Hello - i have had a mastectomy with a DIEP reconstruction (still needs more work!). So i have a large abdomen scar too. The whole cancer journey is a grieving process and losing a body part is also a grieving process. You will go through stages of denial, anger, sadness, maybe even depression. If you think about it, it’s a completely normal reaction. People who haven’t had BC cannot understand, and maybe we shouldn’t expect them to. But you are strong and will get through this. Unbelievably, in some ways i feel better about myself now than before i had a lot of life-changing and “disfiguring” surgery. Weird but true. But it takes a while to get there. I can only say that I have found the following helpful: counselling, yoga (or try meditation), walking, reflexology, Zumba, DVD box sets, buying shoes. Lots of shoes. Find what works for you, but be open to trying new things. Don’t be afraid to lean on your friends and family for some emotional support at this time. I promise you however **** you feel now, it will get better. In the meantime we are all here to support you and send you best wishes. Xx
