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Athens
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Re: Feeling anxious and alone

Hi Joanne

I hope the appointment with the oncologist went ok. I would encourage you to ask questions, share experiences on the forum and to call the helpline - I have got so much reassurance from both.

I try to be positive but sometimes I have a bit of a meltdown so do not beat yourself up if feeling down. Exercise such as walking and yoga really helps lift my mood so eg yesterday after a not great meeting at the hospital I went off for a fast walk to work out my anger.

I agree with Sue that researching the various treatments has helped me to understand better and try to have some control.

Alongside the chemo I am doing what I can through my diet, exercise, meditation, counselling and seeking to avoid stress. At least that way I feel I am doing something to help myself.

We are all different and have different reactions to the chemo but what we have in common is this forum to share our fears, experiences and to ask for help and advice.

Take care
Athens.
sugar8
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Re: Feeling anxious and alone

Hi Joanne76.
The fear of the unknown is always tangible but try and stay strong and positive. As the weeks go by the emotions get easier to control. I found that researching into the different treatments helped me to understand better, take control and stay positive.
i will still only share my condition with close and trusty people.The problem with chemo is that it becomes more obvious but there is sooooooo much help out there,so try and take one step at a time. You might only get minimal SEs. Keep strong and good luck with your treatment
BIM
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Re: Feeling anxious and alone

Hi Joanne, I did reply earlier but no idea if it sent and think I said I had completed chemo 5, I meant 4! Wishful thinking! Chemo isnt fun but its do able, I promise. Keep a sense of humour with you at all times! I have found SE ok ish...what I have learnt is my chemo gremlins have a pattern..this was from chemo 1 SO I am able to predict them in advance. If you are feeling rough then just think any cancer cells are going to be feeling rougher! You are stronger and smarter than chemo SE, trust me. Are you going to use the cold cap? I didnt want to loose my hair as didnt want to look 'ill' and it felt like insult to injury, I had a bilateral mastectomy so body image not at its best! Cold cap is COLD! But I have kept my hair so far. You will cope, I promise. Sometimes its easier venting to strangers or maybe write down how you are feeling. Its a horrid journey but it will end and you WILL cope and realise what a strong resiliant person you are. Niki xxxx
Jaffacakes
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Re: Feeling anxious and alone

Joanne, your reaction sounds really normal to me. I have days of utter panic and fear. And some days when I think it will all be ok. I'm towards the end of my treatment now, and it is extraordinary what you can get used to. You just end up dealing with the daily practicalities. Somehow the anticipation can be worse than the reality. If your anxiety is making it really hard to manage, your GP may be able to help with some anti anxiety medication. I'm glad that you have a good diagnosis. Just be kind to yourself; it's a horrible shock to be in this place.
Joanne76
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Re: Feeling anxious and alone

Hi thank you for replys it really helps if only for a bit to have them, I speak to Bc nurse all the time and she just keeps saying you have a really good dx and ur going to be fine. Just can't stop worrying about how I'm going to cope when I seem to have already fallen apart in every way.

Joanne xxx
Sue123
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Re: Feeling anxious and alone

Hi Joanne, it is a scary time and I felt exactly the same when I was first diagnosed. I have had several months of chemo and just finished radiotherapy too. it is tiring and I too found it hard to speak to people about it, in fact i was quite horrible to people initially as I didn't know how to deal with my feelings.

But hey, its human nature to become accustomed to stuff, both good and bad and you will adjust. Have you spoken to your breast care nurse? mine is great and so reassuring without being sugary sweet.

I am not usually one to go on internet forums but i write in something most days on the forum for my chemop which was February 2014 and receive so much camaraderie and support.

You will get there, be kind to yourself and watch out for the tactless comments from friends and family.I have realised they only want to help but sometimes they are anything but!!

Love Sue x

rosie14
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Re: Feeling anxious and alone

Joanne it is a relatively short time in your life to give you hope for the future. You really do need the support of others around you and one of the best ways is by using this forum. If you join the monthly thread that you commence chemo you will follow the journey with others going through everything that you are. We don't all have the same side effects and their are medications to take to ease any of the side effects. Don't keep all this to yourself share with others and you will find you get the strength to proceed! Good luck with your appointment next week and hopefully it will give you the reassurance that you need. x

Joanne76
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Re: Feeling anxious and alone

Thank you lovewine, only hope I can find that inner strength from somewhere, this is consuming me and do t no how to stop it.

Xxxx
Lovewine
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Re: Feeling anxious and alone

Hi Joanne, we can all relate to your feelings right now! You will find so much help and support on here and even better to join a thread with other ladies in your time frame of treatment, I am on the April thread with fab ladies having chemo at same time, you will find you will great advice and tips, it's amazing also where you find strength you didn't think you had! Chemo isn't as bad as we all fear, I have managed to work part time through now to round 5 and walk my dogs daily and have very much a normal life, if I could give one bit of advice that's what it would be- try to keep normality if possible, your results sound positive , good luck with the treatment! Wendy x
Joanne76
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Feeling anxious and alone

Here goes,

I have been on here reading for hours and amazed by everyone's positivity.
I am sitting here alone after turning down all offers from family and friens to go out.
Since dx iv had operation, with clear margins and clear nodes, grade 3.
I have app to talk about chemo next week.
I find it really hard just talking about that I have this (hence pushing people away)
I am so scared about this treatment and how I will cope with it especially when I am already in the state I am, just wonder and praying that I will be able to muster the courage and positivity that you all seem to have.

Joanne 38 xxx