I am going to every support group and complimtry therapy offered at McMillan centres locally and in central London.
Meeting other people at various stages of this journey helps so much.
I am nine weeks into this marathon , had lumpectomy and lymph node removal, started Tamoxifen last week, radiotherapy in two weeks.
Its hard work and we so need to have no expectations, not allow others to dismiss our worries, do what we feel is best for us.
I am sticking cards recieved in my journal, positive things as well as my feelings, pictires too.
So its enjoyable.
And I got all my friends and family to gift me a crystal bead which I have made into a healing necklace, as well as some wind chimes type hangings.
I feel like I am being held by all the livovely crystals gifted with love.
I am also starting a new crochet project, I love doing crochet, usually for others, but this will be for me.
Be kind to yourself, find ways you like, anything that supports you, we in this together, not alone. 🙂
I was diagnosed last May which happened to coincide with some nice sunny weather so I went for a lot of walks (not big long yomping over hills and stuff, just down to the local water park) while trying to do what Charys said - look at the trees, listen to the birds, notice the warmth of the sun etc - helps to bring your mind to the present moment but I found I was too twitchy to sit still and do that so helped to be moving. Also found it helped to focus on things like crosswords or sudoku puzzles for 10 mins so I was thinking about something other than all the crappy stuff going on.
Its also about accepting that all those feelings you are having are normal and natural and you don't have to put on a brave face and be positive all the time - this place is particularly good for being able to vent or have a moan and everyone will understand xx
I try a relaxing activity, like crochet, colouring book, meditation, visit to a park, call a friend.
I have started a journal, writing down my feelings gets them out.
It helps for a while 🙂
My tip is to go outside, sit in the fresh air, close your eyes and really listen, listen hard and identify everything that you can hear. Ask yourself questions of those sounds.....what bird is making that noise? What tree is the wind rustling in to make that noise? Can you hear bees, flies, cars, children, your own breathing? Really focus in, with your eyes closed, on sounds around you. This is a form of distraction, but also brings you back into the present...almost like a form of mindfullness/meditation. Don't do it for too long, as long as you find you can keep yourself engaged with it....5 minutes or so.
I could kill those who say " think positive" in a chirpy voice!
Seriously if you want to reduce your anxiety you should do a few minutes of conscious breathing.
Sit somewhere quiet and comfortable and start by taking a note of a comfortable inhalation. That is become aware of your in breath and how long it takes. Watch it for a few times and then establish a count for it say for argument's sake it takes 4 seconds. Stay with that 4 second (or whatever you own comfortable count happens to be) and then make your out breath one or two seconds longer.
Do that for a few minutes a couple of times a day and it slows down you brain activity and thereby lowers your anxiety.
People do that when then smoke and say they feel calmer because of the cigarette but really it is just as likely to be that they have concentrated on their breathing for as long as it takes to smoke that cigarette.