Clare and Sylviah brilliant news. Sylviah good luck with the move and welcome to the hot flush club lol.
Mel I'm glad your neck is better and your daughters eye condition has improved. Theres nothing worse than eye infections for irritation.
Rima yes I have been to Good Hope. I don't know if they have a one stop breast clinic, as that was where I had my mammograms and biopsy done. Good luck with them. I have been to previous local hospitals like Spire ones and they have a one stop clinic. I think it depends on what they are going to do.
Anyway big hugs everyone.
Indeed it is a small price to pay, that'll teach me to fly through the menopause with minimal sweats and flushes won't it.....lol
Strange though, I blubbered more when I got in then when I was diagnosed, relief I suppose....any way that chapter of my life is over and it doesn't make the whole book a bad one..............
You never said whether your neck is better....is it?
Will be a bit intermittent on here for the next couple of days cos of the move, still on light duties, but feel I can do more now.
Clare that is great news well done you!
Roll of drums........I am officlally breast cancer free (Mel you were right again....xx) Have to have a small op in 3 weeks times as they didn't have quite enough margin of tissue removal, but only a little bit more to be taken and there are NO cancerous cells in that little bit. Now I understand what the tests were for since the op........ will be radiotherapy and hormone treatment after (rimidex?) as confirmed Oestregen based only, not the protein one. He went into all sorts of explanations, but in all honesty, I don't care which or what is was it has gone and that is the main thing, Now to get on with all preventitive treatment and hope it never returns.
Will be back later
Mel. I'll leave it as thanks and speak later. Really jittery but feel I am more equipped mentally than I was 4 weeks ago.
As for you, No you can't go by what your dreams are telling you, they are not always right.....I woke in a right sweat (nicely) the other night having dreamt all sorts of things about Johnny Depp.......... and sad to say my dreams were wrong......lol....lol....
You are right though we handle and deal with what we have to as it comes along, if it means having a few "off" days then so be it, because that makes the good days even more peachey. In your words which really do help "whatever the outcome will be a relief and weight off your shoulders and you will know what you are facing and which plan you will take" As per PM (which I hope got through) to you I will be hampered by go slow internet for a while, but will fire up the dongle on the 12th/13th/14th somehow, but if it doesn't work, you know I will be thinking of you.
Today is a good day, but as per usual it has started too damn early again for me....lol
"Anyways, I'm pretty confident you'll be fine. Since my time on here, I've had one occasion where I wasn't confident. And that was Sylvia, and I never said that I was confident for her. But Sylvia has done amazingly!"
Mel I never mentioned it before, but now you have, I did notice that when I first posted on here, I was the one that you missed saying you had a good feeling about.......at the time I didn't take much notice, but after diagnosis I mentioned it to hubbie who was amazed as was I. Do you have a sixth sense about these things, or was it just the fact of what the radiologist had said to me..... Strangely after diagnosis it made me feel closer to you, even though we would not know each other if we passed right by on the street. Sometimes when I was really low, I would read your posts to others which would help me through. Thanks for saying I have done amazingly, as I know you have had a much worse time than me and you really are amazing. Now i'm getting all blubbery and emotional.....lol......thank you Mel for being a great cyber buddie and more important than that a brilliant support. (was going to call you a crutch then, but that didn't sound too good....lol...lol)
Rima, everything that Mel said..ditto!!!! lol
Come on here and sound off, it will help you. The waiting game is hard, but you will get there. Its' easy to say now, but I wasted 7 days of my life worrying over something that I could not change the outcome of.......if you can be really strong don't waste a minute worrying when you dont have to.
As Mel said one day and one step at a time, you will take a step backwards at times, but make sure the next you take are forward and at least 3 or 4.
Love and hugs
Thank you Mel for your comforting reply, i have been to my doctor and she has checked me and said MAY be a cyst, but she feels it is abnormally big therefore she would like to refer me to the breast clinic, im sure just by feeling you cannot be sure but it is very evident and hard to miss, i am in the hope that this is just a scare as i have two little angels 7years and 4year old girls that i know i need to hold myself together for, the lump is also painful to touch, here is hoping to the fact that hopefully the next 11 days fly by, doing and planning everything to keep me busy and get me through this.
I have a supportive hubby and family around me but i guess this forum provides me with the much needed first hand experience many of you lovely ladies unfortunately on this site have had to go through. x
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:Hi everyone have just discovered this forum over the weekend, i am 26 and have been referred to the breast clinic on the 14th of march, finding it very hard to deal with all the feelings attatched to something that i didnt give a second thought before this, i feel like it is such a long way away, one minute im on top of the world, next minute im down in the dumps. read about so many ladies ordeals on this website and honestly feel like i am being stupid as it could be nothing but the not knowing is getting the better of me .xx
i have been referred to Good Hope Breast Clinic in birmingham does anyone know if this is a onestop clinic and i will get results the same day or will i have to wait longer??
Thank you in advance . xx
Mel so sorry you've been down matey. Like your husband said you wouldn't be human if things didn't get on top of you every once in a while. As Sylviah said, how is your neck, I hope its better. Also I noticed your daughters got an irritating eye infection. I hope she feels better soon. As for the clothes, now is a good time to go out and treat yourself to some new outfits. Retail therapy can't be beaten in my book lol.
Sylviah good to see that you are sounding well and your recovery is going smoothly. I also bruise quite badly everytime I have an op. I had my arm operated on in November and it was completely black. My thoughts and hugs are with you when you go for your results.
I'm still waiting my response from the complaint letter I sent to the hospital. I've had an acknowledgement letter, but no response yet. To be honest when I go back in July, I really don't want to see the same breast consultant again as my faith has been completely knocked with him. I may ring and request another consultant, so I don't have to see him again.
Hubby's off work this week so we're doing a few things around the house and going out on a few day trips. Nothing special, he just needs a break.
Anyway I'll be on the forum in the next few days to catch up. Big hugs and love to everyone.
Oh Mel honey........ it's so strange how something like this can set you off isnt it. Bet the cry did you good though as I think crying is something that builds over time without you knowing and the least little thing can set you off. How has your neck been. better I hope.
Not really looking forward to Tuesday, but still feeling positive, I know the lump has gone and no spread to the nodes and at first appt with consultant he said would get rid 100% or was confident of doing so. he just forgot to say that there would be a final test result after the op, so that threw me a bit, but there you go. Well move date fast approaching (Friday 7th) can't wait to start afresh. I still have a multi coloured boob from the op which makes me laugh more each day, due to another colour coming out in the bruise. Have been very lucky with the way I recovered, itching mad so must be healing well.
Will be back on after appt on Tuesday, more bloody packing and planning tomorrow......lol xx
Clare you are NOT a fraud. If you said you were sailing through this without a care in the world, then you would be a fraud....lol. Once I had my diagnosis, I started to get every pain under the sun and of course linked it the the cancerous lump etc etc (i think most people do this, it is a natural reaction) Since my op, these pains etc have disappeared, so for me it was stress related. What I would say though is keep a notebook and pen handy and write down every little thing that happens between now and Tuesday and mention it at your appt. You will forget otherwise. Also write down any questions you think of , cos belive me you will forget them as soon as you need them.The waiting really is worse than anything else. Results good or bad release you into a plan of action and if bad you have no choice but to see that plan of action through. That may sound tough, but unfortunately it is reality and really is better than no knowing....... I am still on a high from my op and feel more positive than I have for 6 weeks, but I do have a follow up appt on Tuesday to get final pathology results. My hope is that it is all gone, but if not I will cross that bridge when I get to it. I know though that for the future, every little thing that "feels" slightly different will alarm me and I will probably by visiting my GP more than I ever have done........ but then I only go once a year for my review, so I suppose I have been lucky with my health so far
Take care everyone
Glad you're not overdoing it... just looked at my post and can't believe I spelt unglamourous wrong!! Ha ha, writing is what I do for a living!!! That's also very unglamourous... I write training material... yawn...
Yes Sylvia, you can send a private message. If you click onto a person's username, the option should come up...
In the top right corner, theres a link to messages to show if you have any as well. I'll send you one now to see if you get it ok...
Hope everyone else is feeling good too. xxx
Mel. lol lol lol....... yes moaning about a piddly headache, how dare I !!! Never been to Coventry, but believe me Basingstoke is no oil painting. Moving to Somerset next week, a much nicer part of the country. Well day 3 after op and still feeling good, very light admin duties. Hubbie has leather restoration work on so he is in the workshop and close by which is good. No pain and scars starting to itch so means they are healing. Taking it easy though. although still up to damn early lol.
Have a great day all and take it easy
Mel is there a way to private message on here?
Well, I'm supposed to be working right now, but instead, here I am, checking out the forum!!! So glad you're in good spirits.
I'm also glad to hear that you've returned to being able to moan about 'normal' stuff!!!!!!! YEAH, I FINALLY GET TO SAY IT TO YOU................ SILLY COW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
By the way, don't overdo things... You might find the pain kicks in a bit more after a day or two, so take it easy and make the most of the opportunity to be pampered!
Sad to say Sylvia, I'm from Coventry...... terribly unglamerous!! But it's home. And it is amazing how close you can feel to people you've never met... I'm finding that more and more on here.
Love to all you lovely people. xxx
Clare, hello and sorry for not saying hello properly yesterday. Hubbie had banned me from the computer until the evening so I would rest properly after the op and my mobile has a poor signal here......awake early this morning, but 6.30 is pretty normal for me, so I guess my life is now back on track. The time will go round soon Clare until your appt and no matter how much anyone says "it'll be ok" or "keep positive" it will be difficult and there will be times when it will overcome you and if you need to shout and scream then do so. The waiting game really is the pits, sorry I won't gloss it over, as it is. Try to keep busy, that does help and if you need to come on here and shout. someone will answer. Have you phoned the helpline on here yet? They are great. 4 weeks ago I was on valium and thought my life was over, oo'er what a drama queen I can be...lol.... From Monday evening just gone, my lodger/squatter(nickname for my lump) was evicted and he will never be back. as for the future? who knows? but then that applies to all life and not just bad things. I have to admit that I am really surprised in my mobility and lack of pain after the op, but I think a lot to do with my mental state of mind which is now great. Ha ha must be back to normal, have spouted on again early in the morning.....lol..... love to all you loveley ladies. Mel don't work too hard today and Laura keep those dogs out of the mud.......Clare, keep busy, I'll float in and out on here today if you need to talk.
HI Mel. The delay was so long yesterday, poor hubbie went into panic mode when he phoned at 3pm and they said I was not back to the ward yet. I only went down at 2pm and remember looking at the clock 2.20pm as they put me out, Not bad then getting home for 9.30pm. I did think about posting, but really wanted a nice sandwich, coffee and bed.
They have a super duper machine in Basingstoke hospital for checking the nodes whilst you are out for the count. I had been told that if all the nodes had been taken out due to spread I would have a drain under my armpit............woke up, looked straight under my gown and shouted yeahhhhhhh while I was still under there. Bought a few nurses running I must admit and I just shouted "no spread" to which the consultant came round the corner laughing as he must had heard me and said completely right Sylvia, you remembered what to look for.....we both laughed and I went back to sleep.........had a quick rest, then nagged them to get me back to the ward so I could phone Neil. Most of it is a bit of a blur now, but looking at my phone I must have phoned, texted 10 people within 5 minutes....a world record for me and my phone...... Had a good day though today, my arm is more mobile than I though it would be and the pain is minimal, just sore and a bit achey. Managed to blow dry my own hair and felt like putting make up on. Mel I have no ideas where you are from, but feel like you are so close at time. This will make you laugh, I did think about the silly cow comment as I had had a headache from about 10.30am and was moaning like hell about it..........lol lol .....xxxx
The lodgers well and truly bloody gone yeah ! So good about your nodes as well. You sound really good to be able to type so soon after your op. I think you deserve tons of carbs and loads of chocolate as well. Also flowers lol.
Nice to know you are being pampered. Bug hugs and love matey.
Hi Everyone, lodger/squatter fully evicted and no spread to the nodes........ Should have had op at 11am yesterday, but lady before had a few problems so I didn't get seen to until 2.30pm, hence did not get home until 9ish and went straight to bed. (or I would have posted) Feeling ok today, a bit weak, but that is to be expected. Mentally I feel great...... back for follow up next Tuesday to see consultant. Hubbie has turned out to be a great nurse. Oops dinner ready cooked by hubbie of course, may be back later on or tomorrow.
Mel, i thought of your words just as they put me out.........thank you....all those carbs worked aswell, came round and drove them mad, so they just sent me straight back to the ward.......... xxxx
Hugs to you matey. I know exactly how you feel and the wait is dreadful. Somehow I feel my experience with this isn't over yet. But I'm just taking each day as it comes until July.
The waiting for tests and results is awful and I don't really think the medical profession takes into consideration the turmoil of the wait. Like I've said before, you often feel everythings spiralling out of control. However, like the wonderful Mel has said keep busy (even if its cleaning lol) and absolutely no googling. You could drive yourself mad reading those bloddy websites.
Bigs hugs, we are with you all the way.
I'm glad you've stumbled across this thread, and that is has helped. You're absolutely right! You will bounce between good and bad emotions, you will go from thinking it's definitely cancer to then thinking it's absolutely nothing to worry about... You have boarded this nasty roller coaster.
Waiting for appointments, tests and results is most definitely the hardest part of the whole thing, whatever your lump turns out to be. I'm sure if you've read through this thread, you will have picked that up already! The awful waiting game is truly the hardest part, so bear that in mind. I won't repeat stuff you will have already read, but try and keep your mind occupied as much as possible, and don't Google!!!! That's a definite no-no!
Take each day as it comes, don't be afraid to let your emotions out, and expect to go through the full range of emotions... then it won't be a shock.
Keep in touch and let us know if there's anything we can do to help while you're in the 'waiting room'. Love Mel. xxx