I understand completely where you are coming from. I have also been trying to find support and/or anecdotes from people who have refused treatment, and cannot find any. I have stage 1, grade 2 idc, 27mm according to the ultrasound, going for results of the scans today. I will be having the surgery, as that's the only part of the process that I understand, but if I can possibly get away with it I am going to refuse the rads and the chemo. If I can. I am still researching this, but will know more later today.
I can't agree with you not having surgery, and I think you'd be really mad at yourself if it grows to the point where future surgery would disfigure you (or metsastasize), but I am totally with you with the rest of the treatment, especially given how small your tumour is. If it's small - you didn't give any details. And I don't know how old you are. I am 56.