Good to hear that you are now getting the support you need, and brill that your husband has turned this around, it isn't always easy to change ones stance but he sounds like a good chap!
All the best for next week.
I am sorry that you are worrying about school arrangements on top of everything else. I used to be married to someone similar, one time I attended his uncle's funeral without him because he had a meeting that was too important to miss! This however is another league.
Just because it is day surgery does not mean it is not serious.
I hope you were not planning on getting back from the hospital on 20th by yourself? They won't let you do that in any case, after general anasthetic they will only release you into the care of another adult.
Do you drive your son to and from school? I left it a week before I tried driving after my wle and snb and that was still quite uncomfy.
Your husband needs to accept that your are being treating for a life threatening disease and that there may be months of further treatment ahead. He should be thanking his lucky stars that the cancer has been found and that you are being treated for it, not whinging that it's causing disruption to his life.
I'm not suprised you are feeling a little let down.
Tell him you are not having a tooth out, you are having quite a big operation and he had better grow up and support you and his family.
I had WLE and SNB in March and no you will not be able to drive or take the dogs out for about 10 days to a fortnight.
Good luck with the op and take care of yourself
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