Hi Nigel Welcome to the BCC forums, in addition to the support you have found here please feel free to call our helpliners for further support ideas for your friend, as Mary has suggested it may help if your friend to join here so that they can join in and find support too? Lines are open weekdays 9-5 and Saturdays 10-2 on 0808 800 6000
Here's a link to the BCC secondary breast cancer information which you may both find helpful:
There is a specific area for ladies with secondary bc, you will find them a very helpful and informative bunch. You may want to think about encouraging your friend to join too as we have all found the forums very supportive when we have felt lost and alone.