I am so pleased that Marg is home and bossing you around again , but make sure you take some time for yourself as well. You are right this site is wonderful that we can all help one another through a tough time. Marg is a tough cookie like you know so keep wearing your Big Boy pants you are doing a great job !!
Hope you have a good weekend. Take care Love Tracy xxx
She is home now and got me running round after her (couldn't be happier) again thanks all you wonderful caring ladies.
I'm glad your mammogram went well Katie, I've just had my second appointment today. I saw the same nurse who did my original examination before DX. She felt all along my scar, beneath my arm, all over the good breast and beneath that arm, then up the lymph glands in my chest/neck area. Smiled, said there's nothing there. See you next year. So I'm well chuffed with that.
Also waiting for her first annual check was the young girl who had her surgery the same day as I did. She looked fabulous. We wished each other well and are having our next year's appointment on the same day and time.
Kevin, I'm so glad to hear that Marg is doing well after her surgery, I hope that situation continues until she is really well and back to normal.
Thanks you she was having obs every 15 mins last night today it is 4 hours, so she will be able to get some sleep she has been looked after brilliantly, hopefully home tomorrow maybe Thursday again I thank all you very special ladies from the bottom of my heart the support on this site is nothing short of fantastic.
So pleased all went well, as you say it is a long op but Marg sounds like a real trouper. You take good care of yourself and she'll be home pretty soon...love Marg's big boy pants comment (never heard that before).
Take Care Gilly x
Thank you so much Ladies just got back from visiting been a very long day,over seven hour op, but as normal she was more bothered about how I and our Sally was.She is being checked every fifteen minutes and she is not impressed with that,her consultant has spoken with her,and wants her out of hospital by Wednesday (which is great)I love this site you Ladies are very very special people thanks for reading and replying to a very frightened man today, your comments made such a difference.Now can anyone tell me what I do with this box everytime i press it the television turns over,I have never been allowed to use it before,
Thinking of you both Kevin and sending Marg healing thoughts. I am also sending you strength to cope and put a big smile on your face exactly like your wife wants you to. Take good care of yourself . Love Tracy x
Thank you Gilly,she is having the op at 9am first one in, which is good,the hospital she is at wont let partners stay with them so had to drop her off at 7.30 fingers crossed now,but as she said to me 'put your big boy pants on'and get to work.I will ring the helpline later i think, it is all about her now got to stop feeling sorry for myself and put them pants on..
I hope everything goes well with your partner's operation today and as has been suggested, please do give the helpline here a ring, they're here to support you as well through all this. Lines open at 9am this morning until 5pm (weekdays and Sat 10-2) calls are free from landlines and most mobiles.
Also, I don't know if you've seen our publication 'In it together', it's aimed at partners so you might find it helpful, I've put you the link below.
Hello there Kevin
I have followed a number of posts from you on different threads and this is the first one where you have talked about yourself, all the others have been you offering sound advice and opinion from a different perspective which is much appreciated.
Sorry that i can't discuss the type of surgery your girl is having, i have got tissue expander which will be replaced with permanent silicone later this year, around the time of my One year Mammogram.... but I will be thinking of you both tomorrow as she goes for her surgery. As Poemsgalore said in one of her replies we can sometimes forget how it is for the family. Fortunately i have a MIL and SIL who remind me regularly how difficult, and inconvenient all this Breast Cancer Business is for my Husband. I've been married to that gorgeous guy for 27 years and reckon i know just what bothers him and what doesn't........ He's been an absolute treasure, he thinks i would have done just the same for him !!!! I'm not sure i would have been so patient. He did say that this is the only time where he has felt such frustration and distress at being so helpless. The whole thing has been a learning curve for us and in the middle of some pretty cr**py weeks we've had some good laughs.
Hope you can focus on work this week to occupy your mind, don't get used to having the remote control as she'll be home before you know it.......... Take Care Gilly x
Well she will be going in for her operation tomorrow has to be there at 7.30 but not sure when exactly the operation will start,really trying to appear calm but inside i don't think i have ever felt so low,sadly yesterday i had to take our little fella (cat)to the vets and sadly he is no longer with us he was only 4,I don't even really like cats more of a dog person but he was a little cracker from a rescue home ,people say 'he was a cat' i know he was but he brought a lot of joy,to have to tell marg the news was heart breaking as she really loved him,and it seems so unfair for it to happen,just before she is having surgery,I have searched and searched for statictics etc on a LD flap and I am fully aware it is a very safe operation,but it is my girl and I can't put into words how much she means to me and all our family,she is probably the most loved person i have ever met and she has certainly made me a much better person,sorry for rambling but i find putting my thought down on here really helps,sorry for being such a soppy sod.
PS if anyone has had this procedure and can reassure me i would be eternally grateful.
Thank you Poems I do try but, I think I can be a bit of a pain constantly asking if she is OK, I have no idea what I am going to do on Monday, they tell me the op will be between 4/6 hours, I will probably try to go to work but what work they get out of me will be pretty useless. I hate the thought that people might think, I am all about how I feel, that couldn't be further from the truth, if I could swop places with her I would do it in a heartbeat, I met her 1when she was 19 I was 26 and married her when she was 20 thirty years ago this year,when you know you know.
I read on another thread that you wrote another set of ladies will be starting a new group in February, I thought how sad that was that new ladies will have to go through this horrible time, Marg was in the February 2012 group (well I posted on her behalf) and I know you were in the February 2013 group it is so sad there has to be anymore groups at all, but it just seems the February ones hit home harder, I seem to have derailed this thread so sorry.
Sending hugs and best wishes for you and your wife as her surgery date approaches. As for you not knowing anything, I think you must have a unique insight into all of our treatments through watching your wife go through all this. We sometimes are a little too much involved and don't realise the impact on our partners/family. I'm sure she will cope admirably with your steadfast support.
Ah bless you Kevin, your wife will be fine as she has a good hubby to look after her. I had immediate reconstruction with a tissue expander in place and it all went okay. Lotsof love and healing thoughts to you both. May 2014 be a good one for you x love Tracy xxx
I have posted on this site for two years now, (not very often) as I feel sometimes people might think 'What do you know' but I have watched my girl have to go through all the treatment and I feel I do have an insight into the journey ladies have to take (if only through their Partners eyes) Marg has her reconstruction surgery on the 20th January, she is her normal philosophical self, whilst I am a bag of nerves’ I hope everything goes well for you.
My wife had her mamogram on the second of January they toldgher ring up in a week (we will have your results),she did today and everything was fine (thank god) don't wait for them to get in touch with you give your BCN a ring they will have the results within a week.Why should you wait and worry.
Oh dear Poemsgalore sorry to hear you are still itching. I hope you manage to find something that will help and as you say usually it would be Letrazole on the assumption you are post menopausal at 62 years young. To be honest i've got a bit of night sweats (worse if i have even one glass of wine) and some joint pain but compared to some of the other ladies i reckon i'm doing ok with the side effects from Tamoxifen. I haven't heard of fibrosis but i will look now what it is. Again i got a bit of pink skin with the rads but compared to some ladies I reckon I did OK.
Take Care Gilly x
Oh dear Katy, so sorry to hear you have fibrosis of the lung. This is why I refused rads as I have a serious lung condition already and my onco was unhappy about me having them. My risk of recurrence is less than 20% in my chest, and 50% in my lymph nodes for which I can have a clearance. So I'm taking my chances with hormone treatment. As my cancer was 100% ER positive and 75% PR positive, I can't get away without the tablets.
Gilly, I'm fine with Tamoxifen. I stopped Anastrazole because of itching - but I'm embarassed to say it wasn't the Anastrazole at all as I'm still itching. I've ruled out everything, and now think it must be a fungal skin thingy, so will look at treatment for that. My immune system is always low, has been since before chemo because of RA drugs!! I've had no side effects at all from Tammy, but might request to go back on Anastrazole next time I see my onco in March, because at 62 I feel that will be better for me.
Thinking about you as you wait for Mammogram...As you say our minds play tricks on us....I'm afraid my mind is so active... If i could just harness that activity and use it Positively..... I do try..
I have found my immune system is really low even though i finished Chemo in February 2013 even a tiny cut on my hand taking weeks to heal. GP says it will take time to get back to normal and you are right to seek reassurance Katy.
BC nurses must be tired of me keep ringing..Sorry Ladies but i have to do it...
Poemsgalore. I know you have an appt in January to have surgery site checked but how are you doing in the Tamoxifen, you've been on them a few weeks now i think...Hope it's going OK. Giily x
Hi Katy, I had my mammogram in December. I wasn't too worried as I only have my 'healthy' breast left to put in the boob squasher, but was still relieved to be told there was no evidence of disease. I have to go back later this month to have my MX side checked over - now that really scares me!! Good luck for your mammogram, hoping it will be clear.