I was diagnosed with grade 3 breast cancer last October. I have two boys (then 6 and 8). My lump was just over 2cm plus two smaller satellite tumors. I'm HER2 positive and hormone non-repsonsive which also limits what they can give me e.g. Herceptin yes, Tamoxifen no.
When I was diagnosed I was so worried about my boys - both telling them and also more importantly worrying I would die while they were still young. I had a mastectomy and sentinel lymph node disection which showed the cancer had spread. That was probably my lowest point. I then had a second op - an axillary lymph node clearance - and the result were clear - yay!
6 months on I've just finished chemo (FEC-T) and I'm about to start radiotherapy. So now I've explained my history I'll get the point I wanted to make!
My boys were fine when I told them my diagnosis - there have been moments where they were concerned but generally they've completely taken it in their stride.
I was naturally very worried about the future when I got my diagnosis and particularly when I found it had spread (I'm now stage 2b). But you know what? treatment has removed my cancer and odds-on it will for you too as you've found it early. I'm nowhere near as doom and gloomy as I was 6-8 months ago and that's the same for the group of women I've palled up with who have all been through chemo at the same time.
Obviously there is a chance of recurrence, or more significant spread, but even if that happens there is so much they can do now.
I know it is very hard to be at the stage you're at now but please know that there is light at the end of the tunnel x
how you are feeling is totally natural my lovely, im sure everyone on this site felt the same and tbh the fear of spread/reaccurance stays for a long time but with time it does lessen x I am 3 1/2 years from dx and well thank you having the routine checks and yearly mamograms which is always stressful 😞 I will be on tamoxifen for at least another 2 years and it has some joyful side effects but I am just glad to be able to have the chance x You may get a scan before your treatment as you are grade 3 but hospitals differ greatly, I had one but becuase my lymph nodes were affected also, I wish you all the very best in your treatment and please dont hesitate to message me if you are worried or need any advice, if I can help I will
I feel your pain, I was diagnosed in Feb 2012 with a grade 3, 3cm with 3 lymph nodes affected, Im not going to tell you its a bed of roses because that would not be fair, BUT it is do-able , once your treatment plan is in place its like a rollercoaster, but thats a good thing because you are on your way to recovery and also because everything happens so quickly you dont have time to sit and think too much, good luck for tomorrow and keep useing this site its a mine field of information and help/support
Love L x