lesley, so sorry to hear about your mum. Cant really say any more than the others have said. vsincere condolences to you and your family.x
So sorry to hear you lost your Mum at least you made her last days more comfortable for her it would have meant alot to her. I lost my cancer buddy through the same thing we buried her yesterday. My heart goes out to you your farther and family and friends I feel so emotional for the family because I know one day I will put mine through this through that awful awful B*****Y disease
May your memories give you comfort in the days ahead and remember your mum has gained her wings Lesley may she fly high with no more pain
Love and (((((hugs))))) xxx
So sorry to hear that your Mum has passed away but it would have been a great comfort for her to know you were there with her - as I'm sure it will be for you and the rest of the family. Look after yourself and come back on here at any time - you know you're in safe hands.
Good to hear that mum is comfortable at home. I am sure you are a great comfort to her. Yes, normality is a great thing
Dinkybaby, so sorry to hear your news. As i said before we went through it with my mum. I was the first to be told and then my dad but he didnt want mum to know (she was also deaf and had the start of dementia, but i think dep down she knew) which was hard as we couldnt ask macmillan or anyone to help. She did have nursing care towards the end though which was a big help so please dont be afraid to ask for any help and support you need. Just be with her..it will be enough for her to know you're there...and remember, we are all here for you. Massive hugs to you both. xx
Hi Dinkybaby, thinking of you both...sorry mums condition is worse, give her a hug from me
We are all here for you, keep us posted.
Sending you and your Mum some gentle hugs. Very sorry to hear her condition is deteriorating at a far quicker rate that you had thought. Hoping that she is as comfortable as she can be and to say that you are being such a huge support for her. Take care
Dinkybaby1, I'm sorry your mum has progressed so quickly. My mom had mets to the liver from small cell lung cancer. She was doing great one week then the very next week her liver wasn't functioning. I couldn't believe how fast things changed. Hugs to both of you! FF
Dinkybaby, so sorry to hear your news. My mum was diagnosed with primary two weeks after me and she had a mastectomy and radiotherapy but refused chemo (or as my dad says was advised not to have it due to her other medical problems and her age ..79????). I was diagnosed with SBC in 2014 but mums checkups were always clear, although ahe was getting very frail, losing lots of weight etc. They eventally called her in for some tests as she had chest/breathing problems but i'm not sure wat they did. We werecalled in the next day and told that her cancer had spread to her lungsand iver and there was nothing they could do. She died about 6 weeks later, this time last year, so she actally lived for 4 years without any form of treatment. As you can gather from that i totally understand how you feel to get such news. I would agree with the others and seek a second opinion. There are usually more treatment options than she seems to have been given but obviosly we dont know her background/history. All i can say is my thoughts are with you both . Please keep posting...we are all here for you.x
i abdolutely agree with stillhere. You can, by the way try, for a second opinion and that opinion possibly at the christie or the marsden might help the doctors locally to make decisions on a new option. I am sorry sbout the info you have recieved. And sonetimes junior doctors are less experienced at explaining things
Maybe your first option/idea might be to phone the consultants secretary and explain that you'were left feeling a little 'unclear' about what you had been told and ask if you could get an early appointment to see the consultant.
Please keep us updated, Moijanxx
Hi Dinkybaby, so sorry to read about your Mum's horrid experience. It's difficult to advise when I don't know your Mums clinical details but it seems as though there should be more options for her. In your shoes I would think about getting a second opinion over here at a specialist centre, as others have said. The Christie hospital is in Manchester, is that a possibility for you?
Wishing you and your Mum lots of hugs xxx
What a shock for you and your Mum, and it sounds like it wasn't delivered in a very sympathetic way. Although I have been around this forum for many years and have read about all sorts of treatments it is difficult to suggest what could be done with your Mums treatment form now on. However what I do suggest is that you get a second opinion, at a different hospital. I have requested this on 2 occasions to check that the treatment I am about to start is the correct one and have both times gone to the Marsden. Depending where your Mum lives there are other centres of excellence for cancer such as The Christie (in Leeds I think) so hopefully there is one relatively near to her that you can travel to. As a patient you are entitled to a second opinion and although I found my oncologist was not completely happy with me asking for one as far as I am concerned it was 'tough, it's my life, not yours'!
Good luck and I hope there is someone out there more sympathetic and comes up with a new treatment plan.
Hi Dinkybaby1 - gosh what terribly horrid news. It does sound a very bad prognosis considering what her mets are. Many on these threads, including myself, have "extensive" mets. My bones are "riddled" according to my GP but I'm pretty sure (fingers crossed!) my prognosis is better. The things we don't know is how aggressive the cancer is - ie how quickly it is increasing. I don't really know the answer but it's often when you come out that you start wishing you'd asked more questions about what they tell us. I'm sure others on here will add comments but you could get a list of follow up questions and call the breast cancer nurse to get some clarification.
My thoughts are with you and your mum, I am sure you are going to make the most of this precious time with her.
Sending MASSIVE ((((hugs))))