I am sure it is our imaginations running away with us. I was told that my ultrasound looked clear but they can't guarantee anything until they have done the op.
Have a glass of wine with your friends, might help you sleep. If you are like me, I am awake most of the night fretting.
Best of luck for Monday
Not too worried about the GA as i had to have a caesarion with my first child - just felt nauseous afterwards. More worried about pains around my collar bone and now think i have a lump in my armpit although its right at the top. So scared its got into the lymph nodes but nothing showed up on my ultrasound. Still hoping its down to bruising from the biopsy and stress.
Going round my mates house in a minute with a few other friends but worried i'm going to be a bit of a mess tonight.
Must pull myself together and get on with fighting this horrible little lump!
At least we can have it all done on the one day. I am having the injection done at 8.45 for the dye, the wire inserted at 9.15 and op booked for late morning. I will certainly be glad to get the day out of the way. I am 53 and never had a GA before. Scared stiff!!!!
Will definitely let you know how things go on Monday. Its going to be a busy day for me. Have to be at the RBH 9:15 for dye and wire, then up at Nuffield to have further mammo/ultrasound before op in the afternoon. Like you, scared of what else they might find and any further spread. Will find out more next week - eek!!
Coffee sounds a great idea. Maybe once I have my surgery on 30th I could tag along. My hubby has the next two weeks off on holiday, we are just going out for days. Glad I didn't have a proper holiday booked, I wouldn't have been able to enjoy it. Thanks again for your support.
Let me know how your surgery goes on Monday. You are a little bit ahead of me. I am worrying myself to death also about what they will find. I have IDC but small, 10mm. Since being diagnosed I have every ache and pain under the sun. My imagination is running riot.
Best of luck
I've recently been diagnosed with BC (last Thursday) at the Royal Bournmouth hospital. I live in the Christchurch area and going through the emotional roller coaster and feeling scared like everyone else. Don't know an awful lot about the cancer yet except that its about 1cm and hormone receptive. I have my op booked for Monday 15th August and worried what else they might find. Just looking for some general support, especially in the local area. Although i have to say friends and family have been fantastic so far.
The waiting is the worse part but you will honestly feel so much better once you have a treatment plan in place.
A cpl of us meet now & again for coffee so if you fancy joining (after or before your surgery) you will be more than welcome.
So sorry about your mum, i know try not to worry seems a ridiculous thing to say but you will start to feel better once treatment gets going, in the meantime the ladies (& men) on here are fab & a brilliant source of support.
Hi Sarah, thanks for getting back to me. It is all a bit of a blur at the moment. I am so nervous about what they will find when they do my op. Everyone says you will be fine but i wasn't fine when everyone said that after I was recalled for my mammogram. I know I will have to have treatment but just not knowing what sort, is so scary. I feel such a whimp after seeing what other women on here have gone through but I have only just lost my mother to cancer 9 weeks ago so it is all a bit raw. I am sure I will be fine once I start treatment, it is just this waiting game that gets to you and imagining all sorts of things.
Thanks again Sarah x
I had Rads at Poole ( just finished) but there are a cpl of others on here still having treatment there that should be along soon to say hi.
I had Wle & Snb so if you have any questions feel free to message me, i followed this with 6 lots of chemo & 20 Rads & am now on Tamoxifen for 5 yrs.
Hi all, nice to see there are localites here (although I would rather you not be here). I was newly diagnosed 5th August and just getting to find me feet on this great site. So informative. I haven't quite got my head around having BC, just went for a routine mammogram and a lump was discovered. After two biopsies, the first was inconclusive I am now booked into have my op on 30th August. I am having the wire thing done to guide the surgeon to the area and also SLNB. Just praying everything will be ok. I am having this treatment at Poole Hospital anyone else having treatment there?
hi all, i'm in bournemouth and just been diagnosed with invasive breast cancer! what a blow its been 😞 got op on 13th may for removal of lump and some nodes. still finding it all abit surreal at mo as only been 4 days since i found out. would love to make some friends on here and share experiences with people that understand.
Hope you are doing ok ?
i found out yesterday that there will be a slight delay before starting radiotherapy as am now going to need chemo, results yesterday not quite as i had hoped/prayed for but hey ho onwards & upwards but will let you know as soon as i have my plan as Macmillan thing does sound good.
Hi Sarah, how did you get on today? Hope it was a 'good' meeting, if that's possible with an oncologist!
Mine went ok, bloods were all fine, so second dose of FEC tomorrow. I asked if I could delay 5th chemo as it fell on Crufts, and my onc. said 'no problem at all' - they will do it the following Mon or Tues instead, so that was good news 🙂
Looks like rads are very probable for me - we went through my path. report together, and the clear margin from mx (what they refer to as the deep margin) was only 0.9mm, and onc. said she would hope for 2mm minimum. I said I'd rather have too much treatment than not enough, if there was doubt, so she's going to phone Southampton radiology and discuss it with them. She did say oncs. do tend to differ in opinion over how much is enough, but she'd rather err on the side of caution.
That's my news!! May bump into you down there at some point, then!
I hope today went well Sarah, been thinking off you ❤️ x,
As it looks like we'll all be @ Soton General at roughly the same time, macmillan unit do a day programme in conjunction with the Looking good, Feeling Better people so maybe we could all get on that together?? From what I've heard sounds v good.
Just seen you put Thursday, same day for me.
cheers for info, really appreciate it,again had just assumed every hospital did radiotherapy so was surprised when they said Bournemouth didnt & they told me to choose between Poole & Southampton so am assuming they mean general, cant go to poole, too many personal bad memories 😞
When do you next see onc ?
Should prob. add.. eldest kids are now 16 and 15 so P.A is prob. brilliant now, but was horribly understaffed back then..
Sarah - if you're having a baby.. Princess Ann.. if you're having rads/chemo etc ... try the General. It's only across the road, but you will prob. get better bc treatment there....
Had my first two kids in the Princess Ann, wouldn't be going back there in a hurry.. horrendously understaffed, terrible labours/delivery and horrible stay in hospital. General, on other hand, looked after my eldest daughter beautifully through years of bladder investigations/ops.. couldn't fault them. You'll be in safe hands.
If I have to have rads - Salisbury don't do them, so I'll be down Southampton way then! I should find out from onc. on Thursday if I'll be needing the rads or not - bit of a dispute over the path report last time we chatted, hopefully she's figured it out by now.
am so glad all went as well as can be, I hope you are feeling ok & not too sore/tired.
Am looking forward to Thursday so as to be able to get whatever next stage may be started, are Southampton General & the Princess Anne 2 different hospitals ( am guessing that i am being really thick & have just answered my own question) as not sure which one i will be referred to for Radiotherapy.
Your New years eve was much the same as my Xmas Eve, still at least we have dealt with first step now.
I've had op and now got appt on Fri 7th for results/ next steps, so we could be sharing Southampton general between us - I promise not to fight over it!
I now have a lovely crop top that's currently keeping me "altogether" and discovered that 95% of my wardrobe doesn't fit me, which was rather disheartening 'til I thought about retail theraphy, which given my current dislike of Booze and Choccy is my only printable vice!
Plus a friend, who's been before me, has said they have a v. good Macmillan drop-in / coffee shop there 🙂
I'll be thinking of you on Thursday
Love & Sideways Hugs
have sent you a private message.
I had my Op at Bournemouth but will be having rest of treatment at Southampton although not sure until i receive results on the 6Th Jan what that will be.
I live in the New Forest area so not far at all from Winchester, am not too bad after surgery more emotionally hurt that physically if you know what I mean.
I will try & find inbetweeners thread for you & send a link, its a brill thread, I hope you are feeling not too bad & am so sorry that you too have found yourself on this Journey, it is the beginning for me but I have already found friendship & great support in what had started to feel like a lonely part of my world & none of it feels quite so scary or lonely anymore so i hope you too find comfort & friendship.
021210 - I hope your op has gone well and you are OK.
I'm from Bournemouth originally and now live just outside Winchester. My surgery is happening in Winchester and post op therapy will happen at Soton.
I was suprised to be diagnosed as young at 50 and have yet to find "The Inbetweeners" thread - anyone got a map please?
My surgery is on 30 Dec.
Take care all of you
I think you're only as old as you feel which in my case can range from about 25 to 75 depending on the day. I'm almost 52 and I forget that most of the time. I still think and feel like I used to, despite the damage of surgery. I guess working with teenagers helps. Yes, I agree that the Inbetweeners thread was needed as that's exactly what some of us are.
Luckily, no we haven't had much snow here and it has all gone now thank goodness. Not very warm though!! How about where you are?
Hope you too are keeping well. Have a lovely Xmas and let's hope that 2011 brings better things.
have to say that i do find all this younger stuff a tad confusing, havent been referred to as young for a while & when i read stuff like on the inbetweeners thread I can identify with many on there.
Hope you are well & havent had too much snow 🙂 Sarah. xxxxxx
Unfortunately no I won't be going to the Bournemouth Forum, not least because I am too old! EEk!! Sounds so horrible. I'm on the 'inbetweeners'thread, one of those that don't fit into the younger or the older categories.
And you are right, this was one club I seriously never wanted to join.
welcome Val and Ellie to the club nobody wants to join. Will you both be going to the younger womans forum in Bournemouth in January?
Hi Allie & Val,
I am from New Milton ( quite close to Beaulieu) & was Dx 2 weeks ago 😞
I am originally from the Bournemouth area but have recently moved back having been away for last 20 yrs or so.
Am finding this forum a life saver as my intention after moving back was to get out & meet people but instead it seems that my social life will be based around the Royal Bournemouth Hospital for the next few months.
I was due to be on holiday in Gran Canaria for Xmas, should of flown on Tuesday but have swapped that for my Xmas eve Op, am hoping the hospital do All inclusive,lol, never mind, something to look forward to next year when all this is out of the way & I can pick myself up, dust myself off & get going on all the plans, hopes & dreams that I wanted this move to bring to myself & my family.
Anyway onwards & upwards as they say, are either of you attending the Bournemouth Forum in January ? I have just sent forms back so fingers crossed as am looking forward to meeting people in similar circumstances etc.
I've lived in the New Forest (close to Beaulieu) for 12 years now, although originally from Gosport. Dx in Oct 2009 was done in Southampton but surgery Feb 2010, done in Salisbury so I've been trying out all the hospitals! Still don't really feel like a local yet though.
I'm Allie and from Bournemouth.Diagnosed end November and still finding my feet with everything to do with the 'Pink Teeshirt Club' but a local yokel (for twenty years at any rate)to the Sunny South - so, a couple of us it seems ! 😉
Hi Lost in France,
i bet we do know some same people as is such a small world :)xx
have sent you a PM.xx
hiya, im in bournemouth!!! moved here from canada a number of years ago and LOVE IT! would love to chat with another local!! ha ha
Oh....bet we know someone in common then!!!!! I'm half way through FEC-T chemo...but still smiling through gritted teeth!!
Hi Lost in France,
I hope you are well, I too am originally from Dorset & then moved away & spent a number of years in Devon where the majority of my friends are, however have now moved to Hampshire (New Forest) not far from where I was brought up in Bournemouth. Sarah.xx
I'm from Dorset but now live in Somerset....but any excuse...!
Hiya - I'm just the far side of Salisbury, near Amesbury, so not a million miles away xx
Is anyone from Bournemouth, Southampton even Salisbury area ?
I have recently moved to this area & was Dx on Thursday & do not really know anyone so am hoping to find people for friendship & support.