I had a mastectomy 3 weeks ago and have been trying to hold it together for everyone around but finding very hard when I’m on my own. I’ve got so much support from friends and family who are being amazing but I’m beginning to feel lonely as there’s no-one apart from my husband who I can tell my real feelings to. He’s trying to say all the right things and is being fantastic but I still need to ask questions to others who have been or are going through the same thing. I’ve been searching and I can’t seem to find the information anywhere on a number of things. I’m heading for both chemotherapy and radiotherapy and wondered if you had to stay away from the children for a certain amount of time after both of these. With the Chemo how long did it take for your hair to start falling out after the first treatment?
When did you show your partner your mastectomy scar? I was so bruised and swollen initially that I thought I’d wait until it looked a bit better but the longer it goes on I think it’s developing into a bit of a problem. I think the issue is I don’t feel sexy anymore so I think he won’t think I am either although he assures me he does and that he really doesn’t mind what I look like. I didn’t think I would be this vain about it - it’s ridiculous. After all I’ve had 3 children and am over 40 so they probably weren’t that fantastic in the first place!
How long after the chemo and radiotherapy have ended are you able to consider surgery for reconstruction? Also is there any particular surgeon in the south of England you would particularly recommend to go and see? The other issue I’ve been thinking about is the fact that if you have the reconstruction do you have the good side operated on to match as it’s heading south a bit! The issue with this is that future Mammograms on that side are seemingly going to be difficult and more painful. Has anybody got any suggestions about this? Also after a reconstuction, how long are you not allowed to lift for?
Thanks x