Ok I have to ask. What is a forever garden? I'm guessing a perennial garden. Lol if it is mine is basically dead. It did well for many years and last year wasn't doing well. This year up popped a ton of gristle in it.I had to pull them out with leather gloves. Two were is later they were back. Same process and now they are back again. Decided to just chop it all off. This is right against the front of my house. I figure next year I will have to rip it all out. Might turn into two bushes and some potted plants.
Raining here for the next 10 days. I was supposed to go to the beach this week. Quite bummed my only time this year at the beach and its going to rain for it. 2018 hasn't been cooperative for having fun!
Sorry to hear your recent news. 3 years plus ago, at Dx, they found mets in my lymph nodes so axilliary clearance and a week later mets on both hips.......hang on in there....hugs..
Thx for answering. I'd never heard of this particular type of mets. before. I guess 'it' showed up on a CT......thinking of you till you wait for the 8th. Waiting is just 'horrid'!!!
Hugs to you, too,
Hoping you have family & friends around you.....x
Hi Silv, well soft tissue cancer is when it's not in an organ but just loads floating around. mine is in my neck and chest. Don't know what they're going to try next but will find out on the 8th August.
hugs to you
Forgot to say I Had the original lump removed less than 3 months ago and was due to go back in and get a full lymph node removal, but they have now said I don’t need it after finding the bone met? Don’t know what treatment I’m going onto as yet, will find that out on Tuesday when I meant the specialist team.
Hi I don’t know if I’m posting this in the right place, but I have just been told yesterday that I have bone mets in my spine and that I can’t be cured that they can only treat me and buy me as much time as possible. I’m assuming there are people on here that have been living with bone mets for years, would be good to know how long you guys have had this to give me some sort of hope moving forward,
thank you x
Sarah, How are you feeling? How's treatment going? I'm happy you found some comfort in our stories. We never know how this will play out, but we all need some hope! Believe me I searched and searched for positive stories when I was diagnosed. Hugs, FF
Ditto....I empathise completely in that my 'forever' garden is a very young one, too. Rain was promised today and we have had about 2 minutes worth so far in! I'm genuinely missing the rain...never ever thought I'd say this; in this country!!! Its all rather 'odd'......
All good wishes,
Ramade, I'm sorry you didn't get better results! We all want it to get smaller! Most of my treatments would shrink mine a tiny bit. Mine was stable which = no changes for 5 years on vinorelbine. Are you staying on the treatment? FF
dear ff i am so pleased for you i can't tell you. fantastic news,well done,
i haven't posted for ages,trying to get through 6 months of hellish chemo,result no change. it seems they aren't too worried about bones these days which might be interesing to some. i have chemo in the soft tissue which they do seem worried about but can't find any info on it, anyone??
anyway once again so pleased for you.
;ove and hugs
Hello dear Nicky.
Many thx for your highly informative post...very much appreciated. Sometimes, I feel like I'm 'flying' in the dark! What is Fulvestrant? I'm on letrozole & Denosumab injections.
When I asked my oncologist to explain the pathological breakdown of my biopsies, he said that I did not need to worry about all that!!
I'm a divorcee & I live on my ownsome...thank goodness for my Mcmillan befriender. I did not find him till the initial blast of chemo. & radio. were over; more's the pity.
My body does not like the heat so I'm finding this heat wave very hard but I've gr8 fans!!
I love my forever garden to pieces and I'm now losing plants...Boo hoo!! (grumpy ol' woman...te, he, he.....)
With all good wishes ,
Thanks girls! Please know that I'm not naive about this. I don't think I could ever go back to thinking it is gone forever. As much as I would love to think that I could never have that trust. I just plan on enjoying it for the moment. Hugs, FF
Hi silver - glad to be of help and I'm happy to share as much as I do, I keep a few things back especially any real identifiers to who I am and my family - hence no photo - ever!
I'm currently on Fulvestrant and Denosumab, both injections (not IV) every 4 weeks. I'm strongly ER and PR positive, and, for now at least HER2-
I can't explain what happens to bone mets - you might need to read up on it as I'd get it wrong. But basically bone is a living part of us, it grows and it dies. Its this mechanism and status quo that cancer disrupts. The bone strengthening treatments are there to do just that - strengthen the bones, but they also stop the cancer from attacking the bones even more. So the damage is still there and therefore there can be weak points, which often cause pain, and therefore the areas affected will show up on CT scans, MRI scans and of course bone scans. My hosptial only uses bone scans for diagnosis so I have only had one back in 2008 when I had one hot spot and one spot on my upper spine. Because the bone mets went on the rampage in 2013 (when I wasnt getting regular scans) I now know they are all over or 'extensive' as my reports say. However they have all been stable since 2013. I know roughly where they are as places such as the ribs are tender to press, so I know they are there!
My CT scan is just the normal one, no extra passes, I believe all soft tissue and bone mets (and node enlargement) will be picked up over a certain size (MRI scans are more accurate and pick up smaller lesions as well) but I dont think they can pick up skin mets but as I dont have them I dont actually know. Our CT scanners at the hosptial I have treatment at are pretty new and hi tech whereas maybe some of the older ones in other hospitals are not so accurate hence the need for other scans?
As to the heat I'm enjoying it when I can but definitely prefer it to be cooler and breezier! A spot of rain (or a downpour) would be nice so I don';t have to keep watering my plants.
ps Even better news from you FF and thanks for sharing. I think my liver 'witch' has also left the room - for a while at least, no sign of her on the recent CT scan despite setting up home there 5 years ago. Obviously the surgical knife got her ha ha. As you have said it all seems a bit unreal when you have had certain mets for years and suddenly they are gone or lying dormant. However I'm well aware 'she' will be back from her holidays at some point! xx
Having a quick dip into the forum but had to post a fantastic WOW to FF!! I think you are an inspiration to many, I'm so happy for your good news, it lifts everyone when this happens! If you can do 13 years and be NED then there is hope for all of us!!
Silver, FFs idea of reporting symptoms so you get a scan....yup, I'd be doing that. As Nicky said, we only have one shot at life and owe it to ourselves to be proactive and well informed. I was too frightened in the early days to do this but it is empowering. I think we have a culture in UK of being so grateful for free treatment that we don't dare question anything! When I started reading the U.S. Inspire website I realised that their patients had much greater knowledge and control over their treatment.......rant over, enjoy the sunshine xx
I can't thank you enough for all your helpful information. I had no idea that bone mets. can be picked up on a CT scan. do they just scan your torso/ more? Which bones of yours' have mets. 10 years in....I take my hat off to you. You sound incredibly upbeat too which is so very heartening.
I did not know that bone mets. harden. Does that mean they have stopped growing?
What meds. are u on; at the mo'?
Your comment about being relatively asymptomatic is the reason 'my' annual scans rattle me. I might well have to be more proactive. 'We' should not have to fight for medical care.It makes it all more challenging & tiresome!
A lil' about me...as concise as poss. 2015 diagnosed initially with stage 4...totally asymptomatic...so a shock. Lymph nodes and both hips.So I'm 3 years plus in.
Your post was an inspiration to me & I thank u most sincerely......how wonderful to have this forum, to communicate......
Are u enjoying our incessant heat wave??
All good wishes,
OK ladies! I'm never sure when to post good news. It always seems just as you are ready to post something positive that others are having a difficult time. In my journey I've had quite a few really rough patches. I don't know what to think of things going on with me and don't want to get to excited. Last week I went for my scan and then the oncologist appointment to be told I was stable. She then told me I had one lymph node in the collar bone area that had enlarged but it might not be from cancer. She also told me that I had more "opacity" in my lungs but that she thought that my cancer might be dead and that it's dead cells. I'm quite in shock and wonder after 13 years how this might happen and if it could. For the first time ever she decided to do tumor markers. She said in the past they were thought to be very unreliable but that opinion is changing. I called to get the results of these. The nurse called me and told me what they were. The CA15.3 is normal under 30. Mine was 10. The CA27.29 is normal under 38. Mine was 23. I did a little reading on markers and you can get a low false reading of the CA15.3 if you are on afinitor (evermolimus) which I am on. I really wish the oncologist would have called and told me what she is now thinking. I'm curious if she will do tumor markers again when I go back in 4 months. She also didn't say anything about stopping treatment. I've decided for the next 4 months to allow myself to enjoy and think the cancer is DEAD or dormant! I'm not crazy, I know it could rise up again. I will continue with treatments to keep it at bay. I've only told my family and all of you. I'm not ready for others to know of the possibility. Ding dong the witch is dead for now! FF
I had bone mets in 2008, no real symptoms other than a very dull ache when I was out jogging. It was a routine/follow up mammogram that found a local recurrence (of my primary) and a subsequent CT showed up the bone mets. 5 years after that (I'd been on hormone treatment after having chemo for the recurrence and bone mets) I again had an ache, this time in my thigh/hip. I put it down to a change in job where I needed to sit still for several hours whereas I had been more mobile before. An Xray showed nothing unusual so I asked for a CT. This picked up more extensive bone mets (hence the ache) and also liver mets. During the time I had been stable my scans had been pushed out from 3 monthly to 6 monthly and eventually yearly as neither my onc at the time or I felt the need to have them more often. Thats why I'd push for a scan sooner than your onc is saying because if I had had a scan sooner my bone mets wouldnt have been so extensive although I would have expected to have got liver mets at some point. My bone mets (as with everyones) don't heal as such, they just schlerose ie harden, so the damage is done and can't be reversed whereas soft tissue mets such as liver can become NED ie No Evidence of Disease.
My biopsies were only carried out because I asked for them as I had learnt from this forum that BC can change receptor status. Mine did seem to change receptor status but the liver lesion that had been biopsied both times (it was the largest and most accessible) was actually quite a mixed bag as I found out after it was recently removed when I had my liver resection. I always referred to it as my 'rogue' lesion and I was absolutely right, it turned out to be triple negative whereas all my other mets are hormone positive, HER2 negative (as my primary and local recurrence both were). I have been pretty asymptomatic the whole 10 or so years I've been living with SBC so I don't quite get it when the oncologists say that the patient will know! Unless he or I have a crystal ball I can't see how that is the case without a detailed scan. I don't have tumour markers done although I do see the sense in them if your particular markers are affected by what your cancer is doing - not everyone's will.
I have only learnt everything I know about SBC from being on this forum and then using the internet if I have to find out more information, none of this has been passed onto me by my oncologist/s or nurses. In fact the other day one of the nurses asked me about something to do with Eribulin! I have also in the past told my oncologist to read this forum - then they really would know how we feel about scan results, side effects, anxiety, depression, fatigue (the list goes on!!!) rather than just go by what they have learnt or been told. Grrrrrrr, rant over. I have also made sure I know everything I possibly can about my current treatment and what will be my most likely next treatment and have challenged my oncologist or sought a second opinion whenever I have not been sure. We all get only one shot at this life so I'm bl**dy well going to make the most of it and not have some medical professional screw it up for me - don't worry that HAS happened and only by me challenging the decision am I here today.
Bet you're sorry you asked now!!! 😉
Take care, I am happy to answer any questions that I have experience of but of course these are only my views or what has hapened in my treatment so it doesn't mean its the same for everyone else.
Silver, I would get another opinion if you can. Also at least at 6 months you could try complaining about symptoms and maybe that would get you a scan. FF
Many thx for your kind, supportive words.
May I ask a bit of your story.....mets. etc.....when they found the 2nd. lot of mets. were you then asynptomatic?
So sorry you've had to have various biopsies. Is it standard procedure to biopsy all new mets.? I'm beginning to realise that I actually know so very little about this chronic disease.
Its lovely to have found this forum for sharing....
FF, great news that you join back in the Stable Mabel club, I think we have both been members before but at times our membership has lapsed 😉, even better if you have more news to share - all in the goodness of time. I’m with you on the neat freak bit, luckily I stamped out any ambitions that hubby might want to be a hoarder when I married him ha ha, so I just have to cope with some things not being put away rather than moving lots of things that would get on my nerves. Spick and span as Mary Poppins would say 😉 I agree also about the genes. I was tested way back in 2008 but didn’t have the BRCA1 or 2 (which is what they thought would be the case) , but I’m sure there will be other genes discovered that will be recognised as a trend at some point in the future. I agreed for my biopsy samples to be stored on our national database for genetics so future generations may benefit from it, particularly my 2 daughters and their offspring.
FtF, good luck with the biopsy, I’ve had 2 on separate occasions so I know what they’re like. They can be uncomfortable (rather than painful) but I’ve had two different experiences one better than the other but each were fine and no pain afterwards, just the boring bit of lying flat for a few hours whilst they make sure everything is OK. Good that you get your results so quickly as well, I had to wait a while for mine on both occasions.
Silver, that’s awful about the lack of a scan, especially when it is obviously worrying you, I’m sure it is down to funding. If your onc won’t budge on it I can’t think of another way around it, maybe someone else can help on here?
Hi to everyone else, hoping that the slight relief from the heat is helping and that treatments are going well with as few SEs as possible.
I saw my oncologist and told him how unsettling just one scan a year would be to me. He would not budge. I'm actually rather upset about all of this. My Macmillan befriender thinks its a funding issue in my trust. But I have to say this.....it is my life.
My artritis is in full flare so feeling very sore....
Good wishes to all...xx
Thanks f the f. From what I've seen in the past for some tumor markers are right on! Others don't benefit by them. It will take more than one time to see if they are a good indicator for me. I didn't give you girls my whole report. There might be more good news, but I'm not ready to share until there is more to back it up.
I also might be checked genetically again. I was checked 13 years ago and did not have the Brac 1 or 2. My daughter was like Yahoo then I probably won't get this. We had a little chat! Me explaining if you l d have been a false negative and that those genes were just discovered in the 90's and maybe there was more genes that weren't discovered yet. If insurance will pay they are going to do it again.
OK, Need to get moving! I have so many things that need done around here. I get exhausted looking at them. I wish I had the energy to do them! I used to be a neat freak! My lack of energy and hubby the hoarder has rubbed on me. I need hubby to go away for a few days!
Good luck with your biopsy. I really don't know how the liver biopsy is. I did have my lung biopsied through my back and it didn't hurt. Hoping it might be similar for you.
Bon, FtF and Silver,
I am careful with my refined sugar. Not bc of it feeding cancer but bc of my diabetes. My diabetes is under control but it is difficult with "E and E" combo. I try to do healthy carbs, but eat a small portion of dessert if it's calling my name!
I do feel each of our bodies and cancer are very unique. What works to control or eliminate one person's cancer might not work for the next. I also think it's going to be a combo of different things for each person. I'm a firm believer that everything is on the planet for a reason. We shouldn't kill off things. It might hold the answer for something.
By the way, I'm Stable Mable again and they stretched my next scan and Dr appt for 4 months instead of 3! Staying on E and E. I've never had tumor markers. My old oncologist and new one both think they are unreliable. My oncologist said there is now newer thinking on how accurate they are. She is going to use them now. Curious about this. Haven't heard my results on them. Will let you all know when I know.
Thank you for your wisdom and good sense. Your story lifts our hearts. We are all different, we don't know what life's lottery is going to bring us and we can only do what feels right for us. It's good to share but we are all our own person.
love to all Bon xx
Thx ever so for sharing. Your 13 years are tres inspiring to us all....
All good wishes,
Carolyn, Yikes another spider story! Thankful I haven had much interaction with any so far this summer. This weekend son picked up a log to put on a camp fire and dropped it back down. He said OK Mr Spider you can have the log, I'll take a different one. Lol son was cringing at it. Sorry, that spider would have been in the fire.
Hi Ladies, I haven't posted in awhile. I've been reading the conversation on diet. I was drastically over weight and have had mets for almost 13 years. Two years ago I decided to make some life style changes. I was tired of being fat. I also new that they couldn't give me enough of the drugs to equal my weight. I felt if I lost the weight I would have a better chance the dose would match my weight. Over the years I don't know how I got so out of control of me. I did lose a lot of weight back in 2012 and then had a mediation change and put almost all of it back on. I tried a medical diet with prepared food that was 800 calories a day and gained weight. I gave up. Two years ago I realized I was staying the same and not gaining. I decided to try again. I have worked hard and lost 140 lbs. I did not cut out sweets or anything. I do tend to stick to the perimenter of the store. I only go up the isles if I need something.I don't go up the cookie isle. I try not to bring sweet things home and enjoy a sweet at somebody else's house or a restaurant. I also made other life style changes. I made one change a week. If I did good with the change then I would add a new change the next week. I went from being able to do "0" sit ups a day to "50" a day. I drank diet coke all the time. I learned to limit it. I did little changes like you must do 2 house hold chores before you go to work. I really found the discipline in other areas of my life helped. I still want to lose 12 more pounds. I've been holding my own since January,but haven't lost. I'm trying not to beat myself up for this and be proud I'm holding. I'm not exercising bc I broke my back in two places and had it pinned and cemented. I'm afraid to exercise since it broke from hic-ups. I went away this weekend and people were totally amazed at me. The compliments and hugs were wonderful.
I think it was the motivation I needed to tweak my diet and discipline a little more to finish.
I truly don't believe sugar and dairy cause cancer or feed it. My belief is we would all be dead if that's the case. I've known several people who had cancer who tried the no sugar no dairy. They didn' t live long at all. I don't have a problem with who does believe it. I feel it's our lives and we have to do what works for us. I do believe lots of us could eat better to fuel our bodies better. I really feel as long as we get good nourishment we will do better. I believe in moderation and finding a balance that works for your body.
Just want to say. I’m not saying it’s any one thing or even necessarily that we can dictate some of the factors involved, and certainly don’t think we should blame ourselves. I think a lot of research now says it is a metabolic disease, where many factors such as stress, infection, as well as insufficient rest and diet etc all come together and play a part in reducing the efficiency of our immune systems that would usually eliminate the cancer cells everyone has within them every day throughout life. I agree people from every walk get cancer, this only strengthens the metabolic side to me.
I couldn’t agree more about personal opinion and debate, in fact that was the purpose of my post...that all opinions should be equally respected.