Hi Ladies,
A delicate subject I know but having read the many threads on subjects of nipples, farting etc I am sure you wont be too offended
I had my skin sparing mx and LD recon 3 weeks ago. Nipple went in the bin with the breast tissue but rest of breast is my skin. Sex is important in my relationship, to me but more so to my OH. We had lots of sex prior to my op and no probs other than the one time I broke down in the middle of it with the sudden realisation that I would look different lying on my back after the op. My OH has been understanding but I know he would like me to think about re-starting our sexual relationship.
Thing is whilst I still fancy him and have had āstirringsā (blush) :-
- I am still not able to be physically comfortable in many positions and am still not fully healed scar wise from surgery (bit oozy).
- I have been told by lots of people since my op how fantastic/beautiful my new boob is (never told it before but then never showed it off to complete strangers before) and whilst I am getting to kinda like it I certainly canāt imagine anyone fondling it and it doing anything for me, let alone massaging it!
- I just canāt imagine feeling confident naked and sexually in front of and with my OH until I am properly healed and possibly with a nipple and surgery done on the other one to match
The question is how do/did you other ladies manage? My OH has hinted that whilst I may not feel like sex (which he doesnāt get - I do!) I could ākeep him happyā (blush again!) and whilst thats true I find myself thinking:-
- Thatās not fair cos I might get aroused keeping you happy and would then end up frustrated/tearful etc
- You are going to have to āsort yourself outā until I can sort my head out.
Am I being selfish? When will I feel sexy again? Any tips? Should I āsort him outā (double blush!!!)?
Thanks for listening, sorry if Iāve embarressed you (cos I am definitely blushing whilst I type), hope you will be able to help,
Ostrich, xx