Hang in there. I didn't have a mastectomy but what I found the hardest was dealing with the C word. I have finished my treatment and was signed off from oncology on my birthday! There are some hideous days to come but they won't be the surgery or the physical bits. Let the doctors take care of your body - they really are amazing. Find something to occupy your mind. How about watching all the "Back to the Future" films back to back and seeing if you can spot any continuity errors? Yes, I really am that sad!
You can't imagine it now, but you won't always feel like this. I phoned my Dr and asked him how long I would feel so lost. He said, 'I honestly can't tell you but I can guarantee that it won't be forever.' That was quite nice to hear at that point. I'm obviously easily pleased, but you'll find that the oddest things take your attention, and every minute your thinking about something else you're not thinking about C. We used to make really inappropriate jokes about what might have to happen (this was before results), but it kept us laughing in between the panic.
6 months down the line and it doesn't actually feel like it was real. I wonder whether I'm burying my head. But so what if I am? 6 months ago I could never have imagined that I would be this side of it all. But I am and we will ALL get there.
I'm not very good at following the threads, and I forget who everyone is. So if I don't manage to speak to you before, the very best of luck for the op, and sit back and relax. What is it everyone says? BE KIND TO YOURSELF!
I am one of the ones having a mastectomy next week.
The diagnosis is a shock, the tears and your vulnerability are as well.
You probably feel 'well' in yourself as well which makes it worse.
On here is the best place to admit to stuff - admit you sobbed your heart out for no apparent reason - one of my times was in the bra section of a big store!!
And say if you wake with tears, you may not tell the rest of family when you feel a wreck but we are all here for that and at different times all feel it and share and usually find a humur along the way
Join in - we are good cyber shoulders to cry on
Hi lovely, thats very sucky. Xxx
Im 3 weeks past mastectomy and its honestly ok. Tired more than anything, discomfort is minimal, it gets you in the arm on that side rather than the chest. Means no lifting, even the kettle in that first couple of weeks. I got very constipated from the drugs...kiwi fruit drinks.. t.m.i Im starting to get burning sensation as bits are healing but its heaps better than when I nearly broke my leg falling on asphalt. Heaps.
I was terrified before mine, but it was Exactly as my surgeon said. I also thought id feel hideous, but was so pleased to be alive its only bothered me a couple of times.
You will be shown stretches to keep your arm mobile, I came home a couple of days later, but surprisingly most are sent home the next day.
Theres a thread on what to take to hospital, button up pjs and chap stick were my favourites.
Its a devastating diagnosis, we're all here for each other and we all understand as our wheels fall off too.
This bit of waiting is excruitiating.
Im 45, my girls are 10 and 11. They're actually calmer about it than most adults.
The brave face is exhausting, here you dont need to wear it.
Much love, xxxx