Breast Biopsy results tomorrow

[Caroluna]

Hey! Well done, you've got through it. I'm glad you had a friend to pick you up, but it must be hard with a little one who doesn't understand you can't just do everything. I hope you can rest up a bit, get a few extra hours in bed if you can.

Don't try to be super mum, and if someone offers a bit of help, maybe say 'yes'?

So, Monday isn't too long a wait and sounds like it's been sorted from what you were told. Anyway, let me know if you want to.

I've got my surgery date...22 June which would have been my dad's 100th birthday, I'm doing mad freezer filling ... my chap keeps saying he will cook, but I need to be busy.

So, you have as much rest as you can and you know this is the place to have a bit of a moan and groan whenever you need to, thinking of you xx

[ASK]

Hi Caroline
I had my surgery yesterday , was on my own during the surgery but a friend of mine came and picked me up and took me home and stayed with me for few hours , although I was nervous but it wasnt that bad as they put me to sleep and I woke up ,everything was done (they removed the lump with a single duct ).
They have booked me an appointment for next Monday and I will see what the result is going to be .
I just feel tired and need rest , but it is impossible with a 15 months old who is running around and touching and pulling everything she is not suppose to , I just want someone to take over for few days so I can rest but that's not going to happen .
Enough of complaining .hope everything goes well and smooth with your surgeries ,I don't know what are you going through but I will think of you and pray for your full and fast recovery .huggs

[Caroluna]

Hi girlie, I missed your reply, sorry not to have got back to you. Things do sound very hard for you. Is your surgery still on for 31st? Did you find someone to be with you, or at least be around? Could you phone the helpline and see if there might be a volunteer around, or try Mcmillan, I'm sure  one of these groups could offer practical support, and be with you when you come home to make sure you are ok. I was left by my boys father when I was pregnant with my second son... it's very hard keeping things going and I didn't have to deal with surgery like you.

I'm now a gran...4 grandsons, I was by myself for over 20 years but for the last 12 years I've been with a lovely man, but it was VERY hard trusting again.

So, try to get some help, don't feel shy to ask, then when you feel good you can pass some care down the line to another woman.

I'm lined up for more surgery, not got date yet, feeling calm , but I know I'll be anxious as it gets near.

I'll look out for your reply if you want to keep in touch, love, 

Caroline

[ASK]

Hi Caroline
Thank you so much and sorry for the delayed reply.
I am still a bit worried but at least now u know what u am dealing with which makes it a bit easier ,my surgery is on the 31st of May and kids are off from school and it's half term , so they will be home and look after each other , my elder daughter is 16 and she will baby sit , however I haven't asked anyone to go to the hospital with me for the day of the surgery, I don't have many close friends, but one or two who they have work and kid and I am not sure if I should or shouldn't I ask one of them .
What I am thinking is that kids will be home and look after each other and I just go in my own and after the surgery I will call a cab to drop me home , although it would be nice to have someone to support you just by being there but I guess that's not meant for me ☹,I had my little one who she was born last year and now she is 14 months old , on my own in the hospital with no help or support from anyone, her dad left me when we found out I was pregnant and haven't seen him since (we were together for 6 year ) , now I can't rely on anyone and I can't really trust anyone .
anyways enough about me , how r u doing and how is everything with you ?

[Caroluna]

Hi girlie,

Good that you got your results and I can completely understand that you cried with relief - the tension just builds, the mixture of waiting, anxiety and relief. Sounds like you are getting looked after well, even if you did have a long wait.

You'll need some one to look after you if you are having a general anaesthetic,  have you got someone you can ask?

 Hope that you're not feeling so worried now you know what's happening and you've got a plan. Try to get support so you're not bottling it all up, easier said than done... I spoke to the helpline and got matched up with 2 women like me, it's called find me a match. I had long phone calls with both and one offered to call me back, and we have another call planned. These calls helped me so much, just felt I could ask anything and get my head a bit straighter, and a good cry.

I'm thinking of you, 

Be gentle with yourself and try to keep the stressy things that you can control down, keep in touch if you want,

Hugs, Caroline

[ASK]

Hi Caroline , thank you
I got my biopsy results today , I was literally shaking when I was called in after an hour and half waiting in the waiting area , and thanks God it was negative,so basically it's papilloma.
I burst in to tears when she said it's not cancer and .
They made an appointment for me in 3 weeks time and they will take it out under general anastatic,however she said that they will try to remove the only duct which the discharge is coming from but if they couldn't find that duct , they will remove all the ducts and I will not be able to breast feed in the future is I had a baby from that breast .
Also they will examine what they will remove to see if there are any abnormality or pre cancerous cells around that papilloma(benign) and there is still 20% chance of cancer .

[Caroluna]

Hi girlie

How did things go? Hope you got some answers and medics are looking after you. Sounds like you're slogging through this alone AND  looking after your girls by yourself. Maybe see if there is a local group who can give you some real support, or talk to one of the nurses at BCC? I can understand that you are having some meltdowns so that says ' find people who can listen, reassure you and walk with you''.

 So, maybe let me know how you are, but anyway keep plugged into the forum, big hug, Caroline

[ASK]

Hi everyone
I'm new here and since I have no one else to talk to about what I am going through at the moment , i thought lets just get it out here with you all amazing people.
I have an appointment tomorrow for my breast biopsy results and my stress level is so high.
4 weeks ago I noticed a brownish discharge in my bra from my right breast and I immediately Googled it and saw my GP the next morning ,when she examined my breast she found a lump just below my nipple at 5 o'clock position and she referred me to hospital for more examinations , after a very 10 days of long waiting and stress finally had ultrasound and they didn't do mammogram as they said I am only 35 , so after the US they didn't really tell me what was the result and made another appointment for me in 7 days time for ultrasound guided core biopsy.
The biopsy was OK although I cried (not because it was painful)but because I didn't have anyone to take with me to support me ,while the breast surgeon was doing the biopsy I asked her the why they didn't tell me the results for US ? She said because we don't know yet that what it is and the US just shows a solid lump and since you have discharge (which by now its color has changed to darkish yellow) so we don't know where the discharge is coming , and we need to do the biopsy to find out .
This past 4 weeks has been so stressful, I have 3 kids (girls) age 16,12 and 14 months old and I am a single mum and my worries are not only for myself but if this is cancer (which from the day I found out about the lump I feel like it's cancer) how am I going to cope , who is going to look after my kids , specially the little one 14 months old and during treatments and whatever that will be needed to do , who is going support me and my kids .
I had few breakdowns during this past 4 week and I don't know what to do
My biopsy results r in tommorw and I am so nervous, stressed, scared .