Thank you all for your advice it is very comforting , and makes me feel that I am not alone . You are right I am going to concentrate on myself I have come this far already and half way there , there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Sending you you all big hugs and love
About stopping my chemo, this was last October. My blood counts went too low to safely continue which is not unusual. When that happens they can do one of three things. They can lower your dose. or they can give you longer in between your chemo sessions or as in my case they can assess the situation to determine that you have had sufficient.
My cancer was tiny 3mm, no lymph nodes and I had chemo because they wanted me on Herceptin and they cannot give that without chemo. So my plan was changed and the radiotherapy was brought forward, I continue on the Herceptin and I still have 2 more of those to come.
They tailor your plan to you and all you can do is trust them. I do what they recommend and that is all that any of us can do.
Hi Helen, I think you just need to concentrate on yourself at this point in time. Feeling low with the chemo is enough,without other emotional turmoil. I know some partners feel quite helpless, which is understandable, as this is very much a journey you do by yourself. Anyway, sending a big hug. and a medal 🎖- you are so nearly there - let us know when you ring the bell. Best feeling in the world ! X
Hi Helen I absolutely agree the last round of chemo seems far more doeable it's a day you look forward to and you seem to recover far more quickly. Nearly there keep going! 💐
Blueash so they changed your regime as well , was this recently? X
The last one is fine because it's the end and mentally you feel so much better.
They changed my chemo from the planned 6 down to 4. You will soon be on the home stretch and have it all behind you. Come on here and we will help you through it - I was so grateful for all the help and support from the women here. Your taste buds will come back, so will your hair and one day you will find yourself helping someone who is right where you are now - I promise xxx
Yes this one has got me feeling yuck straight away , I hope the last one is a bit kinder x
So one more round left to go then. I think the third one is the hardest.....onwards and upwards. Let your family rally round you xx
Thank you al. For your kind messages I'm very lucky to have a very supportive family behind me , I have one chemo left thankfully , I was scheduled for 8 but they changed it to 4 which I'm not complaining about . It's just hard when you are at home feeling like this after a double masectomy , expanders in and going through chemo and to top it all off only 25% of your hair left . I agree men can be so insensitive at times , he had a stomach ache the other day you would of thought he just had his leg bit off by a shark I felt like saying try battling the demons I am dealing with at the moment .
Some men are like that - I expect he would be the same if you had a broken leg and were not your usual self!
Anyway, you have to concentrate on you and getting better - you can give time and energy to him when you have some to spare but for now just know that you are entering your rough time and can expect to be there for a few days. My chemo is behind me now but I can still recall how tired I was. In a few days you will start to rally and feel much better. This is the ideal place to unload negative emotions because we all understand what is happening to you.
Try to imagine that you are dealing with a child and don't expect him to be reasonable, it will preserve your sanity xxx
Unfortunately some partners are not very good at dealing with this. Do you have any family or friends that can pop by and give you a hand? The first couple of days after chemo are very challenging right? How many have you got left to go?
Sending a hug xx
Sorry for the off load on here but I'm feeling down , I had my 3rd chemo yesterday and to make it all worse my other half is not talking to me , we fell out a few days ago and since then have had contact by two text messages we have been together for 8 years so this is really hurting me and that fact that I'm going through all this as well.