Sue I am sorry to hear that you feel you are struggling. What operation are you having next - DIEP? If you have any questions about this, I can tell you my experience. More generally, is there a cancer support centre or group near you or at your hospital? Maggies or The Haven for example. Maybe you can ask your BCN? Do let your BCN know how you feel. I do think this disease is particularly hard for single people practically and emotionally. Maybe it would help to meet other ladies in a similar position? Could you bring yourself to try something new that might give you a focus other than the BC - yoga, tai chi, aqua aerobics, cake-making, book club, WI, gardening club??? I know it feels very hard at the moment because your treatment is ongoing. On the other hand, the positive side of having cancer (!!!) is that you really understand that you have to get as much out of every day as you can. Hoping you feel better soon. Xx
Hello - i have had a mastectomy with a DIEP reconstruction (still needs more work!). So i have a large abdomen scar too. The whole cancer journey is a grieving process and losing a body part is also a grieving process. You will go through stages of denial, anger, sadness, maybe even depression. If you think about it, it’s a completely normal reaction. People who haven’t had BC cannot understand, and maybe we shouldn’t expect them to. But you are strong and will get through this. Unbelievably, in some ways i feel better about myself now than before i had a lot of life-changing and “disfiguring” surgery. Weird but true. But it takes a while to get there. I can only say that I have found the following helpful: counselling, yoga (or try meditation), walking, reflexology, Zumba, DVD box sets, buying shoes. Lots of shoes. Find what works for you, but be open to trying new things. Don’t be afraid to lean on your friends and family for some emotional support at this time. I promise you however **** you feel now, it will get better. In the meantime we are all here to support you and send you best wishes. Xx
Emily here from Someone Like Me at Breast Cancer Care.
I'm so sorry to hear how about how you've been feeling.
I wanted to let you know that Breast Cancer Care has telephone volunteers who have been in a similar position to you and have now completed their treatment. They know what it's like to need to talk to someone who understands - both physically and emotionally.
If you'd like to speak one of them, then feel free to send us your contact details through this link and we'll get in touch to arrange for a volunteer to call you.
I hope this helps
Do be kind to yourself, you're only one week post surgery & what you're feeling is quite normal, not unusual & it's a bit of a grief reaction to losing your breast as well as recovering from surgery.
I did not have a mastectomy, but other ladies have felt as you have in not wanting to look at the scar. When you feel more able to, it might be an idea to have someone with you who you trust & as ever, the prospect of it is generally worse than the reality.
As Anna says, It might be an idea to post on 'surgery' in the 'going through treatment' board.
I am sorry that you havent recieved a response to your post yet. It is more likely that if you post on Going through treatment particularlyon the surgery board you will recieve the support you are looking for. Our Helpline is also here for you 0808 800 6000.
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