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Am I the only 1 that can't say the c word

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Nesslay
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Re: Am I the only 1 that can't say the c word

Thank you .
Tra16
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Re: Am I the only 1 that can't say the c word

Hi Nesslay

I was diagnosed in March and also found it a big shock as no family history, healthy lifestyle and was only 40. It is such a shock and u been dropped from such a height with the news, but all I can say is things do get better - as so many ladies told me back in march when I posted a similar post to you. I've now had a masectomy and am half way through chemo . And I have days where I'm tired but it's all manageable (just as well as I have a 3 yr old and 6 yr old). But mainly you need time to digest the info but it does all move quite quickly so just take a day at a time and know all the ladies on here understand what you are going through and are here for you x
Jill1998
Community Champion

Re: Am I the only 1 that can't say the c word

Animals are a great comfort,a few of us have been saying that our dogs have been taking advantage of us being a bit needy at the moment and have managed to sneak onto the bed etc when they wouldnt previously have been allowed,None of the dogs appear to have been any help in diagnosing cancer however, Flynn must be a bit more on the ball...
Nesslay
Member

Re: Am I the only 1 that can't say the c word

Have just sat down and have been filling in paper work for pre opp ect
Just can't believe how quick every thing is going , glad it is but I can't seem to think of anything else .
My horse Flynn is my world he is my me time from all things that are going on .
He does no what's going on we have such a close bond .
People may not believe it .
He knew before I did cause he kept putting his nose there .
I believe if it wasn't for him , I would be in a worse place than I am now .
Well all I can say really is best foot forward .
Bring it on cause ness will overcome
Jill1998
Community Champion

Re: Am I the only 1 that can't say the c word

They will have given you the number of a Brest cancer nurse when you were diagnosed, they are always happy to talk to you about anything you have been told as it is difficult to take everything in at appointments when you are very anxious or upset.Hope you are feeling a bit calmer first couple of weeks are a bit of a blurr....
Nesslay
Member

Re: Am I the only 1 that can't say the c word

Thank you Jill1998 and Jennifed
Appreciate your replys .
Jill1998
Community Champion

Re: Am I the only 1 that can't say the c word

Hi Nesslay,when you are first diagnosed it sends you into shock you can't imagine how you will cope with everything ,information overload is a big factor you just can't take everything in.The treatment involved will not necessarily mean you can't look after your horse apart from like Jennifer says just after you have surgery ,they encourage you to be up and active ASAP.You will feel more calm and in control soon.there are a lot of recently diagnosed women talking on the the thread "just diagnosed and wanting to talk to people who understand" we have all be where you are, it will get better ,you can cope with this with help and support.I am guessing there may well be help to be had with your horse if you look into it also.Keep on touch. jill
Jennifed
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Re: Am I the only 1 that can't say the c word

Dear Nesslay - it's such a shock isn't it? I couldn't believe it when they told me either and your feelings are the same as we all had on being told. I've never smoked, I'm fit,not over weight, otherwise healthy and it isn't in the family so I really can't understand why me. My surgeon said unless you are in the very small group that has the gene - breast cancer is entirely random - so it's nothing you did or didn't do. There is a thread " recently diagnosed". Which has lots of other ladies in the same boat all chatting and trying to support each other - go on that and you will get lots of support and help. I do hope you can find someone to help with the horse, although you will be able to carry on looking after him except when you have surgery. Let me know how you get on. Sending you hugs and positive thoughts. Jennifer
Lucy_BCC
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Re: Am I the only 1 that can't say the c word

Hi Nesslay

Welcome to the BCC forums where I am sure you will find support to help you through this difficult time. Our helpliners are also on hand with practical and emotional support for you on 0808 800 6000 so please feel free to call and talk things through, lines open 10-2 today and 9-5 weekdays

I am posting a link to the BCC just diagnosed information and support which I hope you will find helpful:

https://www.breastcancercare.org.uk/diagnosis

Take care
Lucy BCC

Nesslay
Member

Am I the only 1 that can't say the c word

I was just diagnosed as having stage 3 yesterday and every thing is going so quickly .
My head is spinning chemo before opp or before ?
I've been told I'm going to need help with my horse which is mortifying me because he needs me .
Sorry I'm rambling but I don't no where to go with all the information I have been given ,
I don't understand . Why me