Hi to all you lovely Teddies,
I have just spent an hour catching up...my OH booked a surprise cruise for my birthday and he thought a complete rest would be good before starting the rads. But I have so missed you all, and was sorry that I couldnt access the thread whilst away. 3150 people on the ship and surprise surprise I was the only bald women on it! Like Jackie, I got so hot and fed up with hats, scarves and wigs that I went without most days.
Got some funny looks - but they were made up for by the lady who was in a crowded lift, saw me and said "You made it - well done" . She had had chemo twice.
Congrats to all the achievers, Wtp for race for life and that gorgeous hair, Blue for your nose hairs, Suze for completing chemo and rads, Egg for just keeping going, Jackie for the same reason and to all others who have made it through.
I had a lumpectomy and sentinel nodes removed in November and came out the same day.
Its good to hear that SE's from chemo are receding, my ankles and legs are really swollen and the thigh muscles complain loudly when I walk up stairs. And I am 4 weeks after last chemo. Fatique is still with me.
Its lovely to be back, keep that party going I start Rads on monday for 15 days, finish 30 June.
Big Big hugs and love to all, Ebimx
Hi all,
Many congratz to those finishing and warmest wishes to those continuing. Am almost half way through rads and despite a longish journey it has all been very smooth so far and staff brilliant.
However, am feeling that having Herceptin for 9 more months every 3 weeks is diminishing that feeling of the end being in sight. I felt really down after waiting for 2 1/4 hours for a 5 minute jab earlier this week - having felt very positive , the experience pushed me into all sorts of dark thoughts. This really is a roller coaster isn't it?
Anyway hugs to all, this group is very supportive.
Slowski xx
Morning all..
WTP well done on the race for life, such an achievement. I do hope your husband is on the mend, it must have been so scary for you and him. I'm very jealous of your hair, it looks stunning! Mine is growing slowly and still more fluff than hair and more round the sides than on top - at this rate I shall look like coco the clown! 😂
Suze congratulations on on completing your rads!!! 🎈🎉 and a rad grad cert from Jackie that's lovely.
i was just getting ready to leave for 14/20 when I had a call to say they have computer problems so hold off coming until they ring me. I really hope I get to go today as I'm really wanting next Friday to be my last.
take care all. Xx
A quick catch up with everyone.
Blue2 - I've spent loads on bras and still haven't found one I'm happy with. My op was a modified radical mastectomy, so I still have all of my pectoral muscles. I say I have 1 1/2 boobs.
I am not having reconstruction, so this is it for me. Good luck on your search for bras.
wtp2016 - WOW! Race for life AND hair. Well done _ I'm so jealous about the hair. Mine is growing quickly but is still all fluff, but as it's now 30C+ every day here, hats and/or wigs are not an option, so I just go as I am.
I am SO sorry to hear about your hubby. I think we all forget what a tremendous strain this all is on them - I know my hubby at 66 is reeally finding it hard both physically and mentally - but of course he still says he's OK. I pray yours will get better as you progress.
EggG - hope all went well for you yesterday. You will soon get your certificate and badge.
All of you youngsters - I really do feel for you. I`ve said before that at 65 I've been so blessed to have dodged the C bullet for so long. You, on the other hand don't deserve this at such a young age.
Me?
I'm fine. BOB is behaving and although I still have to go for dressing changes, it's now every other day.
I started my rads on Tuesday, and so far so good, although like others I am finding it difficult to keep my arm stretched for the duration, and I have been doing the exercises at least daily.
The bad news for me is that my rads are given at a hospital 140kms from home, and my appointment is a 9PM.
It's between a 3 and 4 hour round trip, so what with the early morning dressing changes, I am tired.
However - on the plus side, the motorway is quiet at that time of night, and there is plenty of parking at the hospital. Always look for the bright side.
I have 25 sessions programmed - so my finish date will be 10th July.
There are a few members we haven't heard from for a while, Ebim, Slowski, and Scotty. Are you all OK.
For Suze123
I am SO proud to be able to award this certificate to you - the first of the class of January 2017 to finish both chemo and radiotherapy.
Well done - we will be with you soon.
Hi everyone
OMG, I will be first past the post then! Gulp. The teddies' trailblazer (she said, with her positive hat on!).
Lighthouse, thank you for the hugs, I am pleased it's over but I'm a bit scared about finishing. I'm seeing my surgeon as well tomorrow as it's exactly six months since surgery and five months since chemo started. Planning a nice lunch with my hubbie after rads and before we see the surgeon (he is a good surgeon but has a crap bedside manner so will brace myself for that!).
Blue, well, I'm feeling weird about finishing! I totally understand what you mean about feeling young. I never saw anyone near my age until rads started. It actually made me feel worse during chemo when everyone was a lot older than me. I then felt selfish for thinking that! It gets reinforced during treatment, "you're having rads boosters as you're young to get bc" etc. It wasn't until I went to that pilot course for Breast Cancer Care 'Younger women Moving Forwards' where I, at 44, was the oldest of the eight women there! That was humbling. By the way, I have the last session for that in a couple of weeks and I'll share an update with you all.
Robin and Nicky, glad to hear you're finishing with me! Best of luck for your last few sessions.Big hugs!
Depending on how tomorrow goes I may also join up to Slimming World tomorrow night to try and shift some of this extra poundage before I go back to work! My suits won't fit yet!
Suze
xxx
Evening everyone - wanted to just say hi to all. I have been catching up with thread every few days but seem to have no time to post.
Suze - massive hugs for tomorrow, you are there!
Nicky I am sure you are looking forward to Monday too, but equally understand the slight apprehension of how it may feel. My radio is going smoothly so far and i would say your experience has also been similar to mine - i have needed to re start the exercises and I apply the e45 lotion straight after the treatment as I forget later in the day! I am due to complete 19th June ( having some boost sessions)
- my hormone therapy keeps changing. I have already started monthly Zoladex injections and am now in the menopause ( no blood test to confirm) and the plan was to start Letrozole, but they are discussing if it should be exemastane instead. Not sure what will sway them to one or the other as they are both in the same group of drugs. I am waiting on a call from my BCN.
wtp - your hair - wow! sooooo jealous! No regrowth like that for me yet. Still wearing scarfs - only managed the wig once, think it will stay in the box now, unless my regrowth is really really slow! Congrats on the race - thats an amazing time, you should feel so proud on top of everything that has been happening. Hope hubby recovering well.
Blue- i also find myself scanning the rooms for people my age and am often met with sympathetic looks, rarely do I see anyone who i think i can relate to age wise. Interestingly I think i am finding i am more bitter about being shunted into older age prematurely than undergoing chemo/radio - dont get me wrong as we all know chemo was hard, but the aches pains, weight gain ( nearly 1 stone in about 4 weeks - no kidding!) and flushes are also so visible to the ongoing journey ahead. keep us updated re your surgery.
egg - hope the cold/chest infection has gone, I am hoping the brows and lashes make an appearance soon as i would be hopeless at applying anything false or drawing in!
Jackie/Slowski/Beedot/Robin/mooney/ebim/ sorry not to reply individually but i have been keeping up and love hearing how everyone is doing. much love to you all.
Also hi and hugs to those or are also reading but unable to post for what ever reason, hope all well with you warriors too.
xx
Wow, well done WTP, 33 mins is some going. You should be very proud of yourself, we're proud of you.
The photos are lovely and I am gobsmacked by how much hair you have already! I'm still at the 'shiny scalp' and bum fluff stage😂😂
What shock for you all about your husband but I'm glad he's now doing OK.
Big hugs and lots of love
Suze
xxx
Well done Wtp! I'd be pleased with 33 minutes at my very best. Lovely photo of you and your little girl and I am so jealous of your hair. I am sorry to hear about your husband, I hope he recovers quickly, you have certainly both been through a lot recently. Thanks for sharing this with us, we all need inspiration to get back on with life I think.
hugs Beedot x
Hi everyone,
This is the first time I'm posting from my laptop rather than phone and can't work out how to scroll through the last few posts... congrats to Suze and Nicky who sound like they are nearly done!! fab work!!
I'm just about to meet a friend for a long overdue chat but wanted to say thanks for all your thoughts re the race for life - i managed to run (jog!) the whole thing and when I felt like stopping - which I did - I thought of all you wonderful teddy warriers and it pushed me through to the end. 5k in 33 mins - not the fastest but it was a huge milestone for me and so emotional seeing all the other ladies - including some BC survivors and another going through chemo.
I will try to post a photo of me at the end and also my new hair from the back! I'm out and about with no hat now.
On another note, my husband collapsed at work on Monday - he's 37 and fit and healthy. He was taken to A&E as it happened whilst he was teaching a group. The doctors have told him it is likely to be emotional stress. He was out for 10 mins. In the past year, we have lost his dad due to a very aggressive bowel cancer, bought a house and got my diagnosis - and we both started new jobs... so its not surprising but shows me that there is so much going on under the surface that I didn't realiswe.
Lots of love to you all xxxx
Hi Nicky, I've just had my 13th of 15 rads today so, as I had my surgery in December and am almost six weeks past my last chemo, I completely finish all my treatment this Thursday (General Election Day!). Wow. (I'm not having any hormone therapy as I'm triple neg).
Are we the first two of the teddies to finish in the next week or so or is there anyone else out there the same?
Suze
xxx
Hiya Everyone!
Sorry its been a while but what with half term and daily hospital visits for rads time keeps disappearing.
Been good to catch up on the thread. I am now 5 weeks post my final chemo and have had 11 out of 15 rad sessions. i definately feel like me energy levels are starting to return and my body is picking itself up and starting to recover. My hair is starting to grow back, i have about 1 cm of fluffy hair all over though unfortuntley there seems to be a lot of grey mixed in with the brown?! i still have very few eyelashes and my eyebrows are extremey patchy so have been filling them in. (Not sure i would be any good at false eyelashes!) and no sign of any nose hair!
I have found the rads sessions okay and havent really suffrered with any fatigue. It is just time consuming and takes about 45 mins (plus extra time to find a parking space!). My skin on my chest is starting to look a bit red and is a little itchy so i am slapping on the E45. The main thing i have noticed is the cording in my arm so my BCN gave me BCC's post surgery exercise sheet and i have been doing them, which is helping a little.
Robin how are you getting on with your rads?
Blue - i also had a masectomy and full lymph node clearance. i purchased button up PJ's which you definatley need as you can't raise your arm above your head. i also had a drain for a few days which was fine. i bought an M and S post surgery bra but the inside seam irritated my scar so i wouldnt recommend them. i then switched to sainsburys crop tops whch i put on by stepping into them! Start doing the exercises as soon as you are able and it will definately help with your mobility in your arm and shoulder.
Wtp - well done for doing race for life, that is a fantastic acheivement. i am keen to start running again but am worried about pushing myself too soon (I have been doing lots of walking) and am tempted to do a 3km charity run at the end of June, though it will be more of a very slow jog, but it would be a start.
Egg- i hope your cold is receding and the antibiotics are kicking in.
love and hugs to everyone
nicky x
Oh yes, I got one of those cushions from the BCN too, I loved it! Used it in the car and in bed, for protection as well as support, it was really useful, I walked round clutching it like a teddy.
Hi Blue,
I had a mastectomy and node clearance and had a drain. You are correct that putting things on over your head won't work. I was told to start exercises immediately BUT as long as the drain was in not to raise my arm above shoulder level. I bought a soft post- surgery bra from Royce and wore it in bed as well, so that my other boob didn't pull on the surgery area. It worked well as it had front poppers and in fact I use it still, 10 months later, for under sports kit.
Like you I bought pyjamas for hospital (with front buttons). I never wore them in hospital because I was discharged after 23 hours, so went straight from my theatre gown I'd slept in to my "home" clothes.
A bag for the drain is a great idea. I was very lucky in that a local support group, Bosom Pals, gave us a bag. It was crocheted out of supermarket carrier bags and was fantastic because it could go in the shower with me!
Once you can use a real bra again - it took me about 2 months, I would recommend getting fitted. The M&S bras are OK but most have narrow straps. These are not good for avoiding lymphodema after node removal. Have a look at Eloise, Anita, Amoena and Nicola Jane.
I've used BioOil on my scars every day from when the stitches had gone until radio started about 6 months later and started it again 4 weeks after radio finished. It does help and you can get in in larger cheaper bottles from CostCo. Also I agree about the exercises - keep them up because otherwise the area will stiffen up and you need to keep that normal range of movement.
I really hope this us of some help. Good luck with you surgery.
Hugs,
Sue O
Best value I found was Asda, which has a range of post surgery bras - £8 each. Can be ordered online too.
Hi Blue2, sorry you are struggling with your cording - I had a PICC line so didn't have the problems with my veins thankfully as it sounds pretty unpleasant.
What I can let you know about is my experience re lumpectomy and node clearance..... I had my initial surgery in November - a lumpectomy with sentinel node surgery - the margins weren't clear and I had positive nodes and I therefore had a wide local excision and full nodal clearance. Bra wise - I found cropped bra tops the best - Sainsbury's are good as are Asda and I'm still wearing them! Personally I havnt been able to find a comfortable bra so have stuck with the cropped tops, mainly because my node scar is right on where a bad strap would lie. I didn't need a drain, i did have a seroma post surgery which took a while to disperse - make sure you do your exercises every day. I still have numbness from my surgery which I find a bit uncomfortable and currently bra less as I'm 3/4 way through rads and getting a bit of redness of my skin so sporting a vest top and very very cropped hair - calling it my sinead O'Connor look - just add a few stone! If you've got to have rads after surgery keep doing your excercises as you need to have the flexibility to have your arms above your head - my arm movement is good but I can now feeling it pull and that's half way through rads me. I hope this helps. Xxx
Blue, I had a WLE and lymph nodes through the same scar, on the outside upper quarter. M&S do a range of post surgery bras that are non-wired (look for a black one with purple straps and trim) plus a pack of bra strap extenders, I am still using those on my normal bras, they have been the best purchase. However, the post surgery bras have pockets for prosthetic inserts and I found that the seams on the pockets rubbed on my scar and I haven't used inserts anyway so I then found the same bra in their normal range, without the pockets. They also do stretchy cropped top type bras but you have to pull those over your head which is awkward at first. I also bought a matronly type sleeveless cotton nightdress and undid the shoulder seam and put press studs on it - a quick tug and all was revealed and it was easier to have my arms uncovered for blood pressure cuffs etc. X
Hi all,
Robin, fancy you hearing the same concert! It was an early finish so not too bad in the noise front I hope. I walked a lot that day too and yesterday I was completely shattered. All the way through chemo I got away without fatigue until this last round and now I can see what you were all talking about, I am in a daze and really clumsy and forgetful, I think it may just be because I am anaemic now. My hair is still growing, very fluffy and soft, I am hoping it will speed up as I get further away from the last chemo.
Egg - I will be interested yo see how you get in with eyelashes, it took me about an hour first time. I found some tutorials online and apparently you are supposed to use your own lashes as support for them (after applying mascara) but I also found some You Tube tutorials if you don't have any lashes but I haven't watched them yet. I have also been recommended to try RapidLash or Revitalash which both stimulate growth apparently. Re eyebrows, I am not good at getting them at the same level. I am looking forward to new nose hairs Blue! On the plus side, my legs are silky smooth at the moment.
Suze - thanks for the information on the arm and fingers. Like Egg, I gave up on the hirudoid cream as the cording feeling went away but I do still have a groove. That was from my first session too and we had to avoid that vein after that but I did finally make it through without a PICC or port. As it hasn't been uncomfortable I pretty much forgot about it but I will try the massage idea.
sorry a ramble of topics today!
beedot x
Hi Blue
I've just had a physio session this morning which encompassed work on my venous cording in the arm and also caring for your mobility/flexibility during and after radiotherapy. The team I have are specialist Macmillan physios based in the Trust and they are fantastic. I got lots of advice and tips plus I talked through what I wanted to do with exercise and how I could get back to fitness.
The physio was saying there is actually little research and guidance on this topic out there. She was saying she needed to do some research studies to share their knowledge! She said that the cording takes a while to go but keep persisting with the exercise and it gradually gets better. The veins basically suffer collapse and develop scar tissue that needs to be broken down. Rubbing/drawing your fingers slowly down the damaged vein and stretching the tissue (to the point your skin reddens and it's a bit sore) is good for you. Mine stems from my first chemo on 12 Jan as I had a PICC line for each dose after that. She wasn't surprised that five months on from that single infusion it was still lumpy and sore, it takes a while but does get better.
She he also gave me some good advice on numb fingertips and soreness. She said you need to restimulate your nerve endings so make time to rub your fingers on different textures: rough towels, velcro etc. Rubbing in vitamin E oil on your fingernails and tips for a few minutes is also good. Same for toes if they are suffering.
Hope you find that useful.
WTP: how was the Race For Life? Tackling that so soon after your final chemo is true warrior stuff. I hope the SEs didn't interfere too much.
Suze
xxx
Good luck with your Race for Life tomorrow Wtp.
My SE's are fading well now. I actually felt normal this evening, I went out to an Elton John concert and sang and danced about! You can guess what my favourite song was - "I'm still standing". I enjoyed it more than chemo.
hugs Beedot x
Well done WTP! Fab news. Enjoy the party mood. Hope the SEs are OK for this last time.
Suze
xxx
For Wtp
For bravery and fortitude in successfully completing 14 sessions of chemo (!!!!), I am delighted to award our badge and certificate of endurance.
Beedot - I'm soldiering on - just without the wine.
Water and coffee are my drinks of preference, and I loathe the hot sun!
I hibernate inside in summer - I guess I'm fully integrated now - that's what the Spanish do.
Not your typical ex-pat I'm afraid.
That's simply wonderful news Wtp.
Nice one Wtp!