Hope I can provide some reassurance, hair loss is so traumatic and not vain at all. I've used Paxman cold cap.
I've had 3 cycles of FEC and pleased to report I still have quite a lot of hair. Put it this way, I haven't bothered to collect my wig yet! My hair was very thick, shoulder length with heavy fringe, and I loved it. About two weeks after first FEC it starting coming out quite heavily, and scalp itched. So, I took the plunge and got a pixie cut. It was a big deal for me, but made the hair loss more bearable (I was constantly vacuuming hairs and wore a hat in bed as I was losing so much overnight) and I thought would ease me in to going bald, if that was to be the outcome.
I've now completed all 3 FEC and am on docetaxol. My hair loss has slowed considerably. My hair is thin on the crown and at the back, but with skilful comb over it looks presentable and I do not need to wear wigs, hats or scarves. Although I wear a hat in the sun to prevent sunburn.
The cold cap is tough, but managaeable, and I am very glad I perservered. I may be lucky as my eyebrows and eye lashes have thinned, but not lost them completely (yet!). Not shaved my underarms in over two months, but leg hairs still growing! But I think we're all different.
Good luck! x
No, I moved on to taxol after (it wasn't any better!). I finished in November and have got as far as a pixie with the new hair. I think the hair going was the worst thing for me actually, although I had a hair replacement system which was glued to my head so I didn't have to see myself bald, that was a big help.
A couple of ladies I met at the hospital kept their hair/most of it. One had very thick hair, which looked absolutely fine, another had thinner hair and had lost a bit on top but covered it with a hairband so you couldn't tell. So it is possible.
Mine fell out after the first two unfortunately, it tends to get worse over time. I think that's fairly normal. It's always worth having a go with the cold cap, but a good idea to make preparations for it falling out just in case.
When I was about to start my chemo (FEC-T) last September, I found some very reassuring posts on this forum about the cold cap and keeping your hair. I was determined to keep mine if I could. Sadly, I had my first massive hair fall out on day 19 after the first FEC using the cold cap. I cold-capped for the second FEC, but had another hair loss event on day 19 again. When I went in for the third FEC the nurse tactfully suggested that it was not really worth putting myself through the pain when I had already lost so much. BUT I still suspect that the main issue was a badly fitted cold cap first time round. I had a male nurse who implied that I was being vain worrying about my hair falling out. The cap over the rubber bit did not fasten properly under my chin and, when I was going through treatment, I could press the top of the cap down closer to my scalp, when it should have fitted tightly.
So, my advice would be to look at the positive comments about the cold cap on the forum, make sure your cold cap fits properly on the very first occasion and, finally, accept that it still may not work and you may lose all your hair like me. Horrid, but it really is temporary. Five months after ending treatment I now have a very trendy short 'crop' just like Kristen Stewart! My husband loves it!