Good luck for next week starting Taxol hope you will be o.k.
Interest seems a bit non existent at the moment, perhaps we'll have some responses over the weekend.
I agree Denio about lack of sleep making things seem so much worse and the night really drags on and seems endless when you can't sleep. Glad you're feeling better. I struggled with sleeping properly on the steroids with chemo when I first had it 5 yrs ago. I'm just hoping I'll be ok on Taxol when I start it next week.
Noticed you've started separate link, great idea! Be nice to get a bigger group together but come what may we'll have a lovely time.
Pain eased today just a little niggle now hopefully by tomorrow be gone! Feeling very sorry for myself yesterday after bad night, everything always 10 times worse when you can't sleep!
I'll put it up as a separate link in case anyone else wants to join us and we'll see what Alice says about dates as she's got further to come but 1st April would be great for me too.
Hope the bishbosh takes the hip pain away.
I will fall in hopefully with whatever date you and Alice suggest as the only treatment I am receiving is bishbosh as Angee puts it ( which I've had today and was really glad as had a really bad night with my hip aching like toothache).
1st April would be lovely for me. It would be great if we could get a bigger group together bit if we're all happy with it just being the three of us then lets go for it.
Any other girls interested?
That's great Denio, I'm glad you and Alice like the suggestion. It is a very nice place and doesn't cost the earth and there's parking!
For me some time during the Easter school hols would be good as I'll be off from the schools I teach at and it will be easier to fit in with my treatment too.My school hols are from 15th March to 7th April. I can't do Wednesdays and Thursdays due to chemo and recovery! Mondays or Tuesdays would be best really as it gives me more time to recover from the previous week's chemo but I'll fit in with you two. Just remembered my husband's off work from 21st-28th March so I ought to avoid that week. I can do weekends too but would prefer weekdays if poss. The 31st March or 1st April look good for me or would you 2 prefer to meet later in April or May? Are you both having chemo at the moment? As I only start my chemo next week, in a way I'd prefer sooner rather than later as side-effects will probably kick in more later on. Anyway let me know what you think and I'll ring Gliffaes and see if we should book. Will it be just the 3 of us or are there any more takers for a meet in South Wales?
Sounds great to me. I've never been but I have heard lovely things about this Hotel. Crickhowell no problem to get to as I only live about 10 miles away.
Note you're happy with Anne's suggestion.
Have either of you any dates in mind?
I would love to meet up in Wales. I live in Swansea so can make any of the places you have suggested. I think I would go for the cheap and cheerful venues with the least hassle. Alicer xxxxx
Hope you okay Angee. xx
Thanks for the research Denio. I don't know if you'll think this is too far to go depending on where you live but I have been to the Gliffaes Country House Hotel near Crickhowell for afternoon tea a few times and it's great. They serve it every day from 4.5.30 and I'm pretty sure you don't have to book but I'd check but it's only Â£8.65 per person - they just leave out sandwiches, cakes etc. and serve drinks and you just help yourselves to as much as you want. It's very pleasant as there are about 2 different rooms ( I think) you can have it and a conservatory which goes outside which is lovely on a good day and the gardens are worth a look and a nice walk if not too full afterwards!! It's a really nice place and quite informal atmosphere and there's plenty of space so even if lots of people it doesn't feel crowded. It may be a bit far out for people location-wise but is certainly very nice and very good value for what you get. It's on the web if you search on the name so see what you think.
Ah, thanks, Kay. I think the Ritz are just so business like it perhaps doesn't allow for any flexibility but I was rather surprised by their insistence of a credit card. I had received a private message saying that the Ritz start clearing up an hour and a half after your sitting time so guess that we would not have the luxury of languishing at leisure chatting away so probably somewhere different is best.
My vertebroplasty was booked for the day of my 40th birthday when I will be celebrating on holiday so will have to wait for another date as I think the consultant is on his holiday then (how dare he...?!) I think I will probably know before I go away.
Just been having a search and St. Davids Hotel do a champagne afternoon tea for Â£20.50p per person.
Celtic Manor, Newport also do champagne afternoon tea Â£60.00 for two or Â£105.00 for four people.
Will keep thinking. Anyone else have any ideas?
Of course you haven't let anyone down - you mustn't feel like that! I think everyone is just grateful that you got the ball rolling and if we can get some smaller regional meets going as a regular thing, that will be great. Been such an eye opener about the Ritz though - clearly feel they don't need our business which is probably true but it would have been so nice if they had shown a little bit of consideration for our special situation.
Take care - have you got a date for your vertebroplasty?
Love Kay xx
Angee, you haven't let anyone down at all! Such a good,uplifting idea to inspire us all. Some smaller regional meets are probably more appropriate in the short term and maybe a bigger London meet at some point down the line. I heard back from the Landmark hotel and they said they couldn't accommodate a large group where they have Afternoon tea but we could book a private room which I'm sure would cost the earth if the Ritz was anything to go by so that's a no-go as well I'm afraid.
Denio and Alicer, Cardiff sounds a good idea although parking is a bit of an issue there I always find! I don't go there very often so nothing comes to mind at the mo but I'll ask around and have a think.
Ah, thanks, Jacquie. I feel really rubbish about it all, feeling I've let people down. It seems nowhere has a trustful or charitable heart anymore these days. I hope miy vertebroplasty thingy does the job this time round too!
like everyone else i just want to thank you for the hard work you've put in, and say i hope you have a fabulous holiday, and your vertebroplasty thingy goes better this time. Don't feel at all responsible for the meet. The Ritz certainly won't be getting any of my custom in future and I'll be telling everyone how mean they are! Maybe local meets are the best way forward for now, as others have said, as they involve less travelling and are easier to drop in or out of.
Big hugs to you, I'm sad you need another op
I think the idea of regional meets is great. It is a shame it all got so complicated with The Ritz. I have made a few other enquiries but I think with a larger group deposits will always be an issue.
Hi Anne and Alice,
Glad you think the idea of arranging a possible meet in Wales a good idea.
Would Cardiff be a good idea? Can make a few enquiries?
Look forward to hearing from anyone else who would like to join in.
Good luck to any other regional meets.
Would still be great to all get together for something special at some point.
Really sorry to hear that you need further vertebroplasty - you must be really disappointed. Hope you have a really good holiday though before that to give yourself a bit of a boost.
Thank you again though for trying to organize this tea at the RItz. Given their attitude though, I think (as others have said) that we should look elsewhere. I do like your idea, Belinda, of a picnic in a park at a later date - that way we don't have to worry about deposits and numbers (it was beginning to look as if there were potentially going to be a lot of us at the Ritz). Only problem would be that it is weather dependent. What do others think? Or maybe Kate's or Anne's places will come up trumps?
Think the idea of regional meets is great too - so will start a separate thread to see if people want to meet up in the SE area.
Thanks again Angee - take care
Good luck with your operation Angee, I wish you well. Thank you for trying to organize tea at the Ritz. It was a great idea.
As others have said perhaps we could have a regional meetings as well.
Please count me in for anything in Wales Denio and Anne.
A great idea Denio about regional meets and maybe one in Wales. I'm just about to start weekly chemo and bi-weekly Avastin so I don't feel up to organising but would gladly be interested as I was worried I might not feel up to going to London there and back in one day with treatment and work in the same week! I'm pretty close to Newport or Cardiff or Monmouthshire. Haven't lived here too long to think of good places but will rack my brains and see also what others in Wales may think.
It was a great idea by Angee and I do so wish you well Angee with the operation and do so hope you can enjoy your holiday before that.
Take care all,
Hi Angee..like everyone else I'm sorry you have to have more surgery. 😞
Agree the Cinderella day has fired us up for some small meets. I've been to quite a few meets now with some of the ladies on this thread. We've been to some nice places but I've always been so busy talking...and eating and drinking.. I've never really taken in the surroundings. 🙂
There are all the London parks for free...although sunshine isn't guaranteed but it might be an option..? and no commitments needed on numbers..picnic at a later date maybe?
Many thanks for all the hard work you have put into the Cinderella Day. I'm sorry you have to have further surgery and I hope it all goes well for you. I think the attitude of the Ritz stinks!
One thought that has occurred to me (don't know if it's a goer), as there is an East Anglian meet being organised and one in Manchester, I wondered whether anybody here in Wales would be interested in having a regional afternoon tea or lunch? Maybe we could all see how our smaller events go and then all put our thinking and organising caps on to arrange a Cinderella Day later in the year?
So sorry to hear you need more work on your back - and really don't worry about having to hand this on to someone else. It was such a good initiative and just the idea has sparked us all up. Look after yourself and hope the procedure goes well.
I'm so sorry to hear you've got further problems with your back Angee. Please don't worry about all this Cinders Tea. It was so good of you to take it on in the first place.
I used to live in London and played piano for a few years for Afternoon Tea at the gorgeous Landmark Hotel on Marylebone Road just next door to Marylebone station and a few hundred yards from Madame Tussauds. Just checked on their website and it's Â£30 for Afternoon tea there or Â£35 with champagne but it's a beautiful venue and the food always looked fantastic and was always very good in the staff canteen which was the closest I got to the real food there!! I have just emailed them to ask if they might be able to accommodate us and explained our dilemma so I will let you know. Also Fortnum and Mason's is very nice for Afternoon tea.My husband and I went there last June to celebrate 10 years together!
Take care all
I have been doing some looking on the internet for alternatives to the Ritz and have emailed a couple of possiblities.
They are the American Bar at the Savoy and The Orangery at Kensington Palace.
Both do fairly resonable high teas but I will wait to hear back from them to see if they can accommodate us and let everyone know. If these are not suitable then can you let me know how to get to the place in CAmbridge.
Hi Angee -- please don't beat yourself up about the huge financial challenges set by the Ritz -- it's obviously a very pricey place, and only for people who can plan their lives well in advance, i.e. not us! I'm sure that some of us will be able to come up with a good alternative in London, somewhere that won't require a deposit or advance notice of numbers attending. And remember that Jennywren is organising an East Anglia get-together that some of our "southern sisters" will be able to get to, and I'm sure those of us "up north" will be meeting in Manchester soon. And of course, you'll be touring with your camera very soon as well!
Sending you strength and good wishes for your next vertebroplasty -
I have got a couple of stumbling blocks here....
Firstly, I have just found out that I need to have further vertebroplasty on my back which will be done when I get back from my holiday so it looks like this Cinderella may not be able to go to the ball 😞
Secondly, The Ritz are pressurising me to give firm numbers and to take my credit card details. I have given the matter a lot of thought and I do not think I will be able to give them my credit card details in case they end of charging me for cancellations. Since I said I would be happy to take deposits, Breast Cancer Care have informed me that I will be unable to solicit deposits via this website so it is all getting far too complicated.
I think it would be a good idea to find somewhere else to go to, as Dawnhc suggested, that do not require a deposit and do not charge for people unable to make it on the day. I have tried to stress that we all have secondary cancer and some of us would not be able to make it but think the Ritz obviously have a cancellation policy that cannot be flexible enough for us.
Thirdly, in the light of the fact that I am to undergo further vertebroplasty would anyone like to step in and continue with the organisation of the Cinderella Day in my place so that the meet can take place, hopefully with me but I would not like to disappoint everyone by being a bit too poorly to continue with it.
Hope this is ok,
Please count me in too, I will get hubby to come home early to look after our little boy. Looking forward to meeting everybody
Hi Angee and all
6 May is good for me - just let us know when you want the payment.
many thanks for organisting this. the Ritz is not going to know what has hit them...
Ok folks I dont mind change of date /venue if needs be but can I know soonish as I'm trying to book train tickets for me and my sis to come down and she needs to book her hols too. Is it possible to stick to 6th May but just confirm venue?
Sounds a great idea.....can you count me in please. (you can contact me through Pinkdove as you have her details)
Thanks for taking the time to arrange it
Hello Ladies & Nigel,
Thanks to everyone for the straight talking - it has been appreciated. Of course it is impossible to get us all together on one date so I have gone back to The Ritz to confirm our booking and unfortunately they do not have a record of it. I must have spoke to a ghost .... I don't know.... Anyway they are calling me back later but I am off to the hospital shortly for my bishbosh etc and just wanted to update you all.
They offered us a private room which I thought, ooh how lovely ... for an additional Â£2000!!!! What do you think? Haha... of course I declined. Don't want to be stuck with THAT on my credit card.
In terms of deposits etc, I have debit/credit card facilities for my photography business so if need be we can use that to gather deposits by a certain date and then I will make a payment from my business on the day.
Anyway, I'll let you all know what's going on as soon as I hear but am determined that all us Cinderellas WILL go to the ball!!
I would stick to may 6th because whatever date you choose, you will encounter the same problems.
Biphos and hercpetin can be given 4 weekly on occassions so you should all be able to change the dates of your treatment.
looking froward to meeting you all.
Hi Angee and everyone
Will see if I can change mine to Wednesday too and see what they say. Won't know till my next one on 18 March, but will let you know.
I think you should stick with the 6 May. I am going to see if I can get my treatment changed to the Wednesday (and move the Oncologist too) - he has been telling me lately that I am 'boringly normal' and I don't want to miss out on the Ritz just to be told that, even if it is good news.
Paying sounds as if it is going to be a nightmare - pity we didn't think about a 'picnic in the park' - with champagne and strawberries (bring your own!) instead. Well if the Ritz get awkward it is always a possibility.
Have finally got my weekly chemo day sorted which will be Wednesdays so Tues 6th May should be good for me as I'm sure I should be able to have my bloods done on the Monday instead of the Tuesday.
Don't mind changing the day but Tuesdays will be the best bet for me and mean I'm well recovered from my previous week's treatment.
"Â£20 deposit from everyone by a certain date" definitely, but I am not on Paypal, and I don't want to sign up for just for that - prefer to pay by other means.
And yes, if the date needs to be changed, that's OK with me.
Just a suggestion - Angee, do you have a PayPal account? Â£20 deposit from everyone by a certain date???????
Please count me in for the 6th. I think Nigel speaks reason about it being impossible to get everyone (sorry Dawn, Sixpen, B & B etc) but to get another date lined up ready, that will suit them.
I'm not sure we should be bringing friends/sisters etc if that will mean anybody else can't fit in. Will it? What do others think?
I'm also worried about your credit card Angee - should we set up a date on which we all have to email you to confirm, say, 5 days before? Then if we pull out after that we are committed to paying you back?
Thanks so much for organising it
I think, although I am disappointed, that you should stick with 6 May - it is true that we will not be able to find a date suitable for everyone.
If all goes well, then we should provisionally book another date - as Nigel says, but maybe mid-July before the schools break up again.
I too am worried about Angee's credit card!!!!! Mine shouts at being overused anyway!!!!
Love Anne xx
I don't want to be a killjoy, because i think it is a fab idea to meet up and would like to be part of it. BUT I find the attitude of the Ritz (if I have understood your post) quite outrageous. Do they know it is for a party of ladies with Secondary Breast Cancer who can hardly be expected to say a week beforehand whether they are well enough or not to attend. Once you have given your credit card no. to them they will be charging you for last minute non-attendees. You will then have the responsibility of recovering your losses.
Have you thought of contacting other hotels - say ones near Victoria Station? You may even get a more sympathetic hearing than the Ritz seem to have given you. They might even charge a bit less per head than the Ritz!
Please if any of you think I am totally out of tune here - just shoot me down 🙂
I think you're doing a grand job!!
As an interested observer whose brain is not muddled by chemo etc. etc, can I make a suggestion
1. Keep with the 6th May - you've got a good turnout already
2. Try to get another date in the diary that currently suits those that would love to attend on 6th May but cannot - presumably in June or July? I would suggest you ask belinda, dm1968, sixpen and blondie to come up with a couple of dates that suit them, see if the Ritz can accomodate and then go with that date.
Hope you don't mind my input here - I know from experience that these things can take a bit of organising!!
Hope you all have a great day
I was just thinking the same as Belinda above but I suppose it all depends how many can't make it. Sorry that really doesn't help much.
Hi Angee..just my thoughts..I'm one of those that can't make it but know from my experience of arranging days out in the past that hospital appointments, treatments, family commitments and sometimes just how you feel on the day make it pretty impossible to get one day that will suit everyone. Looks like the majority can make the date you posted and I'll hopefully make the next one! 🙂 Belinda..xx