Coming to terms with diagnosis, age 33

[Mungos_mum]

Hi gg,
Sorry to meet you under these circumstances. I too have been dx with idc (with additional DCIS) and had mx 4 weeks ago. Although I have a decade on you, I am still classed as young to have BC, something which had me in stitches until the surgeon explained that a young patient is one who has not yet been through menopause. (generally about 50).
I too have a 13 year old. He is high functioning aspergers. (he also has a 15 year old brother). My OH and I delayed telling our boys, initially because the older one had his first two GCSE papers and we had to get him through them first. In retrospect, it was a good idea to wait because we didn't have much information to tell them until we had seen the surgeon; we had the biopsy results and an idea of the timescale to surgery by then. We told them everything we knew without going into too much detail, facts rather than conjecture about the future, and have answered all questions posed since. We also waited until I had "good" day, one when I felt emotionally robust enough to deal with any tears they might have had. We focussed on what the consultant told us at Dx, yes, you have cancer, but it is emminently treatable and survivable. We are all clinging onto that. Our 13 year old seemed to deal with the information better than the 15 year old, but that might have been because the 15 year old had learned a bit more during science.......
Best of luck and feel free to PM me if you need to talk.
Best wishes,
MM

[carrie35]

There is a younger women's thread that you should post this in as they can offer you some great advise being similar age to yourself. Have a look down the columns on the left its called younger women x

[Lucy_BCC]

Hi gg123, welcome to the BCC forums where you will find lots of support and shared experiences from your fellow users

In addition, our helpline is open 9-5 weekdays and 10-2 Saturdays on 0808 800 6000 and our team are on hand with further support and information to help you through this difficult time

You may find the following links helpful to the BCC 'Just diagnosed' and 'Treatments' web pages along with the 'talking to your children about breast cancer' page:

http://www.breastcancercare.org.uk/diagnosis?utm_source=Homepage&%3Butm_medium=help_you&%3Butm_campaign=diagnosis

http://www.breastcancercare.org.uk/treatment?utm_source=Homepage&%3Butm_medium=help_you&%3Butm_campaign=treatment

http://www.breastcancercare.org.uk/breast-cancer-information/impact-breast-cancer/relationships-family/telling-family-friends/talking-children-about-breast-cancer

Take care

Lucy

[gg123]

Hi,
I am new to this site. I was toldon friday that I have invasive dutorol cancer. I still can;t quite belive it I only went to the GP to be refered as I haadn;t seen anyone sinc 2010. I had previously been seen due to family circumstance. I have read many threads on here and feel some sense thaat I may not be completly mad. I have to have MRI and further disucssions with docors. I am not sure what size or grade it is at the moment but have been told I will be having surgery at the end of March.
Any advice on how to tell my 13 year old, what should I tell him and what I should not.