha.

Hope all is fine with eyes.

Were you on the FF bench or the grrrrrrrrrrrrrr bench?? Jane??

Brilliant you spoke up, imagine how yuck you would be feeling?

Good you are feeling ok and have a lovely lunch with daughter.

Slippers arrrgh I can honestly say I have bought sooooooooo many and they are ok for a couple of weeks then they need to be replaced, these ones are only £6, they are open toed with memory foam. They feel tight when wearing which I really like and have a thick sole. For me as soon as the memory foam squishes down that's when it feels as though I am walking on tiny stones ouch but as the soles are thicker they work. They are from P*****k, bargain indeed.

No dinner for moi, had a delivery today from Mc's as 3 GC were with me for a couple of hours today, food again grumpy haha.

Also had a video call this morning, had shower and washed hair prior to as def wouldn't get away with just brushing JCJ. Hair being chopped tomorrow, anything to make me look kinda decent........

Cold is back again, WHAT? had calmed down at beginning of the week and is now back in full force again! 

Hope you enjoyed your swim JCJ. Where are you? or are you not anywhere?? Haha xx 

 

JCJ
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I love the Blue badge too. Because of the larger spaces/easier parking but I'm very good and I don't ever use it when OH is not with me - despite frequently being tempted! - Had to fight to get it and don't want to abuse the system and risk losing it.

Hope your lunch is lovely. Hugs to your daughter - socially distanced if course. I hope she feels better soon.

Safe, uneventful journey tomorrow. Right. Swimming now.

GIJaneH
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I need to know where the best slippers come from!!!!

The blue badge is incredibly helpful!  I love mine, not because it always gets me nearer, but because the spaces are bigger and it's easier to park !!!!!😂

Lamb sounds good....  thanks......

YD is coming for lunch, which will be fab.  She's still off work with PTSD after the pandemic...

Tomorrow we get up very early and head to  Newcastle.  We'll be there by 10.30.... 

Yesterday was fine in the end, but quite frustrating.  There was an hour's wait before being taken through to the chemo suite.  Then they couldn't get my drugs because a bag of chemo had leaked and they were deep cleaning the drug room....  then they arrived with the bone infusion, cheerfully saying "we'll have you out in no time".  I asked about the steroid infusion I need to stop me having awful reaction to bone infusion.  Not written up..... finally that arrived.... and I asked about the steroids for 3 days afterward... not written up.  It was all sorted, but made me cross.  It's a good job I'm on the ball, otherwise they'd have given me an infusion that makes me ill.  It's a good job I have the courage to speak up.  It's a good job I don't just sit there and think "they know best".  There are people more vulnerable, and what would happen to them?  I know it was just a mistake, but.....  Guess which bench I was on????

So far, so good in terms of reaction to the bone in fusion.  Last time I had it I was completely   wiped out the day after, but I'm not doing too badly  today....  on the happy bench, looking at the sea....

hope you're all OK

grumpy
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Good evening ladies

Good news - my blue badge has been approved and will arrive soon.

Bad news - eyesight a bit iffy so trying to get an optician appt to find out if I'm safe to drive.

I've got a lamb casserole and roast veggies In the oven, so leftovers will be in the shed.

Why do so many posts on this thread concern food???? 

Grumpy xxx

katytc
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Hope your appt goes well grumpy. Fingers and toes crossed for you and Jane.

Roast well appreciated JCJ. Have not been eating well over the last week due to snotty cold but am starting to become ravenous..........eating everything in sight. haha.

Ooh your GD is now turning super girly JCJ, youngest GD also loving pink, WHAT? From nowhere, no tu tu but a favourite pair of leggings that she picked herself and wants to wear all the time. We will need to have tu tu time in Benchland, maybe Christmas ones?

The slipper saga goes on but in a very good way, ED told me about a pair she has, checked them out and they are actually very good. Have a spare pair now too in case the disappear from shop.

C shopping done, woo hoo, one thing to pick up this week and have managed to wrap over half of them, just used paper because thought if I did wrapping in stages I wouldn't feel so drained haha.

Did venture out for lunch yesterday, it was ok but we shared a slice of banana loaf and it was super delicious, yum yum xx

 

JCJ
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I set the timer! Roast dinner even more delicious after swimming! 😁

JCJ
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Hope your consultation gives you some answers, grumpy and they tend more towards the best than the worst!!

Jane, I hope the week off treatment gives you chance to recover a bit and get off the K bench for long enough to finish the knitting. Swiss darning is a nightmare. I knit, embroider, cross stitch but I can't get Swiss darning to look anything other than a complete bodge. I've been known to knit a design into a project to avoid having to sew it on top after!!

Yes, no calories to worry about in Benchland... or food intolerances. Everything in the shed is fine. Don't even need to worry about "in moderation" just stuff your face and enjoy. 😁

However, having said that, no roast dinner in there tonight. Because I had a senior moment: I rushed around, this morning, prepping a roast chicken dinner and apple crumble then went out forgetting to set the oven timer! 😕 Realised when we got to the country park 15 miles away. Grrrr. Decided not to rush back but just take our time and enjoy the trees. We'll cook the roast tomorrow (must set timer before going swimming!) Luckily, I had an emergency packet of 2 minute mushroom and marscapone tortellini in the fridge and a pot of chargrilled vegetable sauce that takes 5 minutes in the microwave. A quick salad and bish, bash, bosch dinner is served! Both delicious and devastatingly disappointing as my stomach still expects that roast dinner!! 

grumpy
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Joey says thank you for his birthday wishes. He had lovely day, walk with mud and puddles, met girlfriends in the park, and chicken and gravy for his tea! He's a lucky boy.

Seeing the oncologist next week, and a bit concerned about 'cranial lesions' possibly revealed by recent  MRI Scan. My philosophy is plan for the worst and hope for the best, so I shall not go hyper until we have had the conservation. If it is the worst, Joey has a home to go to, with Meg the black lab who he adores.

Life can be a b####r sometimes....

Hope you are all keeping well

Grumpy xxx

GIJaneH
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Heavens!  I've missed so much!  Happy belated birthday Joey - hope the treat was tasty..

Tutu sounds fab....  

sorry about the cold - hope it clears up quickly

biting edge of tongue is SORE - got any Bonjela?  I do hope that the consultant next month has something positive for OH - it sounds like seriously hard work...., and I hope you get a local holiday sorted too.. something to look forward to is always a bonus.

Good job I missed the chips - the weight is creeping up... but then, everything in the shed is calorie free, isn't it?  

I've been quiet cause I've been pooped.  I can't remember where I got to, but basically I'm getting a second week off chemo to recover, and a lower dose when I start again next week...

The good news is that having finished knitting the front of GDs jumper, with James the Red Engine on, I had a go at doing his face.... the pattern said Swiss Darning, so I looked that up, did the circle round his face and decided that was NOT going to work for his eyes/nose/mouth, and I was stumped.  That had taken 2 hours! I knit.  I don't sew.  Fortunately I had a visit from a friend who is amazing at embroidery, sewing and all things artistic.  I showed her, and in 20 minutes it was done!!!!!  I ma so impressed, and little one will be thrilled.  Just the back and a sleeve to do now, when I can get off the  K*******d bench.  Blood and covid test this morning...

have a good weekend...

JCJ
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PS made a tutu for GD's teddy because GD has acquired one (in a bundle of 2nd hand clothes donated by a friend) and loves it (much to her mums' initial dismay!! 😜). Apparently, she will "lose her sh**" when she sees it. I was going to post it, but YD advised me to keep it for Christmas so I can see her (and DIL's) reaction when she opens it. 😁

JCJ
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Happy birthday Joey!! I hope he had a lovely day and a delicious pressie.

Hope you're feeling better soon, too, Katy. It's colds season again.... and this year we've not all been hiding away in our houses! 

No, they've not made up. But at least OH is not still being grumpy with me so I'm not getting involved. Just been talking to YD on the phone and she agrees with me that he seems to be getting worse - both physically and mentally - which is probably part of the problem. We have his consultant appointment at the beginning of December so hopefully she will have some more meds to try. YD was nagging me to book some holidays while we can still travel (albeit short distances) and he's still able to appreciate them. She's right. I must get on it. 

I bit the back edge of my tongue. Hard. Whilst eating my festive sandwich in S*******y's cafe yesterday. My own fault because I was distracted trying to see what deliciousness another customer had on his plate! 😊 It's really sore today and there's an ulcer that rubs on my teeth whenever I swallow. Made  the BIG mistake of having a tomato-based dinner tonight and pineapple in the side salad. Ouchy Ouchy Ouchy. Too acid! 😳 I have some ancient (expiry date 2007!!) rinstead pastilles that are helping and it should heal soon. Mouths usually do. 🤞🏼

katytc
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Happy birthday Joey, woo hoo, 16?? Wowee.

Hope you bought him something super doggy tasty.

Am in bed, feeling a little rough have managed to catch a cold.....sneezing non stop and snotty nose yuck so early night for me.

Have they made up yet JCJ?? Xx

grumpy
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Happy Birthday to Joey!!! He is 16 today, and had a bath and haircut yesterday to look smart for the celebrations.

Off to the shops now to get him his pressie, which will have to be edible.

Grumpy

JCJ
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Glad things are better with YD, Katy. I hope you had an uneventful journey back. Mmmm chippies!! Thank you. 😁

I'm just faffing about setting up my tablet for a zoom safeguarding training with school (hastily brushes hair). Thought retirement had got me out of that annual chore but volunteers have to do it too! 🙄

Better get some coffee....... snzzzz...... yawn.

katytc
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Am just at train station and have a while to wait, left early because of all disruptions.

Left with a happy heart hurrah and am so glad I went through.

Glad your internet is up and running, have done that many a time arrrgh.

Had a look at site, great ideas.

It is super cold here but at least it's not raining. When I get off the train it's chippie for me, will buy extras for the shed xx

 

 

JCJ
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Katy to the rescue! I hope your YD makes the most of her freedom and feels better for it.

We've had no Internet all morning. I spent a large part of it on my hands and knees with my head in the shoe rack trying to fix the router, following S*y's "self heal", to no avail. Thought I was going to have to phone them. Oh no! Used my phone's data to see what else to try and discovered it was a broadband issue in the local area: nothing to do with our equipment. Arghhh! All that wasted effort and stress. At least I wasn't hanging on hold on the phone for hours repeatedly telling people my mother's maiden name, my first pet's name and my bra size just to be told that. Phew! Lucky escape!

I walked to the village to get some milk, while it was sunny (it rained on me on the way back, but there was a rainbow so I forgave it! 😛) and when I returned the Internet was back on. Hurrah!

Have a look for QI make wrapping paper gift bags on the Internet, Katy. It's a brilliantly easy way to wrap awkward shapes that Sandi demonstrated on QI: A sort of half way house between buying gift bags and wrapping traditionally. I wrapped a few odd-shaped things that way last year (including a stuffed puffin for GD!) and it was a revelation! Just a thought. x

katytc
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Hurrah, snotty has gone and peace reigns.

Fingers crossed they make up soon and you are able to have the space and time you need.

Am on train so won't be wrapping, YD has had an awful week so am through for moral support, feeling anxious for her, heart is pounding. Said she can go and have some retail therapy and clear her head. It's easy to get to really and easier for me to go to her.

She never says just come through, we always arrange so know she needs me. She spoke to her sister yesterday and she thought she was ok by end of call but when I messaged later I knew it wasn't. Just too many things gone on over last week. I will only be there to give her quiet time.

On the plus found that lovely Italian restaurant that delivers woo hoo haha xx

grumpy
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Just off for a walk around Cumbria on Sea.....

JCJ
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Drat and botheration! (or words to that affect! 🙊) Put the washing out when it was windy and sunny. Now it's spit spotting with rain and threatening another downpour. I'm pretending not to have noticed. Rain is a good fabric conditioner! 😛

I haven't bothered Drs about my thumb because a) it's hardly urgent in the current NHS crises, b) the cortisone injection was useless and, mainly, c) it eventually stopped being a problem because it wouldn't bend at all and therefore didn't "trigger" so I had no pain and could do everything fine. I'm going to wear my splint again for a while and see if it calms down. 

Oh, and in answer to your previous question: no it wasn't OH's library friend... so yesterday wasn't excruciating (apart from the boredom: no customers and only us 2 for a lot of the time!) but his swimming friend. The one he goes (went) to concerts with - sometimes taking him out for hours at a time - and who stepped in to help when I was away with YD! It feels like another bolt on my prison door! 🙁 Hopefully, he'll come to his senses eventually, but I gather it's very common with PD. Probably because friends carry on being able to do everything and it's too hard for the PD sufferer to see the constant reminder of their own deterioration?

At least he stopped being snotty with me PDQ... probably because I've told him, more than once over the years, that if he pushes me away - his cook, cleaner, driver, company etc - he will be in serious trouble!! 

katytc
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What is happening with thumb? Have you spoken to doctors recently JCJ? xx

katytc
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Ouch poor Joey, no wonder he is grumpy, grumpy haha.

Hope all went well Jane, good peppermint is kinda working.

I know how annoying am I??

Am seriously thinking of starting to wrap over the weekend because I really do not enjoy doing that.........

Both daughters say just use bags but I like seeing surprise on everyone's faces, joy hopefully haha, bag just doesn't seem the same.

YD was a little frantic yesterday her temp crown fell out and it will now need to be a cosmetic repair arrrrrrrgh, super expensive, her dentist is here but would need lots of appointments so she has arranged to see dentist near her own home next week to discuss options. Am hoping now something is organised she will calm down a little, fingers crossed.

Have hoovered today am on a roll haha, not crossing the line and having anything to do with ironing though.

Next week have flu jab and booster (asked a question in Lynn section), then appt with pain clinic and doc so busy few days.

Pouring here am hoping it calms down soon as have to go out arrrgh xx

 

JCJ
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C-word cards written?!!! I've not even started making mine yet! Thought I was ahead of the game by having made all the November birthday cards. A few gifts bought.... online as per... the turkey is ordered, mincemeat and puddings made, but that's it so far. I was thinking of cross stitching some cards, which take ages, "as I've got plenty of time". Hahahaha! 😂

Poor Joey, I hope he's recovered from his traumatic day. 

I'll look for some peppermint oil tablets next time I'm in a chemist. In the meantime, I'll eat more of these mints with a hole and see if they help. 🙂

Blowing a hooli today. Trying to decide whether to put the washing outside to dry or if it's going to rain again: threw it down overnight. 

All my squares are knitted for my dressing gown and I've started to crochet them together but that's aggravated my thumb (which had been no bother, most of the time, lately, because it wouldn't bend and therefore doesn't get stuck!) so I can't crack on and finish it unless I can find a way to crochet that doesn't involve my left thumb! Grrrrr. 

GIJaneH
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Poor Joey!!  C*******s CARDS written???????????  Goodness, I need a sit down !!!

Peppermint oil is available from B*****, H&# health food shops, but we were too busy with little legs so I got it from a large online retailer with a smiley face.  Does seem to help...

Currently sitting waiting for a blood test and covid swab..

Ttfn xx

grumpy
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The GOM Joey has had a trying day - he was dragged out for a walk in the torrential rain wearing his Mac, then he had to sit outside the  library and no one talked to him, and to cap it all his paw got squished under the trolley wheel!!! Poor little chap....

The rain is forecast to continue for a few more days yet, oh dear.

Oh well off to bed soon.

Grumpy xx

 

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Pilates??? Argh, just the thought fills me with terror, haha. Hope you are a bit better today.

There is a new bench then? The "windy" bench, am staying well clear.

Is it the same friend OH does the library with?? Cause if it is that will be a fun day for you haha.

After not being organised at all regarding C*******s, have pushed on and have everything apart from ED, YD and smallest GS (have half other half still to purchase) also food ordered, cards written, whew haha.

Feel so much better, love it's kinda done.

Giggled a lot yesterday, youngest GD has at the moment, inherited my singing voice which as you know is not the best, not even near any sense of best???

My Grandad, Dad and me, now maybe GD? The tradition goes on hahaha xx

JCJ
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Hope your (delayed) lunch was good, Katy.

I can empathise with the wind bag problem, Jane because it's my permanent condition thanks to Tapoxyfen, exacerbated by having had my gall bladder removed. I am currently relying on Rennies but I might try peppermint oil tablets, if they help. Where do you get them?

Arghhh! Window cleaners! *beats a hasty retreat to a room where the curtains are still drawn* I'm still in my dressing gown 🤭 (at least I'm not outside this time!) Luckily, OH is dressed so he can pay them.

Half term so no school library this week but I did get a lot of little jobs done: all those things that you look at for weeks (months?) meaning to get around to, that actually only take a few minutes to do.

OH has fallen out with his friend and is behaving like an utter diva. Honestly, it's like the break up of a teenage romance! It didn't help that I lost my patience and told him that! Now he's sulking with me too. Ho hum. 

GIJaneH
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I bought slippers too.... the old Asda ones fell apart, but did last a few years.  This pair were from "Not just slippers, #&# slippers!"  I somehow doubt they'll last as long as the others!

Woo hoo for lunch!  Enjoy!

I've decided the nausea is being exacerbated by me turning into a wind bag!!!  now taking peppermint oil tablets, which seem to help.

I'm on the "don't move" bench today.  I did Pilates yesterday, which had a lot of neck/arm work.  I was fine, but must have slept awkwardly and this morning I can't move my head!!!  It's a tad restricting, not to mention painful!

It was lovely to have everyone here, but oh, the sound of silence when they left was truly golden!

They're coming for two and a half weeks over Christmas/New year... not quite sure we'll survive that!!!!!  Little legs is incredibly well behaved and delightful, but,  4.....  It'll be fun!