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Confirmed BC but feeling positive

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MandR
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Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

That's great Nikki. Glad you are doing OK and fingers crossed for Friday. I have not had much luck with bras either but I'm only a B cup. My lump was quite high up so bras seem to cut across the sore swollen bit. The m&s post surgery one feels most comfy.
I am waiting for planning appt for radiotherapy, but need boob swelling to go down. Am hoping to get all rads done before holiday to Scotland in August so fingers crossed.
NJWillow
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Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

Just an update. I had my opon the 8th and did manage to attend my daughters show......I have never cried so much!!!! She was amazing!!! After a busy weekend I am now preparing for my post op visit on Friday to clinic. Hopefully will get my dressings off and find out re Radiotherapy and if the cancer has spread/type. Being good and doing my exercises but today I have found my breast and tught side under lymph node wound to be slightly swollen and uncomfortable. Still no joy in finfing comfy bras/tops (i posted about this on another thread). Roll on Friday when hopefully I can get mymind full of questions answered xxx
Mishy18
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Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

Nick and M and R, had my lumpectomy and some nodes out Thurs gone and can honestly say if you do what you are told and look after yourself its not as bad as you think
yes I feel a little drained but I feel so much better 4 days on have been out for a couple of short walks with someone with me x and sitting in garden and stuff
MandR
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Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

Hi, hope all goes well on the 8th for you.  I have my op on Wed 24th and then am hoping to be up and about for half term with my daughter.  

I bought a beginner yoga dvd which I really enjoy doing. When I can't sleep at night, I think about the breathing etc and it helps.  My 6 year old daughter likes to join in with the dvd too 🙂 

Take care xx

Lizzie
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Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

Hi Nicky,

Hope all goes well for you on the 8th.

I would say listen to your body, be kind to yourself and don't be rushed in to doing things.  Do as much or as little as you feel like and do not feel guilty about it.  

This is,a mental journey as,well as,a physical one so take the time to make sure you are well. Read magazines, watch rubbish tv, go for short walks, let someone else look after the house etc. 

Be gentle with yourself xo

NJWillow
Member

Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

Thanks Ladies. Fingers crossed all goes well on the 8th 🤗🤗
Anniej
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Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

Lumpectomy was much easier than I thought. I'm afraid I didn't have such an easy time as the other two ladies as I came home with a drain after complete lymph node excision. This necessitated a visit by the district nurse who changed dressings and checked drainage. I was a day patient , and I did feel surprisingly well. I was warned by the hospital and the DN that it does take a week for the anaesthetic to completely leave the body , and this proved to be true. I was great in short bursts , but back to old self after a week.  Hope you do indeed make that show. X

ann-m
Community Champion

Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

hi Nicky,
As Optimissy says, I found the whole experience very manageable. I had the surgery mid afternoon on a Fri & was back home by 7 pm. See how you feel, I had a 'netflix & chill' weekend, but was up & about as normal by Mon.
ann x
Optimissy64
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Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

Hi Nicki

I had lumpecfomy and lymph node removed last December and it was really so much better than i expected. So long as you take the painkillers - mine were only paracetamol and ibuprofen anyway-you'll be fine. Yours ought to be a day case as they told you - only proviso would be if they felt you were a bit too unwell to discharge that day, but most ladies on here have been home the same same day. I stayed in overnight as I went down to theatre really late, my blood pressure was a bit too low after so I had to stay lying down for ages (despite my pleas for a cuppa and some food!!) though I felt fine in myself, and I live on my own so they didn't want to send me off to an empty house. Went down the pub with friends the day after my op (no alcohol though!). I should have thought you'd be fine to see daughter's triumph on stage - it's a good motivation to get up and about! Main advice is to do the exercises they give, drink lots of water, keep fit (Your Yoga sounds good!) and keep cheerful - we lumpies are among the lucky ones. All the best for 8th June.XXXXX

NJWillow
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Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

Thanks Ann. Trying to figure the forum out re replies etc. Just received my date for my op. 8th June. Pre op 2nd of June. How have ladies found lumpectomy surgery? I have been told its a day case. Fingers crossed as my daughter is starring as Edna Turnblad in Hairspray Jr that same weekend and really don't want to miss it! Xxx
Any advice apreciated. Staying positive xxxx
Starting Yoga next week! 🤗🙂
Sam890
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Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

Hi Denise.

I have just been diagnosed (16th May) after a week of thinking no, can't possibly be. So shocked and had no-one who understood my calmness. These wonderful ladies on her get it and I feel blessed to have you all around me to help with all these very strange emotions.

Sam

ann-m
Community Champion

Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

Hi Nicky,
Welcome to the club we'd rather we weren't in!
Anyway, you're right, there is no reason not to be positive & there's loads of support here from others at your satge, as well as those of us out the other side.
I had the treatment plan proposed for you last year & was back to life as normal soon after treatment was completed.
Do come & chat or vent whenever you need to.
ann x
NJWillow
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Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

Hi
I have just been diagnosed 15th May. I too had similar reaction. After a turmoil week of the not knowing what I was dealing with to my diagnosis. I was ok so we can get rid of this and treat it. I too am awaiting lumpectomy with radiotherapy. Currently continuing in work til I get a date.
Family and friends I think have been shocked by my response and some are more upset than me.
Nikki
Hollis69
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Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

I felt the same, shocked but really positive and still do and just had my operation. 

I felt like a bit of a fake as I felt so normal yet everyone felt sorry for me, I think my real test will be being told if I have to have chemo as thats my one fear.

Feeling positive is a good thing and everyone feels differently and handles it differently but I am exactly the same as you 🙂

queenbee
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Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

Hi denise. Sorry to hear of your diagnosis... at first I did shed a few tears but then I looked at the positive side of it as I needed to beat this. I have t cried in about 4 weeks.... which is good for me because before I got diagnosed I used to be really emotional!
Alex1967
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Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

Hi Denise - positivity is the key through this journey and you have lots of it. I'm currently sat round the pool in the Canaries - a post recovery treat! Same diagnosis as you ER+ HER2 neg back in December. Fast forward 5 months now on the mend post mastectomy and "all cancer removed" (all 10 lumps of it after MRI!) and now enjoying life once again. Only whinge is my Tamoxifen tummy in my bikini 😫Sending best wishes, now pass me that beer 😎
Anniej
Community Champion

Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

Hi Denise, what a lovely lady ! I think it might be nice to set up a group, but only after you are sorted! It takes a lot of energy to get through the appointments and procedures needed to beat this blooming thingy. One step at a time is the message when you read all the threads. Best of luck with the future. I look forward to following your journey. X

ladybowler
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Densie

 

You are amazing you have just been diagnosed and you are thinking about other people in proposing to set up a group in your area.  I think it would probably be a good thing to just concentrate on yourself for now and then see how you go after that you lovely lady.

 

Helena xxxx

Mai7
Community Champion

Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

Hi Densie, you have the same diagnosis as me. I'm 48 so didn't make it to mammogram age, thankfully I noticed a change in my breast and went straight to the GP. I also have local node involvement as well as the tumour being diffuse and too large for surgery so I was started on chemotherapy on 27th April 1 of 8 rounds and will have surgery at the end. The chemo is much easier than I expected and I'm feeling really well so far. Your medical team will make all the best decisions to ensure minimum risk for reoccurrence whilst maintaining as much tissue as possible for you. Wishing you all the very best as you begin your journey. You are in the best place for support here on this forum. Xx

ann-m
Community Champion

Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

Hi Denise,
Yes, I felt the same way, blithely went along to the recall appointment, convinced it wasn't bc & after getting over the shock of diagnosis - same as yours, then felt very lucky that it had been picked up early as I nearly didn't go for that mammo!
I'm not a screening sceptic anymore!
Now had the first year all clear & back to life as normal.
ann x
Densie
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Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

oh Helena you are just so bloomin amazing  its lovely to hear from you - massive hugs............ thats how I feel out and onwards - I really wanted to join a local group but cant find one to near where live in Ringwood......there are two nearby but one for up to 40s and the other you have to have been clear for 3 months from cancer - I wonder maybe should I start one up? what you think? 

 

Den xx

ladybowler
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Re: Confirmed BC but feeling positive

Densie

 

Exactly how I felt, well ok its cancer so it now needs to get sorted.  I remember texting the people who were waiting to hear that it was good bad news, the bad was it was cancer the good was it was totally treatable and that I had a treatment plan, I felt so positive and confident that the wonderful bc team would sort me out.  I named mine Mr Blobby and told people that he was going to be out of my body and the radiotherapy was to make sure that he had not left any spots behind.

 

We are all here for you going forward I am sure you know, whatever you are feeling, just feel totally free to rant, rave, cry and laugh, because we do a lot of that on here as well

 

Sending you a positive hug

 

Helena xxxxxx

Densie
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Confirmed BC but feeling positive

Hi All, especially lovely ladies in touc with last week when first BC identified - well its confirmed invasive duct carcinoma ER positive and HER2 negative - the real panic was when first suspected by radiologist but nnow confiirmed - bit limbo really ad everyone I know seems to be expecting I would fall apart or almost thats it!  I truly dont feel this way just really lucky I had routine mammo and they found it when they did - anyone else have ay experiences similar?

 

Densie xx