Hey! Well done, you've got through it. I'm glad you had a friend to pick you up, but it must be hard with a little one who doesn't understand you can't just do everything. I hope you can rest up a bit, get a few extra hours in bed if you can.
Don't try to be super mum, and if someone offers a bit of help, maybe say 'yes'?
So, Monday isn't too long a wait and sounds like it's been sorted from what you were told. Anyway, let me know if you want to.
I've got my surgery date...22 June which would have been my dad's 100th birthday, I'm doing mad freezer filling ... my chap keeps saying he will cook, but I need to be busy.
So, you have as much rest as you can and you know this is the place to have a bit of a moan and groan whenever you need to, thinking of you xx
Hi girlie, I missed your reply, sorry not to have got back to you. Things do sound very hard for you. Is your surgery still on for 31st? Did you find someone to be with you, or at least be around? Could you phone the helpline and see if there might be a volunteer around, or try Mcmillan, I'm sure one of these groups could offer practical support, and be with you when you come home to make sure you are ok. I was left by my boys father when I was pregnant with my second son... it's very hard keeping things going and I didn't have to deal with surgery like you.
I'm now a gran...4 grandsons, I was by myself for over 20 years but for the last 12 years I've been with a lovely man, but it was VERY hard trusting again.
So, try to get some help, don't feel shy to ask, then when you feel good you can pass some care down the line to another woman.
I'm lined up for more surgery, not got date yet, feeling calm , but I know I'll be anxious as it gets near.
I'll look out for your reply if you want to keep in touch, love,
Caroline
Hi girlie,
Good that you got your results and I can completely understand that you cried with relief - the tension just builds, the mixture of waiting, anxiety and relief. Sounds like you are getting looked after well, even if you did have a long wait.
You'll need some one to look after you if you are having a general anaesthetic, have you got someone you can ask?
Hope that you're not feeling so worried now you know what's happening and you've got a plan. Try to get support so you're not bottling it all up, easier said than done... I spoke to the helpline and got matched up with 2 women like me, it's called find me a match. I had long phone calls with both and one offered to call me back, and we have another call planned. These calls helped me so much, just felt I could ask anything and get my head a bit straighter, and a good cry.
I'm thinking of you,
Be gentle with yourself and try to keep the stressy things that you can control down, keep in touch if you want,
Hugs, Caroline
Hi girlie
How did things go? Hope you got some answers and medics are looking after you. Sounds like you're slogging through this alone AND looking after your girls by yourself. Maybe see if there is a local group who can give you some real support, or talk to one of the nurses at BCC? I can understand that you are having some meltdowns so that says ' find people who can listen, reassure you and walk with you''.
So, maybe let me know how you are, but anyway keep plugged into the forum, big hug, Caroline