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scottishlass
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Miss her posts. Not forgotten Debs.

maltomlin
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Not forgotten.
xx

babychops1982
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May you Rest in Peace Debs.
God Bless.

maltomlin
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Debs will be watching, beaming from ear to ear!

Just wish she could have been here to meet 'the little bean' but I'm sure she'll be watching.

Mal x

jantharra
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So pleased to hear this news, and the ray of sunshine is must shine in the lives of all those who loved and miss Debs. I just wish she could have been here.

Hateful disease stealing the good people.

Nikki

Jacksy
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What lovely news. I too feel really choked up. What debs would have given to be here to meet him. But I'm sure she's watching on and sharing in the joy. Love to all the family
Jacquie x

dm1968
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Am really pleased to hear that little bean has arrived safe and sound, and am sure he will give some much needed pleasure for the whole family. Debs am sure you are smiling down on your family watching with love.

Congrats to Debs family.
xxx

Jane
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Been following this thread to check that Little Bean arrived safely. Thanks so mch for letting us all know and love and thoughts to her daughter, Ian and family.

Much love

Jane x

india1
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welcome to the world Little Bean,and please pass on my congratulations to Debs family.
nicky

peppapot
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What wonderful news!
About time Debs family had something to celebrate at last eh?.
CONGRATULATIONS to all her wonderful family.
Thank you for sharing Celeste, I am all joy and tears now. xxx

AnneS
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What wonderful news. I am sure Little Bean will give much-needed joy to all Deb's family and Debs' star will be shining brightly above.
Love to Ian and all Deb's family.
xx

jaynemh
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yes - so pleased little bean is here - love to him and mum, aunt and grandad - i know they will tell him what a wonderful grandma he had...x

aroma
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what wonderful news ,im sure debbs would be cheering in heaven ,god bless you all .xxx

BoneyL
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Glad to hear of little bean's safe arrival into the world, this little baby will have a wonderful guardian angel (probably wearing purple shoes).

Best wishes to the family
Linda

nicky08
Community Champion

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Thanks for letting us know about Little Bean, Celeste. I think we have all been wondering and thinking of Debs at this time. A very happy occasion but tinged with sadness. I often think how Ian and Deb's girls are coping, I hope the new arrival helps them.
Nicky x

Kay123
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Welcome Little Bean! Like Lesley, feel very emotional about this - so wish Debs had been here to welcome you into the world. K

loopyjack
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Whatlovely news. Feel too emotional to say much else. Lesley xx

juliet66
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How lovely. Thanks for posting that. I can hear the tapping of the shoes as we speak!!!

Julie x

belinda
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Congratulations to Deb's family.
Welcome to the world Little Bean. 🙂
I'm sure you will hear some wonderful stories of your wonderful Grandma when you are a little older. Hope Little Bean's Mummy is recovering well.xx

LesleyLP
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Debs will definitely be raising a glass or two of red to her little bean - please pass congrats on to Ian when you speak next xx

celeste
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Just to let you guys know - that Ian - Debs husband - has passed on the great news that 'little bean' was born yesterday 7lbs 4oz. I can hear some dancing in heaven - heavy noise those Jan Jansens make.

SusieV
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Same here Marmite. Good luck with the treatment. I hope I can keep going like so many of you have with one treatment after another. I feel very guilty moaning about my situation when I am just having my first treatment since my diagnosis.

I will have my baseline scan in April and then it is a case of watch and wait to see what happens. I hope I can try and forget about it and get on with things or do you feel like a loaded bomb just waitig to go off again? I suppose I will just get on with it - there is nothing else we can do.

I am hopeful that there may be some new drugs around the corner that will do the trick - people keep saying to me why do these things happen to all the nice people? Well I wouldn't wish this on anyone but......sometimes you do wonder!!!!

Love to all you lovely girls I wish we were all just around the corner so we could help each other out.

Love Sue xx

Kay123
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Really sorry to hear your news, Marmite. I hope you tolerate the new chemo combo ok and that it holds things. It must seem so much harder when you are already feeling weak after your hospital stay. Moaning is entirely understandable!!

Missing out on Tenerife must be a tremendous disappointment. I know how much these trips/treats keep us all going mentally. Could you plan something indulgent in the UK? Wouldn't be the same as Tenerife and the spring sunshine, but might help a little.

Take care, Marmite - fingers crossed for an improvement on the new chemo.

Kay xx

LesleyLP
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Marmite, I'm so sorry you're going through such an awful time. Glad you're home from hospital and hope you continue to regain strength and that the new chemo combo is easier to tolerate and works for you. Will be thinking of you and hoping you'll be well enough for the next Bristol meet, it would be lovely to see you
Take care
Lesley xx

lesley
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Hi Marmite,

Sorry to hear you're not feeling to good.I'm fairly new to this forum but have read quite a few posts, some of which were Debs,and i can see why you found her an insiration.

I now Know why they say you're 'breast cancer journey'because of the
real highs and terrible lows,but somehow we find the strength and Debs certainly showed that in her posts.

I hope you're new chemo went well and is kind to you,and you start to feel better soon.Lots of love Lesleyxx

Anna_BCC
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Hi everyone, secondary live chat is happening at the moment, do feel free to join us.

thanks
Poppy

marmite
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I too used to find Debs my inspiration, and don't know how she kept posting till the end.
I have had a rough couple of weeks in hospital and am home again now, but so weak. So I am afraid I am going to have a moan.
I start a new chemo this afternoon mytomycin C and capcitabine on a lower dose as it did not suit me well before, but didn't actually fail.Took 3 hours to get blood yesterday but they were OK as not had chemo since Dec 30th as not been well enough.Benn on continous chemo for 16 month now, used up all standard treatments so all a bit experimental now. Was hoping to go to Teneriffe at end of the month for a week but cannot get insurance from even the specialist companies, and not sure I am up for it anyway.
So sorry to have such a moan.
Marmite xx

maltomlin
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That service sounds lovely Jacquie.

I don't have mets (yet) (although I have a scare and will get the results this week). I'm just stage 2b but a few months ago was celebrating my good fortune and feeling really well. Well enough to offer to be a cancer buddy. Thought I would 'put something back'. I've supported 3 BC girls - 2 have died. The prognosis for the 3rd is not good. It's really hit me how devastating this disease is.

I know there are a lot of people out there who just get on with their lives but when you get to know indivuals it reaaly brings it home.

Debs was one of the first people to contact me and offer support and I've been 'itching' to get back on the forum to see how she was doing. It's all such a waste of really good people with productive lives.

Mal x

Jacksy
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Hi Mal,
Sorry you've had to come back to this news. It really rocks your foundations, doesn't it? I've been thinking of Debs and all my bc friends i lost in 2009 as I went to a bereavement/remembrance service at my church yesterday. We could put forward names to be listed in the order of service, and we got an opportunity to go up and light a candle for the person/people we were thinking of.
Jacquie x

maltomlin
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Have just got back on the site since before Xmas. I'm absolutely devastated at the loss of Debs. She was a true lady with always the 'right word' for everyone. She consoled me after the death of my chemo buddy and was always up-beat.

God bless. RIP.

Mal x

horace
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Have been thinking of debs family today.It is my wedding anniversary or I would have tried to go.

tracey41
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My Thoughts are with Ian the children today. Debs will be at peace now, I do hope the funeral went as you wished it.
Gob Bless you
My sincere condolancies
Traceyxx

corsa
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RIP dearest Debs, you were diagnosed about the same time as me If I remember right. Ian do hope you and your family take comfort from all the folks on this site. If there are such a thing as angels
I would like to think that you are folded in their wings and find the peace you so deserve. Send me a little white feather sweetheart. If you see my friend Mags and Corrinna ( they both passed over this year thanks to this bloody evil disease) tell them I love and miss them. and we will all miss you and your uplifting chats on forum.
Fondest love Bobbie

Marilf
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Dear Ian

My saddest condolences to you and the family -- Debs was such an inspiration to us here on these boards. She gave her energy, knowledge & strength so generously to us all, both virtually & publicly in many campaigns -- she will be so missed.
Marilyn x

jaxw
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My love and thoughts go to this wonderful woman's family at this very sad time. You really were an inspiration,Debs.R.I.P and love.

Jennywren
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Thank you Ian, for taking the time to let us know of the death of your wife. Though not unexpected, it is still a great shock to read the words in cold print. I hope Debs is not so much at peace, as causing a right ruckus with DippyKate, Jane, Deirdre, and all our other absent friends.

My thoughts and condolences to you and Debs' daughters throughout the coming difficult days.

Rest in Peace Debs.

Jenny x

Tinks05
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Dear Ian and family

I'm so sorry to read your news and my thoughts are with you at this time.

I would like to say Thank you to Debs and so many of you ladies on here for your support.

I'm not a sufferer but watched my mum suffer from this awful disease, who passed away in April this year.

It broke my heart when Debs started to deteriorate so quickly, reading her blogs reminded me so much of what my mum went through, i hope she is at peace now!

Like so many ladies on here, you were an inspiration to so many others and well liked.

May you rest in peace now Debs

All my love to Ian and Family

Kerry xx

marmite
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Condolences to Ian and Debs daughters, she was an inspirational woman.
Marmite xx

doxey
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So sorry ....... such sad news.

My thoughts are with Debs family..... I wish you strength to get through the tough times ahead.

Rest in peace Debs x

nicky08
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My thoughts are with Ian and their family right now. Debs was a truly amazing woman, full of knowledge and humour and although I only had 'met' her on these forums her legacy will live on. God bless
Nicky xx

celeste
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Ian phoned me last night to tell me of Debs death, only to be told that his thunder had been stolen - we all knew. Clearly he was grateful for all the heartfelt messages posted subsequently, but I cannot tell you how upsetting it was to for him to discover that this news had been posted without recourse to him or Debs family.

I'm not sure I can remember this ever happening before, except in cases where perhaps partners are not involved with this website maybe - but this was not the case here.

I'm sure none of us ever wants to see this happening again, I'm also sure Debs would have had some very strong words to say about this.

Daisy_do
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Debs knew love and it surrounded her. God bless her and her family.

dx

lisaf
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hi ian, posted elsewhere but just to say thinking of you all and you are welcome to post anytime xxx

Lily200
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What sad sad news about such a brave and kind lady. How we wish she could have seen Bean. Sincere condolences to you Ian and all the family and you can of course still post any time, if you feel it would help you or you would just like to share something.
Another bright star twinkling down on us
Lily x

DebsH
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God Bless you Debs, there are no words to express the feeling in my heart right now, you gave us all so much faith in all our troubled times, you gave hope and inspiration, laughter and love. To Ian and your girls I send you my deepest sympathy, I am so sorry, life is not fair. May your memory live on forever.
DebsHx

debsincornwall
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Hello this is Ian, Debs's husband.

I am not sure if the partner of a BCC member is supposed to post but I hope no-one objects if I mark the passing of my beautiful darling wife.

Today has been a busy and incredibly emotional day for my two step-daughters and son-in-law as you can imagine.

Of course I first wanted to contact our nearest and dearest to tell them the sad news and I had waited for some time to myself at the end of the day to gather my thoughts and comprise a short message to the many, many friends, both cyber and real that Debs made here.

Unfortunately it does seem that I have been "beaten to the punch" and some people took it upon themselves to make the announcement of her death before Debs's daughters and I had managed to speak to all our own flesh-and-blood and people are already aware of her passing.

I have not yet had chance to read today's postings but I know I will take great comfort in them, I just wish with all my heart that I could read them out loud with Debs lying next to me the way I have been doing in the past few days.

I have written a few words in a new posting in the In memory section.

Debs left her physical self behind to join the Gobby Gang members such as JaneRA, Dippy Kate and Collette Mills

She passed away at 2.47 am on Thursday 17th November.

But then you already knew that.

Feemac
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Farewell Debs, a guiding light you truly are..... You will never be forgotten, but missed by so many.

Deepest sympathy to all the family

Fiona x

AnneS
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I'm devastated to read this news although I knew things weren't looking good.
Debs has been a wonderful support and good friend to me during the last 2 years and I have been so grateful and so helped by her honesty,amazing humour and warmth and can't imagine how Ian and her family are feeling. My heart goes out to you Ian and the girls. I knew how much you meant to Debs.I just can't believe it but am so blessed to have met and befriended Debs through this site. I would really like to have the details of the funeral or an address to send a card to Ian and the family if anyone can help.
Rest in peace Debs. You really were an inspiration and a feisty woman who did all she could to live through this disease. xxx

debs66
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so sad to have heard this news. rest in peace Debs, my condolences to Ian and the girls and my prayers are with you all xx

elljaydee
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I have just read this and am heartbroken that we have lost such a great cyber friend to us all.

You are gone but never forgotten.

Linda