Hi troopie, i had the exact same problem with my partner when she was diagnosed. I always felt I wasn't helping in any way shape or form. It's been a year since diagnosis and she has praised me for simply being there for her. It's hard how to react in certain situations but as long as you're there to listen to her that is the main thing. It can be really hard for partners of those who are going through this and it's important to speak about it to others. That was my mistake, it eats you up inside. Don't feel that you can't open up about it if it's not you with the disease. Speak to someone, it helps I promise. If you want to speak to me about it I would be more than happy as it would help me too.
my wife has been diagnised with cancer in both breasts g1 and g2 having wire fitted and just got letter op is next friday
we have three kids , i dont know how to react or help as if im still in limbo