Hi, I prepared thoroughly, by getting and starting to wear mine within a few days of starting chemo. So glad i did. It took longer than I expected to get a suitable one and a shorter time than expected for hair to start going - I had worn wig for a while by then, found one I was happy with to swop into, and on the night it started rang a friend to ofload, grabbed a hat to wear in bed in case it was fast and coped a lot better than expected.
I bought a wig from the hospital. I just made an appointment to look at what was available. I was able to order 2 and take them home to see what family thought and to try them out. If I didn't like them there was no obligation to buy them. i am in England so they are not free but are subsidised through the hospital. A Macmillan Grant can help with the cost too. I only wore my wig when I went out socialising in the evening. I didn't wear anything in the house but had a little cap handy incase anyone came to the door. I wore scarfs when I went out in the day. I found my wig comfortable - not hot or itchy and everyone that seen it commented on how good it looked. My hair is coming back now so will use scarfs/wigs less. Good luck
I loved my wigs! We get a free one every 6 months here in Scotland, and they were good ones retailing around £200. It does help if you live near somewhere that you can try them on, I would hate to choose one by mail order. I did buy some scarves and some of them already made up into little hats but hated myself in them. I had a little jersey hat for wearing in the house when it was chilly but mostly went bare headed around the house although I kept a hat near the front door in case I didn't know who was there. I was 56 at the time of treatment and worked through most of it., I felt more in control when I had my wig on, and couldn't have coped with pitying glances if I had worn a scarf. Hardly anyone knew I had cancer until well after I was finished treatment! Everyone is different though and a colleaque of mine has gone to work with her scarf - I think that is very brave and I couldn't have done that all. Hope you find the best solution for you but it does get very cold with nothing on your head and the winter is coming soon 😉
I hate hats too - but I was happy enough with scarves in public and bald at home (I live alone). I had a couple of woolly hats to put over scarves when I was going out and it was very cold (2010/11 winter - a cold one!)
I don't think you are being morbid or jumping the gun, and I don't know if you are being realistic as I don't know your treatment plan, what I do know is that you are taking back a bit of control and approaching this in the right way for you - and that is all that matters.
If you are having chemo going into winter you will need something to keep your head warm when you are out and about, and you will probably want something when you are the hospital (you will meet people in wigs, scarves, hats, buffs, and bare heads).
There are probably a million thoughts going through your head now and if you are like me at all, it's a big help to think about things and take back a bit of control.
If you have chemo then hair loss is very likely (though some ladies who use cold-caps do manage to keep some or most of their hair). I am in Scotland, so a bit different from other parts of the UK, but even so, as far as I understand if you are treated on the NHS you are given a prescription or a voucher for a wig. You take this to an approved supplier (may be in the hospital or a wig shop or a hairdresser) and they will let you try on different colours and styles to find one you like. Wigs are free in Scotland and I think the price is capped in England, Wales and Northern Ireland.
To be honest, even though my wig was lovely, I never wore it (except the day I had my head shaved and the wig trimmed by a hairdresser) because I found it too sore and itchy at the start and was so happy with scarves, bandannas and hats I never switched.
It's worth having a look around at what's on offer, as it is very personal. One website I used which sells really inexpensive bandannas is called annabandana http://www.annabandana.co.uk/ but there are plenty of others you can fine - some do hats with fringes or partial wigs, which some people prefer. other people quite like buffs e.g. http://www.bandanashop.com/original-buff.html?gclid=CIiO6efhzbkCFZQZtAodFBAA5g. There is no one 'right' answer.
Hope that helps a little bit - I'm sure other people can point you to other websites too.