Hi ladies, im a week past a single mastectomy and agree it Still seems surreal.
I have a district nurse visits and empties my drains...got them removed yesterday. I feel sure someone needs a nurse more than me, but they assure me I have had major sugery and need them just as much as everyone else on their list.
The pain under my arm and occassionally across my chest, if it was my leg I'd just limp around a lot, but instead I find myself tired and slightly frustrated by things that are oddly tricky....filling the kettle -heavy, washing my hair, dressing in clothes!
Its much easier now this stage is done though. I know I've a lot of healing to do and Im also in line for chemo,but waiting is so very hard. Xxxx
People have said 'you're so brave and calm' but personally Im going with stoic and leaning on these boards and all of you to help carry me over this... it would be dreadful without you.
Mastectomy is surprisingly not the hideous disaster I expected, my children told me I have a swapped a chest for a breast and didnt run away screaming. My partner is much the same. I was given a softee which I experimented with under a camisole yesterday and it looked frighteningly normal... far more surreal than the t shirt without the softee ..lol
Hugs lovelies, this is a random thing in our lives but I am grateful every day you're here to talk too. Xxx
I feel exactly the same I was diagnosed 28/11, but feel as if I am talking about a stranger. My surgery is after christmas . its surreal.
I lost my nipple also but I have recently purchased a stick on nipple to make me feel more normal and these are surprisingly good. Got them on line and am wearing everyday. Hopefully when you have your uplift op in April they will sort out a nipple tattoo or sharing for you. Have a look at the stick on nipples though it may help make you feel more normal.
I had my mastectomy and implant recon with mesh in Feb 14 and the surgeon said it was best to wait until all settled down before she did the uplift. So that was done end August 14 - alongside a fat transfer to the implant to fill in a massive dent above the implant. The uplift was a complete doddle - hardly any pain at all - though this may have been masked by the horrendous pain in my thighs where the fat was taken! The scar is a lollipop scar - so there is a line up to the nipple and around the nipple aroala area which was cut off and resited higher on the breast - she also reduced the breast slightly as after all the swelling had finally gone done on my fake boob it was slightly smaller. The scar is not that bad and the difference in the boob is amazing! I have opted to leave my nipple alone now and not use it for the nipple sharing that my surgeon had previously planned as I could not face any more surgery - and the nipple does seem to have some sensation - not masses but I know its there so I am happy with that. I had two weeks off work post op and went back full time after that. Have not had any problems with the lifted boob and am really pleased that I decided not to live with the different levels - it really does make all the difference. Now as for fat transfer - am not sure I could hand on heart recommend that procedure to anyone as it is very painful and the results are unknown. I still have most of the fat transferred but I also have permanent nerve damage in one of my thighs and a totally numb area which they do not think will improve now. I had my uplift privately so I could have the op at any time so it will depend on waiting lists if NHS, so I would get your name on that list and go for it as it will make you feel so much better!
I was diagnosed following my first mammogram which was end December 13, so I am due a mamo in January next year - though during my uplift op they reduced the size of the boob and the tissue was sent to the lab for testing but that is the only time anyone has even mentioned the other boob! I have got to go back to see the consultant every 6 mnths for her to check the recon for recurrance and have a mammo every 12 months for 5 years. I take comfort from the fact that they have a mammo to refer against now for the good boob so any changes will be more obvious (I hope!) But apart from that I don't think that there is much else you can do but trust that you are in good hands!
Welcome to the forums.
As well as the forums we also have a helpline where the staff can offer emotional support as well as practical information. The free phone number is 0808 800 6000 and the lines are open Monday to Friday 9.00 to 5.00 and Saturday 10.00 to 2.00.
Welcome to the forum. I'm sure other members will soon be along to offer you some support.
I thought you might also be interested in our "Someone like me" service. They could put you in touch with specially trained volunteers who have had each procedure and would be happy to share their experience. I've attached a link for more information:
I hope this helps.
Very best wishes