Oh my, I'm not sure if I should be sad or not about talking about my family and then everyone talking about their worries. I'm sorry if anyone is too upset. Funnyface
Good afternoon all you lovely ladies...have just been catching up with the threads about children and wanted to join the clan. Since my 3rd diagnosis i have pretty much fallen apart. Went for a second opinion on Tuesday which really hit home with my husband. My daughter is my only child and is 23 but there is never an age when they stop being your baby is there? I feel guilty that she has no siblings to share the burden with and gulity because i am not going to be around when she needs me most..wedding, children etc. It breaks my heart so much sometimes i can barely function. I keep trying to tell myself to take each day as it comes, as i tell others, biut i am finding it increasingly hard especially at the moment nothong seems to be keeping this **** in check. sorry to put a downer on things butfind it helps to rant to others who really understand. Hopeyou all have agood weekend.x
I am more worried about leaving my sons (28 and 23) than my husband! And I want to see how their careers develop, whether they marry or not (both have girlfriends who live on other continents), whether they have children .. etc. etc. My parents lived until their late 80s/early 90s so I had always expected that to be the likelihood for me. If there was a heaven, they'd be annoyed that I was meeting them again so soon!
Hi ladies, it is so good to have this forum for us ladies to spill out our worries, emotions and fear.
I have never spoke to my husband or children about the D word, its not that we are walking on egg shells around it or or buying or heads in the sand but I chose to deal with this disease on a day to day basis.
Come on lovely ladies the sun is shining we are here, life is for living and I am going to do my damn best to enjoy it and not let this ugly, cruel disease rule my life!
Hope I have not offended anyone with my post, just want us all to be happy 🙂
Hugs Janette xxxxxxx
ditto Janette, my babies are 26 and 23 too . I am just unable to think about it. I hold on to the fact that they are the best thing that happened to me . Marie xxx
Hi Helen thanks for the advice I am on ee and I know this effects liver and i did have hepatitis years ago but onc didn't really take any noticeof that although it is mentioned in the se. I think i will ring my breast nurse today.. a good idea thanks. I know my oh will be fine but it would just be great for him to have something nice for a change, he is looking after his 88 yr old Mum and 79 year old Auntie and me so many hosp trips lately! Reading how you feel about your son I can sympathise, my daughter rings me at least twice a day , used to be three! We are close but I have a dear Sister she is close to and lives near, It is a great comfort to me knowing they help eachother and she will be there when I'm not ....anyway thinking too far ahead should be taking each day at a time right?
Hi everyone, sorry can't seem to get to the treatment thread not sure if this is where this question should be . but feeling lousy at the moment and need a bit of advice. I am feeling sick and exhausted, with high temp. onc said my liver function was not quite right after latest blood test and has cut the dose of my pills. I guess this is why I feel like this but I am supposed to be going on holiday in a week's time , typical! Anyone had this? Stopped my pills for a few days any idea if I will improve soon? My oh is so looking forward to the holiday , sorry to complain as I know lots of you have a lot worse. My oh is so wonderful to me I really don't want to spoil his holiday .
Natalie, lol not me getting married .......my daughter......Ive been married 33 years! I'm going for fitting for my dress and her gown! Wedding is Aug 29th. She was 9 when I was dx with bc...and was 19 when I was dx with mets. She is 29 now. I never thought I would get to see her get married. My 20 year m ark for bc will be in Oct. and 10 years for mets in Nov. My next goal is to see a grandchild. She wants to get pregnant next summer so grandchild I hopefully abiut 2 years away. Just hoping I can make that. I have 2 sons but one isn't in a relationship. Seems he wants to stay single. The other one is living with gf, they don't want to get married or have kids. I laugh at them not wanting to get married. He always wanted to get married before, but he always goes with what the girl says!! Funny thing is she told me that she never had the desire to get married and is OK not getting married, but would say yes if he asked. Says I raised the perfect man for her. I'm quite happy with that! Funnyface
Good morning Ladies,
Helen , how are you ? I have my Hattie Jacques' matron uniform pressed and ready to go for a visit. Please tell your onc if he doesn't sort it out I will give him an ice cold bed bath !
I will check on you later.
Funnyface, I didn't know you are getting married, when is the big day??? How exciting for you!! : - )
Trick a, welcome to the forum, sorry you have had to join us though, as Helen has said unfortunately there is no cure for secondaries but there is a whole lot of treatment out there and it can be managed for many years, sorry you are having to wait for answers......Unfortunately this is something we secondary ladies have to put up with ie waiting for scans, results and appts. Hope you get some answers soon and they get you on a treatment plan.
Hugs to all Janette xxxx
Hello lovely ladies can i hang out with you on the bone mets threads
I have stage 3 HER2 pos bc and i have had a lumpectomy and full node clearance removing 18 positive nodes. Been told i need a further op to achieve a clear margin. Clear bone scan
Today however was told CT scan not clear and secondaries and got to wait for bc consultant to have a multi disciplinary meeting Monday to discuss me. So they left me not knowing where the spread is which is a terrble place to be.
I just want to know whether they can treat it or control it
Looking for friendship on here from others going through the same
Helen ...Gosh I wish they would get your pain sorted!!!I don't know how you are able to handle it.
Kate....sorry to hear about your MIL....it's nit ea s letting go!
Belinda...I've .been really busy at work and with some family things. First fitting for my dress and her gown this Sunday. I'm ok but not my best. Neulasta took its toll on me this time. Very SOB on it, fluid retention, and bone pain, and sore throat. I wanted to throw in the towel!
Trying to pull myself together! Funnyface