Hi all you travellers,
isn't this weather beautiful...a real blessing to be out in the garden...bluebells still hanging on though the magnolis are definitely over, rhododendrons... some finishing and some coming out and the azalea banks are almost at their zenith...magnificent. Our pocket handkerchief treeis out in full bloom now, quite dramatic...I love this time of year. And Suze the plant was hellebore! Can't believe neither of us could come up with it.
We moved the chickens to a new spot in the garden yesterday and they are loving being under the fruit trees...somehow they seem even more contented where they are now and while they aren't so visible from the kitchen, I can still see the one coop that they're all in from the sink! I love watching them, all fifteen chickens, including two cockerels, have decided to set up home together so now I have several chicken coops to sell...I'm really on a mission to simplify my life. No more hatching of eggs so I snatch them away from 3 very broody hens we have much to their disgust!
Heather, so glad you completed your final assignment well in advance of the deadline even if it was super stressful...now you can relax! Catering thoughts for the two parties are progressing...I think I've decided on a menu for the sit down for 34 friends of my eldest who's 21. She's just "mentioned" that she told them all they can stay over! I've always always encouraged my children to have lots of friends here for two reasons a)socialising is very important and b)my rules! but now its coming home to roost...still it'll be fun. My 17 year old is even going to try and get away from school that night to be a wine waiter (and I've already bought copious amounts of alcohol while Sainsbury's had a good deal on...let's hope the family celebrations don't demolish the lot as they are the Sunday before!)my 19 year old should be around to help (she is still in Thailand though on Phi Phi island and seems oblivious to the unrest and to my worries...oh to be 19! She is safe though)
Unusually it looks as if all my close family from the North East are going to try and be here for the celebrations which is fantastic. Unfortunately not my Mum who is 91 this year and has been very poorly recently, I had to race up there a couple of weeks ago as it didn't look as if she was going to make it through the next day, she's down to 6 stone! However she has rallied remarkably and though now in a home is just doing so well. Going to see her was complicated by the fact that I had decided not to tell her about my cancer as I felt that for her generation it is a very scary thing (it is for us too but I hope you understand my concern to protect her) her mother died of BC too so as I live so far away I felt I could protect her from the knowledge but of course my extremely short hair was going to be an issue and my mother is very perceptive. She did notice it even in her poor state but we managed to suggest that it was my new "trendy" cut!! Think I got away with it!
Maria, how lovely to be returning to visit your parents at such a lovely time of year. Fingers crossed the weather holds. I have had some lovely skiing holidays in Switzerland, Zermatt being my favourite place ever, I must get my girlfriends to do weekend there next season as I'm sure I'll be up to it.
Sandra, you really are coming on a treat aren't you? Completely get the wanting to get back to some sort of normality, I think it all helps and you're so right that we never know what others are dealing with...I always try to cut people a bit of slack like you. I'm sure that to them you looked absolutely normal and they would have probably applauded you had they known you were there shopping after just going through what you have. xx
I do hope everyone else is feeling okay today.
Apologies if I've missed any "a"s must be a pringle trapped there!
Hi everyone, Well you all seem to be doing ok. Sorry I have been missing, I forgot to say I am doing a course with the Open University, and I had got my final assignment to write. It was stuck in my head it had got to be finished by this Friday lunchtime. It is 2000 word an end of course assessment essay,you cant have an extension, and you need to get 40% to pass. So I have been working on it all week when I felt ok, I was up late last night, and early this morning trying to get it finished, it was really stressing me out. Well At 11 30 today it was all done, so I got hubby to read it to see if he thought it was ok. Yes that seems ok he said, then he looked at me and asked what is the date ? well I know next Wednesday is the 26th because it is my birthday. So I said don't bother about that just let me get this assignment sent out of the way. Then he started laughing, it hasn't got to be there till the 28th of May, I could have screamed lol I think I may have chemo brain!! but on second thoughts I have always been like this. I did the same thing with one of my earlier assignments,but that time I rang my Tutor for an extension and he Said "yes of course you can have an extension Heather, but your assignments not due for another 2 weeks" lol there is no hope for me is there.
Well all of you seem to be doing ok. Sandra you seem to be coping really well, I am so happy for you.
Maria hope your visit to the UK goes ok, the weather is great at the moment so I hope it stays that way. Loads of hugs from Mum and Dad that will be fantastic, my mum was the first person I wanted when they told me I had BC, unfortunately she died 6 years ago, she had Motor neurone Disease, that was an awful illness to see, and my Dad died 8 years ago with cancer. I still really miss them even now, but I suppose I always will. You enjoy your stay over here Maria, hope they like your orange hair lol
Lee hows that party catering coming a long, it sounds like you are going to be really busy. My Job was catering before I had to pack up work, I loved it though. I use to make wedding cakes etc, now if any of the family want a special cake hubby does them, he is really good.
Suze you must love you garden, I love to see a nice garden, I have never been much good at it though. My daughter loves it, she always had a beautiful back garden, now she as a crazy Labrador dog and he causes chaos in the garden.
Chris hope your visits to the gym are going ok, I was never any good at that sort of thing. I remember was I was about 13 and we were having a gym lesson at school. Well I have never been your slim athletic type lol so we were having to join in this race and the last part of it was to climb the wall bars and come back down. Anyway I was always last and I was near the top of the wall bars and I thought there was only me left to finish. So the teacher shouted JUMP GIRL JUMP, so I launched myself off the top bar, well there was such a bang, I thought I had gone through the gym floor lol anyway I was taken hobbling to first aid with the bruising starting to show already and I found out there was another girl on the wall bars just a couple of steps up and the teacher had been shouting at her lol so has you can see I have always done stupid things.
Vickie, hope you are feeling ok today 🙂
Gill I never bothered with the cold cap, I was a bit scared of having a cold head, my brain is not to good at the best of times, thought better not freeze it lol but you go with what suits you best. If you try it and don't like it doesn't mean you cant change your mind. I was scared of losing my hair, losing my breast was under my clothing I could disguise it but not the same with your hair. But I coped better than I thought, it was about this time last year I was going through the losing hair stage. But now I have it back and it is oh so very curly I love it. It doesn't take no doing just wash and go.
Izzy hope your keeping ok, have you got your dish washer fixed yet ? if not you could borrow hubby, he is good at pot washing.
Well Ladies better get going, fingers really aching at the minute, think it is all that typing.
All of you take care,
thank you for the lovely birthday wishes, I had a great day....I went to work till lunchtime (sogood to be back for a bit but it is very tiring even tho I'm not really doing much yet) then out for lunch with a friend,came home for a much needed nap.
My OH had bought me a petrol mower for the garden so he brought that and we tried it out...the cheeky man even got me to cut the grass hahaha...very cunning plan, he also bought us 2 nights in Southampton so I can go to visit my daughter and grandson soooooo exited to see them (hope the timing work out ok with chemo etc and I can make the trip and be feeling ok).
Then we went out for a lovely meal and the sun shone all day.
Sandra ...driving already...and out doing retail therapy ...good for you hun xx
Maria ...a trip to UK that willl be so good, hope the sun shines for you while you are here.
Vickie, good luck tomorrow...the maths bit says you will be one third through :-))
Isabelle - hope that you are feeling ok
Gill - hope you are ok too
Hope - did you remember the name of the plant you were tring to remember?
Me ...I get to meet the oncologist tomorrow finally...not that I'm in any hurry to begin but it is 6 weeks since my op and I'm getting worried that there may still be a b****er or two still in my bod...oh perish the thought...and I do need to get any nasties blasted into oblivion.
Catch you all again soon...so tired after work...only a few hours but it certainly tires me out
Hugs Suze xx
Hi to you all.
Yes Sandra i remember that feeling, post diagnosis, and seeing prople going on with their ordinary lives while mine was falling apart! and yes... you will feel like you have a life again when all this treatment is over. I am 1 year away from diagnosis and now look ok and get many comments saying how well i look! Spose people were expecting me to look really dire. Also feel better and am even getting back to regular exercise classes etc! I remember the high when i rejoined the gym and signed to pay my subs again... because i felt i was reclaiming my life and normality.
Gill i did cold cap and i am definitely glad i did. My hair had thinned on the crown towards the end but i never had to wear a hat or a scarf or feel self conscious. I just told my self it was only an hour or so each treatment for 3 weeks of hair on my head and i considered that a bargain!
Good luck whatever you decide.
Hugs to you all as you start the journey, but each step is a step nearer the end and reclaiming your lives too. It never goes away of course; but you come to accept things as they are and move on.
yes i feel exactly like that sandra, all the time, it just hits me. But then this has also shown me that you never know what someone is going through, as loads of people would have seen me (pre hair cut!) and not realised the shite that was happening to me, so has made me a little less envious, though not much! Well done for getting out, it does lift your spirits. And trying on clothes too! That must be a good step forwards.
Well a week today that l had my mx! what a difference a week makes today l decided to drive myself to Marks and Spencers and Next for a bit of retail therapy! it started out as a quiet day, with a few phone calls, a friend came in for a coffee on her way to radiotherapy, when she went l thought, need to feel normal! shopping!
So after purchasing grandchildren some clothes, myself a skirt and three tops (not too low) l decided enough was enough of all these happy carefree people around me! is it just me, or do others feel envious of people around them? such a strange feeling, l suppose not so much envious (because you never know their problems) more like will l ever feel that carefree again!! sorry not going to be miserable! just wondered?
Hugs to all
PS. Maria pm'd you, hope you got it?
I know what you mean, when you are feeling low, its not always easy to post, but that is what we are here for, to "listen" even when you are miserable, we've all been there, and know what it feels like. Not so long ago I posted "I need some cyber hugs" and the replies really did help me. You must never be too proud to ask for help.
As for cold cap; there are some threads about to do or not to do. After I read them I decided not, but when I was talking to the nurse during the chem, I almost changed my mind. So now my hair will fall out in a week or so.
I'm having the same treatment as you. First one was 11th May.
Actually I live in Switzerland and am coming to UK to see my parents next week. So may be you can be even more jealous (lol) Where in Switzerland have you visited ? Do you ski ?
I hope evry one has a good day.
Well done with the Qi-Gong, you will soon be a Master in it, once you have 're-centered' and learnt to 'breath properly'. Hope you soon 'feel the force' all that and only 5 more sessions!!! better get some practice in!
Oh you must be so excited to see your family, just what you need a real family HUG! Oh Maria, that is wonderful news! I can understand why you never mentioned it, frightened in case something went wrong and you couldn't make the journey! Really really pleased for you, your Mum and Dad must be very excited, there will be lots of Hugs and kisses. No worries about the Ash Cloud, your wonderful nephew will drive you back, now that will be an adventure to tell!
So very excited for you.
Lots of Hugs
Well, because of this journey I have discovered Qi Gong. It was very relaxing and I feel good now. I can't say I managed very well, she had to keep "re-centering" me, and I didn't manage to breath properly, and I certainly didn't "feel the force", but I expect it will come with practice. There are 5 more sessions before the summer break but I won't be doing it next week because (I've not dared tell you yet) I am flying to England from Switzerland to see my parents. CRAZY, what if the ash cloud stops me coming home and I'm not back in time for my chemo. Well on this journey I have discovered, I have a wonderful family. My nephew has promised to drove me back if needed. I was so touched
Hope you all had a good day today
Happy birthday Sue, hope you have a loverly day.
Good luck with your appointment Sandra,I bet you will,feel much better and less restricted with those stitches out. Hope your results turn out well for you.
Iv'e just cheated and got the Asda man to bring me loads of ready prepared meals (I'm not usually that bad)but with two hungry farmers coming in and out of the house all day I thought blow it I'll just cheat,as long as they get fed! It's a loverly morning here,we are high upon the Cumbrian fells and it just feels good to see the sunshine today. Going out with my daughter this afternoon just for a little trail out. Dishwasher just conked out so waiting for the man to come and fix it, I'm lost without it! Don't know what we all did before we had all these gadgets.
I hope everyone has a loverly day,
Best Wishes to all,
Happy Birthday Sue! I hope you have a lovely day, it's beautifully sunny here so I hope it is with you too.
Many thanks for your good wishes regarding my travelling daughter, she passed through Bangkok safely to Phuket though almost missed her flight and should be on Phi Phi now but haven't heard since Phuket. No point in worrying as I know from when my eldest went travelling that access to the internet can be tricky and she only switches her phone on occasionally as it costs too much if calls come in. I'm sure she's fine!
Sandra you seem to be doing really well...dog walking already! My chemo finished on 3rd November and my hair is only about an inch and a half long...straight up like a clown! It hasn't come in curly though which seems to happen to lots. I have always had quite fine hair, though lots of it and it just doesn't have enough weight yet to lie down. I wonder how long it will get before that happens...who was that singer in the 60s who had blonde hair that grew straight out like a brush...someone Brown I think. Good luck with the hospital appointment...does that mean you can stand under a nice shower after that? Bliss!
Maria, thinking of you looking out at a nice tidy garden, presumably with more open views?
Sue, talk about memory loss! Two of us stood in the garden yeaterday looking at a very common plant that I need to get more of and neither of us could come up with the name, still can't. It's the one that's in flower now, likes to grow under trees and comes in a variety of colours, quite large with a flower of at least a couple of inches across... any help gratefully received!
I hope that chemo side effects aren't too much for those of you dealing with them. It does make the good weeks in between very precious though.
love and hugs
Hello there to all the adventurers...
Well, I have found a solution to my problem...hope it works..instead of endless edits as I return and rereturn to the posts I now open up another window of posts and read and reply!!!! Sandra thank you for your suggestion too in the subject box but I think my brain is suffering as I didn't manage to follow your instruction, I will continue to try again though as it seemed a good idea, and I may learn a new skill in the process, in the meantime I will continue with the two windows open (after all it is summer and good to have lots of windows open!)Glad you had a nice walk today with your well behaved doggies.
Well I went back to work today (after my topless photo shoot at the hospital this morning- consultant wanted pics of my scars!)I was really tired when I got home but it was good to go back into work to work instead of just visit. They are being really good to me and letting me do the hours I want to (9 till 12.30) each day and can review at any time if I'm not coping. This means I am temporarily off sick pay and back on payroll so also not eating up my sick pay allowance which is good for me as there's only me to pay the bills.
Vickie, glad the party as a success and all had a good time.
Saffronseed - well done you for going back to work too, sound like we both have good employers.
Hope - I'm glad there's not only me that's 'sad' and needs to make notes, my whole life seems to exist better when it's on a list at the moment ....it's the only way I can remember things but I am beginning to slowly disappear in the pile of paper which surround me ..and I also seem to spend ages looking for misplaced lists now hahaha - oh whare has my easy life gone???? :-)) Hope your daughter is ok on her travels.
Isabelle hope you are feeling well and getting better each day. Got everything crossed that your results are good ones....hate the waiting for resuls....my last ones took so long to come through I had to remind the flipin consultant whay I had gone to an appointment on Friday...he forgot I was still waiting for some final test results!!!!!! Don't worry this will not happen to you! :-))
Maria, glad you are back online, I can imagine you sitting there with your computer and vacuum cleaner typing away!!!
Sandra hope all is well at your appointment tomorrow...gosh stitches out..it's only 2 minutes since I was wishing you good luck with the op..time is going by so fast it seems.Has your lottery winning relative rung you yet????
Well I'd better get to bed or I'll not be up for work in the morning!!!! That's so weird after 2 months off...not been in since I was diagnosed...ohh that fateful day when I said to them...I'll be fine..see you all tomorrow....then that was it until today!!!! (except for the non working visits of course) how quickly our lives can change and they do...
I get a year older tomorrow and booked in for lunch and dinner out so a busy day for me :-))
On that note I will say nite to all and here's to changes ....for the better for all round!!
Nite n bless Suze xxxxx
Hope you sleep well to sandra, i have just done huge tesco on line shop, to see my family through the next 2 weeks and with supplies for my temperamental tummy and appetite after chemo2 on thursday. Will have to spend ages finding space in cupboards for it all before it comes.I only flashed my new hair do at a few people, i live on the top of a hill at the edge of the pennines and the school playground is the most freezing place ever, it has its own microclimate!Wish i had a dog, am planning to get one when this has all settled down and i am fit and well ( fingers crossed). Had wanted a third baby very much, so now it will have to be a little doggy instead.
Hope, what is it with us Mums, that we have to fill their 'little' tummies with food! mine are 33 and 35 and when they come round they and their families all go home with goody bags sometimes carrier bags!! black bin liners have also been known to be used!
Hope your daughter is alright, never stop worrying about them do we? xxx
Maria, What would we do without our childrens technical knowledge? All those years of eduction, how did 'we' ever manage! probably just given it a good blow, who needs a hoover!
You will be glad to see the back of your tree feller? as long as he clears up and leave it spick and span? that is all we women ask, you would think we were asking for the world!
Yes hair! dread the thought of it going, how long do you think it would take to get to the length you have now.........oh perhaps l don't want to know! xxx
Anne, shall we tell everyone your aka? oh l think l must, hate having secrets! Well Anne is also known as 'devil in disguise' she seems such a lovely lady, but on one of my threads, out of the blue she threatened to punch someone in the mouth!! oh Anne, must remember not to get on the wrong side of you 😉 xxx
Isabelle, Hope you are still feeling good? oh the joy of results, well we don't mind the good ones, just sometimes they are few and far! so fingers crossed for you xxx And yes always good to be home! xxx
Saffronseed, Wow go girl! first day back, well done you, whether it was a little or a lot, it must have been good!
Rotten itchy wigs! is there anyone out there that has a wig that doesn't feel uncomfortable? Pleased your boob was comfortable, good to have a matching pair! as best we can anyway!
Oh don't we all love childrens birthdy parties, 30 little children, sounds like the whole class?
Well done on the shaved head, brrrrr bit cold to show it off in the playground though! or am l just feeling the cold at the moment? hope you told them first, and not just surprised them? xxx
My day.......Well a bit quiet today, managed to take the dogs for a walk, thankfully they don't pull, so we had a nice walk, still have a problem when l meet people and they ask how l am, especially those that are just aquaintances, l have always been a friendly person, so l will talk to anyone!! now i wish l wasn't so friendly, because everyone l meet seems to know, and wants to wish me well, which is lovely but..........would love to go out and not have a barrage of questions.
OH managed to finish tidying a few bits in the garden, without asking any questions..........Oh no, panic, he doesn't need me!! Lol
Even cooked himself a curry, l wasn't very hungry today, managed a little food here and there, that was enough.
He even managed to multitask! he gave me a cuddle while watching his rice! the man is improving! whatever next?
What will tomorrow bring.........well it is a hospital appointment at 4.40pm oh so late, OH coming along........l am only expecting to have stitches and dressing removed, said l may have results, but they always seem to take 10 days, so not holding my breath there.
Oh yes, and l have a delivery of groceries from Sainsbury's just wish they would put it away for me as well as deliver it! Lol! just realised l have ordered extra food for my son and his family, she has had to give up her part time work due to my bc, so l try and help in other ways............Still waiting for my phone to ring, for a relative to tell me it was them that won the lottery this week and would like to share it with me! Me thinks l will have a long wait!!
Lots of Hugs to one and all, sleep well
Great info about the hoover...didn't know that one! switching stuff off and on has been my only solution (or attempt at one) I will definitely try that in the future.
Vicky, glad the party went well and you are welcome here any time! Doing the party somewhere else does take the pressure off and that's just what you need at the moment. Wish I could persuade my 21 year old to do that. Looking forward to having the family here though.
Saffronseed you AMAZING! My onc said that chemo affected people differently and some were able to carry on like you! I was almost hospitalised afetr my first chemo so I guess we are polarised in our responses! Wish I could help on the itchiness of the wig...I so sympathise...I tried everything I could think of, the best thing being the little cap you can buy that is very similar to a pop sock for your head! It helped but nothing was perfect, I even cut circles out from a silk scarf to no great effect.
Wishing Isabelle and Sandra a good night in their own beds after their ops. Hope you've had a better day today Sandra.
Night all, off to bed now after I've walked the dogs, can't seem to stay up late these days as always have to get up early!
love and hugs
Goodness me there are a lot of us on this journey. we are all new comers one way or the other.
Isabelle, I'm glad you are home and sleeping in your own bed again
Vicky, I think you are one week ahead of me. I've still got all my hair..... (got out my old wig though, and put it away again quick)
Sandra, I hope OH had a real day off today and you did not give him too much work !!
Lee, sounds like your son is kept busy and you too, feeding him. Some times I think thats all we are good for (cupboard love, they call it) I'm sure your daughter will be fine. I saw a reportage on TV saying tourist areas are all fine.
Saffron, wow work. I didn't even go to the course I was meant to.
Sue, Anne and Ann, help have I forgotten someone.......
OK My news:
OK, hoovers are very good for sorting out internet connections, but I do believe I shall have to change mine soon. It won't last.
My tree feller came back and cut down the rest of the trees and cleared up. First day of good weather for some time, he said. Hopefully all will be finished tomorrow and all I have to do, is pay the bill. Goodness me, once it is all over it wasn't so painful after all. It's the waiting, you know !! Ring any bells !?
My hair is still orange.
Hope you had a good day ladies
Hugs and love
Hey Saffron, well done on going back to work, don't think i could concentrate if i did, though as i am on a 3 year career break, i won't have that problem for another 2 years!
Hope, please can i come to your house for a weekend if all that lovely food is on offer! And send me back with banana cake! The birthday party was in a soft play place we hired, 30 little children, but the staff did all the work which is what i had paid for! I usually do big parties for them at home and absolutely love every minute, but i knew that all the cleaning, catering and entertaining would be too much for me, so i bit the bullet and compromised. I still made a cake though which made me feel more normal. In the end my sons had a fabulous time so that was the main thing.
Hope evryone doing alright
Hi hope everyone feeling ok, lovely sunny day today which I think makes you feel better anyhow and yes Izzy its so nice to be in your own bed....
My first day back at work today went fine. although I have popped in and 'dabbled' a bit on emails etc today was my first official return from sick since my diagnosis in January. Everyone was so kind and caring and looking after me (I felt like an invalid!) but it was very much appreciated. I got settled in quite quickly, had a couple of meetings and generally caught up with most things. I did get a bit tierd and so left early (just before 3pm) but no problems at I feel absolutely fine now. At last I feel like a person again and I am not just a Patient - whoopeee.
I am really lucky in that I have a flexible job and will be working from home mostly anyhow and my employer is absolutely fantastic allowing me to work as much (or as little) as I can, I know not everyone is in that postion but for me being able to get back to work is a real big milestone and I think will help with my overall recovery.
I wore my wig it itched me terribly not sure if I can tolerate the itchyness for as long as I did (6 hours!), my protheses held up well though and felt fine. However I intend to take one day at a time though and see how I go, I have four more chemo's to go so its early days and see how it goes but so far so good... xxx
Glad to here your son got all the technical work sorted out on your computer Marial!
Nice to here from someone new Anne welcome, I'm still a bit of a newcommer myself but everyone is so kind on here.
It's loverly to be back home in my own bed (slept much better!).
I have had loverly days both on Sunday and today good friends called on both afternoons so plenty of coffee and girlie chat, just what I like, could get used to this. My bc nurse also rang me today to see how I am and told me I would get my results (grades and SNB) either next tuesday or maybe the week after so i'll just have to settle down to plenty coffee and girlie chats until then!
Hope you are feeling well after your op Sandra, isn't it loverly just to be home? I hope everyone else is ok too will keep in touch.
Love your post. 7 years studing to sort out with hoover - brilliant.
Glad you are back online.
Thanks to everyone for their welcome. Hope you all have good week.
Lots of love Anne xx
I lost my communication system since yesterday afternoon (Internet down). Phoned my son, who had left by the time I realized (he is a computer engineer !) I was terrified he would tell me to do something really complicated and he would find out how incompetent his mother really is. However he said, very professionally, unplug it and plug it in again. great, I can cope with that, I thought, but No luck. Hum, he said, hoover it around the ventilations holes. Well all this is completely within my capabilities, and guess what: I'm back, yes it worked. So he has studied for 7 years to sort out internet connections with a hoover. Cool. I have not yet read all the posts so I hope everyone is well.
Happy Sunday all,
I do hope you are all well.
Sue, I know what you mean about writing notes...sad person that I am I did start doing exactly that as there are so many travellers I wanted to keep track of what was going on...typically though I lost my notes so I'll just have to try harder to remember (The scroll down does help with recent posts Sandra, but I suppose I was trying to create a profile in my mind of each person!)
Maria, hope today has been a good day for you. How lovely to have your boys with you to share memories. My son has just left to head back to school in London. He weekly boards and also alternates his short time from Saturday afternoon to Sunday evening between my (ex) husband and me and a bit of socialising with friends as well as homework so it's quite hectic! I feel the need to fill him up with food so it tends to be a bit busy in the kitchen here and he is sent back to school laden with brownies and banana cake! Probably feeling overstuffed with pancakes and roast dinner with yorkshires! Lovely to have him though.
Saffronseed you sound very happy! Long may it continue!
Isabelle, nice to have you back. Such a shame about the infection and being delayed from returning home but great that you're now back and recuperating. I just loved getting back into my own bed each time...soooo nice.
Heather what a lovely long post! I wish I could de-clutter...I'm one of life's hoarders and since I'm hoping to downsize soon I'm not sure what I am going to do with all my garbage. I have now stuffed so much in cupboards and drawers in an attempt to make things look tidy quickly that I have lost so many important things! My telephone book included!
I understand what you mean about the snowballs on Bobby's fur! It was so bad with Mimi that I found the best way to sort it was to stick her under the tap and melt them then sit her on the aga and use a hairdryer on her at the same time!! She bacame very used to this and just curled up asleep on the aga (not directly on the aga but in a cat's bed actually!
Had to laugh at your "losing your breast" conversation with your hubby! And the showing of your breast to the postman! And how can you possibly have had a son-in-law for 20 years! You look like a babe!!
Tors, hope the party and the cake decorating went well. Five year olds have such energy...hope they didn't wear you out. It seems like a long time since mine were that age...I'm in the process of organising a 21st and a 17th combined with a gap year traveller homecoming! And I'm doing all the catering! Help! The 21 year old is having two parties...family and friends...fingers crossed...looking for a WOW starter that I can prepare ahed for a sit down black tie 4 course meal for 34! Any suggestions very gratefully received.
Welcome Anne, always good to see someone new.
Worrying about my 19 year old daughter who, after great debate and talking to friends living out there, has flown, with friends, from Bali to Bangkok today to fly direct to Phuket without leaving the airport. Fingers crossed everything is okay.
I'm prattling again, sorry.
Love to all wishing you a peaceful evening.
love and hugs
Ok Sue, it is late, and l may have it wrong, but once you go into the 'post a comment' you type your reply in the 'subject' so on the right hand side the slide bar should slide down and you can read all the threads! or have i, at this late hour missunderstood? so easy to do these days! Lol!
Sandra Zzzzzzzzzzzzzz xxx
Sandra and Izzy...so glad you are both back and seem to have journeyed well (Izzy sorry to hear of the infection..hope it is clearing up now) (Sandra glad you like your new friend and she is comfortable).
Saffronseed...it's a good job those women didn't shout that at me as I don't think that I'd be responsible for my actions...shocking behaviour, I also believe that what comes around goes around and I say...bring it on.
I THINK MY BRAIN HAS GONE TO SLEEP AS WHEN i'M WRITING POSTS i HAVE TO KEEP GOING BACK TO THE (OOPS CAPS!!) thread to remind me of what I want to say, I think I am going to have a notebook at the side of me to take notes for myself as I am reading!!
Heather, can't wait to hear the stories of your funny times..I'm sitting comfortably so let them begin...
Tors enjoy the party on Sunday.....forget the hair and party like a gud 'un!! Hope you have a great day :-))
Maria, Sarah, Anne,Gill and Lee and anyone else I have missed (see what I mean I need a notebook!) have a lovely Sunday hope the sun is shining for us all
Hugs Sue xx
Hi Isabelle, Grrrr, how many times do we write a long note, and press the wrong button!! think we should put a complaint in about it! where does it go? cyber space!
Anyway good to hear you are back, goodness me you had the fastest infection known, must surely have had it when you went in, the main thing is it has cleared up!
Oh those long test results!! never ending, why did l think you were going straight for radiotherapy?? sorry must have got that wrong, l will check back on the thread, when l have finished this, otherwise.....
Main thing is you are home and not too sore, and needless to say being spoilt
You will have plenty to read, to catch up on!
Hello Girls ,
I've just written a long note saying I'm glad to be back and I pressed the wrong button and it all bl**dy disapeared.
I got back from hospital this afternoon, the Doctors and Nursing Staff were great and put my mind at rest once I settled in, they all do a brilliant job and never stop working. I had my op WLE and SNB on Wednesday, when I can back to the ward I had an infection, we dont know if I already had it when I came in or what. I have been pumped full of anti biotics all week and just finished my last drip full this afternoon before coming home.I had to stay in hospital for two extra days! I've got to wait for my results for about ten days, then I'll see what happens next.It's loverly to be home and even my little grandson Sonny came with his mum to collect me from hospital, I think he was a bit concerned when he was told I was there and was determined to find out more so he came to take me home (he is only seven).
I'm glad to hear that you are home Sandra, hope all is going well.
I hope to get into all of this chat now I've got plenty of time at home.
Best Wishes to everyone
Love Isabelle xxx
Hi Ladies, bet you thought I had jumped ship !! just had hectic 2 days. Yesterday had new bedroom funiture delivered, so everything out of old wadrobe, I did get rid of 3 bags of clothes though. Then it took us ages to sort out clothes and put everything in a different place, Bobby was going into frenzy, I think he thought we where moving out lol it looked like we where. Then today had friends visit for the day, and they bought there 9month old grandson, he is adorable. Anyway I thought now I will have a bit of me time, then watch Britains Got Talent and find someone to cry with lol
Well I am not going away for so long next time, there is so many posts to read.Gill I found myself smiling at the bagpipe story 🙂 I am sorry about the node things, but hopefully fingers crossed it will be good news you have.
Tendoris loved the wig story, where did you go ?where you trvelling with Dr Who, where they your 2 friends lol
Lee, Bobby is soft with the cat most of the time, but he does get a bit mad with him occasionally. I will have to get hubby to put the picture of him on here showing you what he looked like the time I took him in the snow in the back garden. We where only out there 10 mins and he was covered in snowballs because of the type of fur he has got the snow sticks to it. Well said Lee about walking tall with our heads held high, we shoudn't have to feel embarressed.
Wow Saffron seed you sound really good, really pleased your wig was ok today, and you feel like a woman again with two breasts. Hubby thought I had lost it today. With moving all bedroom round yesterday I had lost everything, so I shouted " I have lost my breast " he came in and said "I know you had the operation last year" so I said "I mean my false one" lol
Sandra, fantastic your home, really glad it has all gone well. Dont worry about people looking at you different, I didn't give them a chance to try and look I showed them. My wound was glued so no dressing, so anyone that visited I showed them, even the postman (but he is my son in law lol) I was really pleased I was alive and wanted everybody to look at my scar, think I was just going a little bit mad at the time. I said afterwards if I can show them that side of my chest now and not be bothered, why would I have been horrified if my breast was still there. Mind you my son in law had already seen my breast, by mistake though, and a very embarrising moment. It was the first night he stayed at our house, he got up in the morning and I had on this getting very threadbare toweling robe. So I made him a cup of tea, sat talking to him, then went upstairs to get dressed. My daughter came to me in the evening and said "mum dont wear that towling robe again, when you was sat talking to Darren your tit had fell out of the side " I was so embarressed my face was red as a beetroot next time I saw him, but he has been my son in law for 20 years so I dont think it put him off lol
Maria I am sorry for how your feeling, I can understand your blip, I am glad your sons are looking after you. I hope you have a good week this week.
Tors, I love childrens birthday parties, when mine were small I was more excited than them lol hope you have a good day.
Aqua Bobby is my real softy, I will get hubby to put the picture on here for me, I am no good at those things.
Hi Anne its nice to see another new face.
Well if I have forgotten anyone I am sorry, but I hope you all have a great Sunday
Today can't be easy for you or your sons. Its good that you have your boys by your side to make the day a little easier.
Sending you lots of hugs xx
Glad you are home sandra, have been thinking about you, xxx
my hair is falling out! Am in two minds, either to sod the cold cap and just shave it as it has been driving me mad waiting to see if it would work, or whether to give it more chance and that this might just be the proportion of hair i would lose anyway with the cold cap. I feel like a dog who is malting. Am not actually too upset at present about it, though i can guarentee that i would have hunted down and abused saffron's 4 wheel drive woman, what an idiot! should have taken her reg and told the police and she'd have been cautioned for a publicorder offence ( causing distress to someone in public) what an eveil little ****** .
But i feel good again today! Been to a 5th party , and have got my own sons 5 th birthday party tmrw, and have got to decorate his cake with lots of bright green ben ten coloured goo!
Oh yes Maria, Not the easiest of days for you? Pleased your 'boys' are doing the right thing by you and carrying on with their lives as they should, and as you would want!(re: john wayne) You and your boys will have some very special memories to hold onto. Sending you love and hugs today
Had a little blip yesterday, much better today. It's been horrid weather here, Misty and rainy for 3 days, does not help the mood. I still have trees strewn about the garden, I expect the weather will be his excuse.
I am enjoying having my boys around, even if they are watching a John Wayne video at the moment. Boys can be lovely. I believe that is is due to their Dad though. He brought them up to look after and respect me, good man he was (good job we were never one to make too much of anniversaries, see my profile)
My diary has not reappeared, luckily my memory did not leave quite as definitively as my breast, I think I have managed to recuperate most of my appointments. I managed to reschedule my blood test so I can still have a lovely massage next Thursday. I have decided not to try and go to that Work course, it would mean 11 hours away for home and if I managed the journey physically, my brain could not follow. Gives me more time to do whatever else I need to do next week too. What, I don't know, but there will be plenty, like seeing friends, sorting out a wig and enrolling on one of those "be nice to yourself" courses for people with cancer.
Sandra, so happy to have you back, don't be too brave, but I think you have the right balance.
Saffronseed. Glad to hear you are swinging in all the right places, I'm still a bit stiff, feel like I am girdled up like a 1950's women at the moment !!
Lee, Aqua, Anne and Tedoris, Thanks for journeying along, hope you are all OK too.
Gill, You sound busy, why does a RAF man know how to iron, I wish my son did. Bought him one when he left home, but he has never taken it out of the box !! Luckily, my son's girlfriend took over the ironing (I did 1/2h and she did the rest)
Hugs to one and all on our journey
Aqua, Yes sons have their moments, in fact they have quite a few, Bless them xxx
Gill, Always good to be out of hospital, yes, results......xxx
I have answered you on your other post regards to 'nodes' xxx
Lee, Not brave at all, you know what it is like, we have to put on a brave face for people, and on the days we can't you lovely ladies come along and give support! xxx
Tedoris,Good to be back on here, did miss you all xxx
Wow just listen to you, sounding sooooooooooo good! So you have a 'real tit' how lucky are you? I was a bit concerned, the mind boggled at your new 'tit' swinging and moving around! hope you meant just as a 'real' one does, at that it wasn't dancing around by itself?
We all hope the bcn are being kind when they say our breasts and wigs look good, but l am sure they meant it, l have seen some really good wigs, would never have known, if l hadn't been told! do you wear a skull cap in your wig, it has been suggested it makes them more comfortable?
Be good to 'see' you, not sure l want to see your boob! but hey l am easy going liberated woman, so whatever you want to photograph you do it!xxx
Thank you l did see your other post! Thank you for your thoughts, hope you are keeping well? xxx
Maria, hope you are 'OK' and not suffering too many s/e! perhaps you have found your diary! and have just realised you have so many appointments to keep you are really too busy to be posting! hope that is the case xxx
Well l have my 'softie' in/on today, looks ok, l think? not had too many strange looks from anyone, well at least l dont think l have? now l am getting paranoid! seems as though it sits/stays in the correct position, quite comfortable.
l suppose l will get use to people coming in and looking at my breast first! at least they don't look and giggle! just vague comments like "it looks real" well after all l have a top and a cardigan on so if it doesn't look ok under that l have no hope! said to the breast care nurse, "i wish it was winter, so l could hide it until l get use to it" just have to sort my clothes out to see what is too low, never thought l had anything too low, seems l was wrong, took 3 tops before l was happy this morning. When l get the 'real' boob, l will try all my clothes on and send the rest to the lucky charity shop,
If you are on a journey this weekend, l wish you a safe one, if you are in the comfort of your own home, l wish you peace, along with lots of Hugs
Hope don't mine me butting but just wanted to say great to hear you are home Sandra have been thinking of you so pleased your op over and done with. Now rest up and let that lovely family of yours spoil you.
Saffronseed - glad you are sounding so good. Funny but it really rubs off on the rest of us when we get positive postings like yours. That's what I love about this forum being able to share the ups and downs that only we can understand.
Hope everyone having good day with some sun shine.
Love Anne xx
Hi Sandra glad to see you home its so nice to be in your home comforts and your own bed it will give you a real boost.
Yes results I was the same, what else can they tell me? the good news is that all they can really tell you is that the Op went well, they took out the whole tumour (let you know how big it was) and the margins were clear. Which I strongly suspect is the case given your surgeon was origninally suggesting another lumpectomy... but its still the waiting that gets you down.
I had my protheses fitted yesterday, brilliant, absolutely brilliant. its like a real 'tit' and feels like myself again - it swings and moves when I walk and I love it!! It is heavy in my 'hand' but in my bra and breast it doesn't feel heavy just very natural I can't praise it enough. In fact is less droopy than my other boob and much nicer.
I also wore my wig again yesterday. It felt a bit more comfortable and at the hosptial the BCN's were so admiring of it (I don't think they were putting it on) they said it really looked nice and suited me which gave me a big boost... I left the hosptial with my new protheses on too, so back to the car with hair and a boob i felt like me again and it was sooo wonderful...
I will get a photo of me with my wig on here asap. (and protheses)
Anyway take care everyone have a good weekend and hope everyone is well..
Glad to see you are home Sandra. hope you have a smooth recovery after op. Take it easy. Results I hate the words as it always means more waiting.
Hope everyone has a good weekend!
Sandra so pleased you are home...you sound very brave but I'm sure you have some moments...enjoy being back home though, always nicer to be in your own bed.
Gill, glad you had a lovely day and keep doing those exercises!
Maria, I do hope the SEs haven't kicked in too badly, sending you hugs.
Wishing everyone a good weekend...the weather is supposed to be quite good! (I'm in the south east!)
I am 'back' well at least l think l am! everything seems so unreal!Needless to say everyone in hospital was very kind and 'understanding' everyone telling me about people they know with breast cancer! not sure that always helps, but they mean well, you always get the odd one who want to tell you a terrible story! but on the whole all ok!
Three days not as bad as l expected, he did suggest i may be there until Monday/Tuesday, so was really pleased when he came round this morning and said 'you can go home now!' Although still covered with a dressing, l have looked and was 'devastated' but ok, if you know what l mean!
I have my 'softie' in, and all looks good with the world! my son picked me up and said "Hi Mum you look good, no one would ever know" so that made me feel ok! oh yes and he did finish it off with "I do love you" which made it even better.
So now l am home with my little dogs, awaiting the return of my husband.......
On the 18th l am back to the hospital for a check up, and he said results! how many more results can l take, just want to know it is all out!! if there was only pre cancer cells there, what more can l expect??
Saffronseen, why do they not make wigs that are more comfortable to wear, for goodness sake, people have been wearing them for years, surely someone must make one that is comfortable?
What can l say about that excuse for a human being! like you l am a great believer in what goes around comes aroung.....swings and roundabouts! anyway what could you have said, people like that are not worthy of a response, but one day.......xxx
Gill, Know how you feel, also had a high node involvement xxx
Maria, Good to 'see' you! Bright and Colourful so well done you....looking good, and feeling good by the sounds of it? xxx
Maria - wow, you brave lady - I like your hair, reckon it suits you. I hope you had a good day and the chemo is not being too unkind to you.
Saffronseed - How rude of the woman to say such a horrid thing to you, some people can be so unkind and RUDE!
Heather - your lovely Bobby sounds so loving! What a sweet dog
Tredoris - your wig adventure made me laugh, on the one hand its so sad but on the other to have such lovely friends by your side.
Gill - I know what you mean about the drains, totally hated the damn things! So sorry about your nodes, though so pleased for you that your scans were clear.
Lee, I too was very surprised I didn't pull any of my drains out, though it felt like I had on quite a few occasions! I'm so sorry you lost your friend.
Love and best wishes to you all
Hey Lee, what is this about being too old to be bold with your hair........
Hi Gill, dont forget those little bu@@ers are out now so they can't do any more damage, and the chemo is there to zap anything that escaped. They don't stop us going to the hairdressers for months and save money on hair removal for nothing you know. I love the idea of the bagpipes, hope you feel more comfortable soon and its getting down to the size of a lemon (melon still sounds sore)
Heather, I wanted to dye my hair purple or green, but I couldn't find any stuff to do it with. (or am I a chicken and did I take the easy way out?)
Tamdhu, You do what your feel is right, listen to your body and don't push yourself too hard. Each one of has to do what she thinks best for them, no one is the same.
Tedoris, Your story seems to come out of a Hitchcock movie, I'm glad you shared it with us don't know wether any one can beat it.
Going to attempt some ironing now
Love to you all
welcome Tamdhu, you sound as if you're doing amazingly well. Sorry I can't help as I never had rads (had a mastectomy) or tamoxifen (I'm triple negative) but I'm sure there will be plenty of advice for you soon.
Welcome Gill, so sorry to hear about the affected nodes, it must have been a shock for you. Let that FEC and Tax do its worst and stop any escapees in their tracks. Your sense of humour certainly hasn't been affected! I laughed about the bagpipes! I'd almost forgotten how many drains were left sticking out after the op! Sometimes I got yanked back to the bed by a forgotten one lurking under the bedcovers! Fortunately I never pulled any out but came close I'm sure!
Maria, great hair!I never even thought of making a statement before mine came out...perhaps I should do it now while it's only an inch long. My 20 year old thinks I should bleach it white blonde a la Agyness Deyn (a while ago) but methinks I'm a bit old for such a look...oops, I never said that! I mean the bleach is too harsh for me at the moment!
Heather I will look forward to your stories! Intriguing! Your Bobby sounds very gentle to your cat. My Mimi chases 2 of my 3 ragdolls mercilessly, in fact one has basically left home and just comes in occasionally, poor boy. The third big boy is very good with her though and will take so much ear chewing and being jumped on then gives her a slap, if he can summon up the energy from his 23 hour naps!!
Tedoris, thank you for the entertaining wig journey story! It sounded fun. Every journey is so much better with girlfriends isn't it? I did mine on my own and before I lost my hair so they (I got two but only ever really wore one) were ready and waiting. I shaved my head when it was falling out to the touch but never was lying on the pillow in the morning. That gave me some degree of control. I was very scared doing it as it seemed a major step along the road but it actually wasn't as bad as I had anticipated, surprisingly. and that's generally what I've found throughout this journey, that things are never quite as bad when you get to them as they looked from a distance. (trying to do the journey analogy but it's not really working for me is it?!) Just trying to say to those of you who are anticipating hair loss...don't worry, it's not forever and it's not so bad, in fact a little bit liberating in some ways. Just hold your head up and walk tall and face the world. And *!!* to anyone who dares to say anything like they said to saffronseed.
Sorry I've gone on a bit!
lots of love
Sandra, thinking of you, there will be a lot for you to catch up on when you're home and up to reading this thread.
Hope treatments are going okay.
Well I embarked on the WIG adventure this week! I armed myself with 2 trusted friends(one my hairdresser) and we hit the pavements of North Scotland. Enjoyed the obligatory Cafe for lunch before hunting down in my vision this fantastic Hair Salon full of wigs!! O how our faces changes as we seen a tatty sign above the double doors. As we entered we were led up an old but empressive staircase!
Then through the glass door we stepped back in time!!! Old slatted wooden saloon doors with the smell of setting lotion greeted us! Silence with nervous grins. We were ushered into what seemed like a cupboard! Only to be greeted by a grey wig set in rollers! Horror I just wanted to run but my trusted friends reasured me it would be ok! As the lovely assistant hunted through the 'shoe' boxes to see what would suit me! After searching we realized it just wasnt going to happen! Ahh I have one but its not your colour! As I sat there she placed a wig black with red highlights (fair hair as in picky). What a shock although once brushed the style was ok! But what a contast in colour!!! Trying to convince me my friend checked its quality, now I felt like I was being checked for nits! Phew nothing found!
We can order it in your colour the assistant informed me! Great quality friend replied!
I then seen Dolly a long wig I have never had long hair so just wanted to try, my chance to see if long hair suited me! As I placed the wig on my clothes suddenly turned into the perfect outfit for line dancing! glancing to my left I could see my trusted (or not so trusted ) friends holding back the giggles! Perhaps not long then!
We then were ushered from the cupboard with the knowledge that I will have to return when ordered wig arrives!
Luckily this Adventure for which I will never forget turned pleasureable due to the company I had with me and the journey home was of 3 gigling girls! Had I been alone it would have been tears!
Has anyone else had WIG Adventures!
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Hi Ladies, hope your all feeling reasonably well.
Saffronseed what a really awful woman (I could use stronger word for woman really lol)how can people be so rude, but like you say what comes round goes round I hope thats what happens. Really glad you seem to be getting on with your chemo ok.
Maria Love the orange hair, wish I had done what you have done, I was going to colour mine purple before it came out but I never got round to it.
Dont you ladies worry about being a baldy, I was dreading it, and I got more upset losing my hair than my breast. But after the first few days I got use to it, and I thought losing my hair is a small price to pay if it helps me to live.
Sandra, hope every thing is going well, hurry back I need to know about the 3 legged dog lol
Izzy hope your op went ok and you will be back with us soon.
Lee 3 dogs how fantastic, I love animals, not to good with mice and rats and things. Bobby is a Lhaso Apso but he is such a comfort to me. I went out with a friend on Tuesday and when I came home hubby said talk about Grey Friars Bobby, your Bobby just lay in the hall looking at the door and crying lol but he is so nice to come home to. He makes me laugh because we have a Persian cat as well, and he is so miserable lol hubby says he is plotting to rule the world, but when we come in
Bobby is running round in circles for a fuss, then he always going up to the cat and touches him with his nose has if to tell him were home.
Well ladies today I am cleaning out my wadrobe and draws, and I am throwing out all the things that dont fit me no more. I have put loads of weight on with the chemo and Arimidex and I have lots of stuff that doesn't fit. So today it as to go, on a brighter note If I manage to lose some weight I will buy new things. So watch this space and I will tell you how brave I have been lol
Right going to get started, I hope this post reads ok because I am doing it on hubbys lap top and I always get in a mess, I am very accident prone, and do stupid things prone lol I will tell you some of the things I have done one day.
Anyway ladies love to you all, and I hope anyone who is having treatment today it goes ok.
Hi , this is my first comment on the site though I have taken a lot from it in the way of strength and humility. I too am about to embark on a journey of six weeks rads and tamoxifen. I am thinking about working through the treatment. I have been off work for 3 weeks to cover surgery and intend to go back on Monday and but need to negotiate time off for treatment tomorrow.
Is this feasible ? Am I doing the right thing?
Thanks to anyone who reads this. Best wishes to all.