Thanks Bonnie74. I don't have children, but have 3 horses! Start chemo now on friday - all the waiting is most frustrating. Seems weird to be looking forward to chemo but I just need to start this battle now. Nice to heard from someone almost out the other side! xxx
Glad to have found this post as was worrying as to why they were sayig chemo first to me! So thank you 🙂 I'm 44 and was diagnosed with grade 3 invasive ductal carcinoma with lymph node involvement. Saw my oncologist today and start chemo next week. Am not allowed to work through chemo as am a veterinary nurse so am feeling abit like my identity has been taken over by cancer- booooo. Anyhow it is fab to hear from others a similar age and with similar stories so thanks again xxx
Bonnie
Forgot to ask. How was it for you in hospital? How are you now? I've been told I'll be in from Fri to Mon. Having pre op checks this week. What do they do?
Hi Bonnie. The throat and neck aches started on and off from day 2 of the treatment although an ultrasound and biopsy of my neck was negative of any spread but I still worry.
Also saw my GP about it last week who seems sure that it's an effect of treatment but I am also now having really bad toothache and sore gums which is being treated with antibiotics - another side effect along with a broken crown! The sensation in my feet are nearly back to normal but my fingers are still at about 50pc. Took about two minutes to adjust the button in my son's school trousers because I couldn't feel it.
I have my op in two weeks. Surgeon tried to push it 8 weeks post chemo but I wasn't happy so now its 6 weeks. I went into the office
today for two team meetings for the first time in four months as I've been working at home. Was really hard seeing some people as we're in a large open plan floor but made sure I had the make up on! We also went out to lunch but I'm still avoiding my beloved smoked salmon. Being careful not to pick up any stomach upsets before the op.
Tomorrow I'm off to buy some front opening pjs. Got the bras.
Hi Pumpkin
Interesting that you mention throat and neck aches! I had that too. I just put it down to my Hickman line. I'm six weeks since last chemo now and I haven't experienced anything too lingering, just a few headaches and fatigue on and off. Hard to tell though, when you have surgery afterwards, as feeling tired and sore from that. I'm guessing you would have had your op by now? How are you? X
Hiya
Yes, I agree with you about telling the children, just the worst. Mine too continue to be brave and happy, thankfully. I had wide local excision and full lymph clearance. That was sixteen days ago but unfortunately I had to go back in Friday as my results showed that there wasn't a clear margin reached. I'm a bit sore still but cracking on with my exercises and hoping it'll ease soon. Still popping the painkillers. How are getting on? Take care X
Hi Bonnie
I finished FECT 3rd Feb and will be having a single MX in three weeks. Apart from the hands and feet issue and throat and neck aches, I found T easier than the FEC. However I wondered if you still have any side affects note after chemo?
Hi Coxleonie
I finished 6XFEC-T in January (started in Sept and just had surgery ten days ago) and I too work in a school and haven't been to work because of the germ thing. You're right, very frustrating and I have found it quite a challenge not to be in work because of the boredom. I found the FEC not too bad but struggled a bit with the T part. I know lots of ladies on here the other way round so all depends on each individual I guess. The important thing for me to say though, is although some of the side effects can be unpleasant, it's doable. I actually reacted slightly differently to each cycle too. As regards to how careful you should be with germs, I made every visitor to the house anti-bac their hands on entering, my children too when they came home from school and tried to stay away from anyone with any bad colds etc. You're right though, it can make you a little obsessed with germs! Wishing you lots of luck with the rest of chemo, take care and let me know how you are getting on. Bonnie x
Hi Debbie
You question away, I really don't mind. I remember at the beginning of chemo I had so many of them and so many worries about how I was going to feel, how my family was going to cope etc. My girls are a bit older than yours (13 & 9) but sometimes think that may be more difficult because they tend to understand a lot more, questions things a lot more then worry more! Having said that they've both been brilliant and I'm hoping that nothing has worried them too much and they both seem to talk to me about worries as they come. My nine year old wasn't comfortable with me loosing my hair at first but now doesn't think about it much. Looking back over the last few cycles, as a family, we've coped well with a little bit of help here and there from friends and family. I found it quite hard at first to give up control, if you know what I mean (I like to do everything myself!) but I've pretty much managed to be in control all the way through. Yes, I've had days where I feel I can't move my head off the pillow, one overnight stay in hospital and a few really yucky feeling days but I've still been normal Mummy everyday, just bald! I didn't have an MRI half way through no, just clinical examinations. However, I wasn't worried too much as I could feel myself the difference just by feeling and so could they. I had an ultrasound last Tuesday which confirmed my lump has shrunk from 12mm to 4mm and no lymph nodes now enlarged! I'm having wide local incision and full clearance (as before chemo there was lymph node involvement). If you'd like to private message me you're more than welcome. My email is bonclarkson@aol.com. Take care and let me know when your next chemo is. Are you having FEC then T? Love Bonnie xx
Hi there Debbie
I am having my last chemo on Wednesday of next week and have my surgery either on Friday 5th or 12th Feb. Just waiting to hear this coming week. My surgeon said as long as I am well and my bloods ok, it would be three to four weeks after my last one. Interesting question about pain in the tumour! I haven't felt much, although after my third FEC I did keep having a kind of shooting pain where my lump was. Not sure whether this was the chemo attacking it or not, but may have been as I've had a good response. I found the FEC ok but have struggled on the Tax. I know all ladies are different and a lot of ladies say the other way round. I hope you are not suffering with side effects too much. Take care, Bonnie x
Hi Turnercat, that's great news about shrinkage and that you are so near the end. I have number five on Weds, 23rd unfortunately but have the last one on 13th Jan firmly on my horizon! I had a horrible time on first Tax which got me admitted to hospital and I ended up neutropenic. I'm so keeping everything crossed it doesn't happen this time round as, for my kids, I don't want to be in hospital over Xmas. I have an appointment early Jan to discuss surgery for Feb. I too can't feel my lump at all now but would love a scan just to see. Maybe I'll ask tomorrow when I see oncologists? Any tips on how to manage 2nd Tax? I'm so scared of feeling that poorly again, I feel like running away! Lol Love Bonnie xx
As my BC was inflammatory I had an extensive rash and thickened skin over about 50% of breast and I could see it spreading.
After only 2 sessions of Taxotare, Herceptin and Perjeta it had shrunk dramatically. I found this so reassuring and biopsy after surgery confirmed excellent results with only 2mm tumour found.
It is scary having to put such faith in the treatment. Good luck ladies Marli x
Hi Jane
Thank you for replying. I'm presuming by your user name you may be around the same age as me too? I got my diagnosis on 3rd Sept and like you waited a few weeks (filled with appointments and tears) before any treatment started. Because of lymph node involvement it was recommended that i have the chemo first. I had no idea at the time whether having the chemo first was the right decision or not? All my other scans showed up clear so i know, right now it hasn't spread so guess that way round is a better idea? What was the reason why you are having chemo first? I'm wishing you all the luck with your first cycle. How are you feeling about it? Your major worries?
Take care and lovely to hear from you, Bonnie x
Hi there lovely ladies
Was just browsing on the forum and this thread from Clare caught my eye. I'm a mum of two and 41. I too am having chemo first and had my 2nd cycle last Wed. So far I only know I have Grade 2, 1.2mm invasive ductal with lymph node involvement, oestrogen positive, er neg. My scans have come back clear and the surgeon recommended chemo first to treat the whole body first, before surgery. Sometimes, this worries me as I'm always aware of the the lump still there, maybe growing, maybe not? My oncologist informed me last meeting that I may not get a check to see if chemo has worked until the end of chemo. What's others experience of this? I had a marker put in my breast prior to chemo for the reason of checking progress I thought? I worry everyday that the chemo isn't working and things inside of me getting worse! Hoping you are all coping well with side effects. Bonnie