Thank you for posting on our thread. I do hope you are well and that bc is not the first thing you think about when you wake up in the morning.
To answer your question, I went to South Africa, and while I was away the others visited my home in Switzerland for a "virtual vist". They had a lot of fun, I believe, and wrecked my place with their laughter and their "virtual fun" ! Goodness me, how times flies, a lot has happened since then, but unfortunatly, I have not managed to return to Sout Africa since 2010.
Have a cosy Christmas and take care of yourself.
Good Christmas Evening to all you ladies here.
I'm on my tod tonight and over Xmas, but I'm enjoying revisiting various threads I've popped onto occasionally, such as this.I was interested to go right back to your source post, Marial and have a quick read. Please do tell me where that special 2 week holiday back in May 2010 was to ??
I was a latecomer to this wonderful forum 2015, after my BC experience 2006 and 2007 (both mastectomies and full node clearance, but thankfully no chemo or rads). Sooo wished I'd found it sooner. It's been a godsend and I've had amazing support and shared laughter, (tears and rants also) from so many wonderful, loving and compassionate women, including yourselves, in many a dark hour.
Lucky that BC has not caused any further problems physically, but has unfortunately been one of the major contributing factors to Bipolar, amongst many other trauma's, losses, grief.
I am hoping you are all well, or if not, I wish you strength that you soon will be.
Wishing everyone a very Merry Christmas and a Happy, Healthy and Contented New Year.
I too am one of the ladies who found this wonderful forum , and the thread about embarking was a wonderful lifeline for me in those awful dark days. I was Dx 8 years ago this week . A large lump with its friends in my axilla too. After all the treatment I am happy to be moving on and living life to the full . It has been a privilege and a pleasure to chat with all the ladies on this thread, what friends we have become. How the time has gone by. We have kept in touch and share joys and sometimes sadness too .
Is it really 7 years since we met, Maria, Saffron! Seems like you girls have been in my life forever! So lucky to have found you for support during those awful months of treatment. We had lots of tears, but lots of laughs too. Only way to get through this dreadful disease.
I was diagnosed in February 2010, mastectomy, chemo, rads. Sadly lots of lymph nodes with cancer. But I am still here, never thought I would say ‘cancer isn’t the first thing I think about when I wake up in the morning’
For those ladies starting this nightmare, find a nice group of ladies and stick with them through treatment, start your own group. The support you give each other will be truly amazing, it will get you through on those dark nights.
And a special Thank you to breast cancer care, without you we wouldn’t have the truly amazing friendship and support we still have today. We come from all over the UK and overseas too! And we still manage to meet for some fun, as we are this Friday........ plenty of wine/coffee and good company xxx
yep I also am one of the Embarkers and can't thank Maria or this forum enough for giving me this support and friendship over the years. It is Pink October which some people don't 'like' (the Pink bit anyway). For me if it brings attention to Breast Cancer and raises awareness and gives additional funding for both support and for research then I will go Pink anyday. I too am over 7 years down the line - I had a huge tumour, lots of nodes involved and had mx, chemo rads and I am still on hormone tablets but yes I am fit well and happy so what more can I ask xxxx
7 years on and still here !! and 14 years living with bc.
Thank you to the forums for having allowed us to support each other so well. The original members of this group have now moved on. We are 16 (we were 18) and have very different stories but we are still in contact and supporting each other through thick and thin. Hugs to anyone who remembers us and hug to thoses who don't.
Take care of yourselves,
Haven't been here for such a long time so belated thanks Marial to your messages of last year!!
And I repeat everyone's praise for this wonderful supportive forum, allowing us to be in contact with other alike BC-ers.
I also repeat the praise to all the staff who enable and maintain it.
Speak to us Mands123. How you doing??
Today is the 7th anniversary of the routine mammo .... and we all know what happened next. I found this thread some while after my Dx. And I have been so grateful for the ongoing love and support we have shared. It has been wonderful to meet so many very special ladies xxx
Hello Maria, I'm pleased to have found your follow up post. Since my first dx when I met you six years ago many of us Embarking ladies have become such firm and suportive friends for eachother. Life has been better for knowing you and my other special friends. It's amazing how we have all been able to meet up from all parts of Britain and Europe, and all walks of life. I have recently had great support from you and our other friends when I needed further treatment. Thank you for all your support and here's to many more get togthers wherever they may be taking place xxx
Another year has gone by. The organisation of the forums seems to have changed yet again, but as I don't come here very often, I may well just forget. Can I blame chemo brain 6 years on ?
So now in 2016, I am 13 years passed my first diagnosis and 6 years on from my 2nd. There is hope, that bc does not become your biggest problem ! Unfortunatly this is not the case for some of our members of this threat started in 2010. However this is a positive message to thank the staff that enable these forums to continue because they were certainly a life-line for me in 2010.
I wish everyone all the best.
ps sorry hellywelly, I did not reply to your message, I hope your holiday to Florida went well. I'm sure you realised, you just get on with it, but it was not always easy.
I have just come across one of your messages I I saw you flew to south Africa after chemo how long was your flight! I'm going to be starting another six lots of chemo and I'm pushing to start this week so if all is OK then I would be off to florid a 3 weeks later, just wanted some advice please x
Oh, Delly, what a shame we don't come here very often now. You understand us very well, yes we are barking mad. I hope your reconstruction sorts it self out soon. I think we had left the forums by the time it was reconstruction time, not an easy time at all, but for those who went through it, it was worth it in the end. Take care of yourself, be kind to yourself and let others take care of you too. There is life after bc, but it also has its troubles and its joys too.
I've been pestering and annoying the ladies on the newly dignosed thread, even though I'm 9 (at 47yrs) and 8 years down the line. Told them I shouldn't be taking up their thread space, time,ears and eyes but they've assured me they still want me (awww nice! ).
Briefly, 2nd boob diag and mast wasn't even a year apart from the first. Took me 8 years (am now 56 - boohoo) to be able to embark on implant recon last March, due to a series of other major traumas and losses :- my Dad, business, income, home, partner, Mum then bruv, as well as boobs + moving area. I need a job, income, partner and am not afraid to admit - I'm very lonely. Are you feeling sorry for me yet ?? And do any of you want a lodger ??
Am part way through the recon trek, should have had my expanders > silicon replacement op last Sept, but it got cancelled and I then lost the momentum because of a big mental downer slump. It's a long process to commit to coming from delayed nothingness, and I have until next March to get back onto the recon horse before I may start having probs with the expanders. So I either need to get a labotomy, head transplant or connect a couple of wires to my temples to kick start my brain - try and get a more positive attitude back. My poor cat's fed up with me being miserable.
So, now I've found some more people to annoy - at all different stages of pre-op, post op. and I like bonkers/barking people 'cos I can be that way myself. But am not without a serious, empathetic and compassionate side as well tho'.
Nice to meet you all. I'll spend a bit of time dipping into some of the previous posts here and I believe I have you, Maria, to thank for it. I think some other buddies who are now further down the line than "just diagnosed" may be popping on as well. Hope that's okay - well tough if it is.
Thank you Jo, always good to hear the 'doing' well posts as well as the 'help' very frightening time for all the new ladies, so my heart goes out to them all. Stay well Jo. as for birthdays and diagnosis, told my family they are never to refer to the date as my diagnosis it is just a my youngests (38) birthday! xxx You stay well too xxx
Ah Sandra that's so lovely to read, I have found this site an absolute god send and feel like I have made some lovely friends, my treatment ended on my sons Birthday and I was diagnosed 28 years to the day I met my husband so both dates will always be bitter sweet to us! Long may you continue to be well and happy 😊😊 Jo
9th February 2010 will be with me forever (my sons birthday!) unfortunately a day l was diagnosed with breast cancer. I joined breast cancer care a month or so later, it was a lifeline for me. Even today l feel emotional when l come on here.
For all you ladies who are just starting on this journey, l know how terrified you are feeling, you will get there, support each other, join in with one of the very special groups that start on here. I joined with the Embarking on an adventure started by 'our' Maria. We laughed, and cried lots, but mostly we laughed, because we were so supportive of each other, when one lady 'fell' we soon picked her up.
After all our treatment we moved over to facebook! for whatever reason, it was supposed to be just us 'embarking' ladies, but our group has grown and grown, almost 1000 members.
Some of the original ladies meet on a regular basis, even though they come from all over the UK along with Switzerland and Spain. More than happy to tell you we are meeting in few weeks time in London. Cant wait to give my life long friends a special hug xxx xxx Stay strong ladies, make your own supportive group, it really will help going through your treatment.
A special Thank You to Breast Cancer Care for all their very hard work, for all their online support, they have an amazing helpline, which l used lots of times back in 2010. Without you 'we' would never have met xxx
To celebrate the new forums, I am just posting here to say Hi to all those who "know" me and welcome to any who don't. I was diagnosed with bc in 2003 the first time (and again in 2010) and so will be posting in Oct or November to announce my 10 years after my annual scan.
These new forums take a bit of getting used to, but they are worth it, I have met such a lot of wonderful people. Our little group is meeting up mid Sept. We have met up for real many times since meeting here. Virtual friends that have become real friends. Such support is great.
Take care of yourself everyone.
Hugs to you all, Maria xx
Welcome to the BCC discussion forums where I am sure you will get lots of good, honest support from the many informed users of this site. As well as your fellow forum users our helpline team are just a free phone call away if you need to talk to someone in confidence. 0808 800 6000 lines open Mon-Fri 9-5 and Sat 10-2
Yes agree with you Maria in that the mods might want to 'move us on' to another 'title'
Maria; without you starting this thread we would not have got together, and become the good friends we have.
To any 'newbies' reading this:
This site got me through in my dark days and without it I don't know where I would have been. Yes it's true we have migrated to FB but I will never, ever forget BCC and the wonderful work they do. Whenever I go to hospital, or hear of somebody newly dx, I always mention BCC - I had a recon the other week and some of the ladies were still getting their heads around dx and the mx..... needless to say I mentioned this site and how it got me through.
Thank you Maria and BCC for being there when I needed you most xxx
Love & Hugs, Dee xxx
Ps: Wendy if you want to join us just PM any of us....
PS to the moderators, you may want to move our thread to "living with bc" because that is what we are doing now, athough some of us are still on tamoxyfen or arimidex or femara.
I have been away from here for a long time, thinking I was protecting myself. Coming back here has made me cry, but not in a bad way. It is different from our face-book group. I am having a bit of "What is the meaning of life crisis", but I am humbled by reading the posts of all those people facing what we faced in 2010, and by those who have never left and continue to support the newbies and each other. I was a newbie once and I will never forget those who supported me. I am sorry that my life has got in the way of staying here to support everyone.
To those who have been here from the beginning, you know what you mean to me, to those who I have had the privilege to meet, I am so greatful to you, and to all those who have the curiostiy to come to our thread, welcome, take care of yourselves and know that you will get great strength and support for the forums and will meet some wonderful people. To the bcc staff thank you for all you do to enable us to meet and support each other, it means such a lot, and helps us more than you can imagine.
hugs to one and all xx Maria
We had a wonderful meet on 16th April. it was so good to meet up with the people that have kept me sane(ish) over the past 2 years. For anyone that was lurking on our thread sorry we have disappeared but we are on facebook and still give each other so much support. If anyone wants to join us please inbox me.