Hi Elaine, sorry you've had to join us. I was diagnosed in April 2017 (12 years after primary) I have bone & lung mets. I was really surprised when I found out I'm not to have any chemo. My cancer is ER+ so back on the tamoxifen (and another hormone suppresant) which seems to have slowed the lung mets. For the bone mets I have some bone strengthening drug (Denosumab) which my partner injects once a month for me. I had a bit of radiotherapy on my arm because it was hurting which helped (although pain has come back now). My Onc seems not to bothered about the bone mets - just take lots of painkillers. There are lots of different drugs and combos for liver mets - hope someone helps you out with relevant advice. Seems that everyone is different, but I have found this forum helpful. There's people who have been diagnosed 10 years or more ago which is really encouraging for everyone.
Just had my 4th scan and get results next week.
Best advice is to write down questions to ask oncologist when you meet them and take someone with you as I found my mind struggled to hear what I was being told.