Welcome to the BCC discussion forums, I am sure you will get lots of good, honest support from the many informed users of this site. As Mimsy suggests it might be worth putting a post in the 'In your area' forum as I believe we have users from your part of the world who come on here from time to time.
As the helpline is probably out of reach for you, due to the time difference, BCC also have a nurse email service 'Ask the Nurse' where you can email any questions you may have. I must explain though that this does take a little longer in reply than the helpline telephone service. I've put the link for you below and hope it helps. I hope you find the support you are looking for from these forums.
Interested to hear you`re from New Zealand and have joined this forum. I`m in America, but British and have used it to compare the treatment I get here to the UK. I have to say its a completely excellent forum and you`ll find people at your stage of treatment or whatever to chat to. You could also post on "In your area" and see if there are any other New Zealanders on here. Anyway, good to hear from you,
I too have had problems with anxiety/stress. I discovered my lump over Christmas so had to wait to see the Doctor and get a mammogram and ultrasound. I then had to endure another wait for a fine needle biopsy. I was told last Friday it was cancer, but I don't know any more than that. I'm off to see a breast specialist tomorrow.
My anxiety started prior to the diagnosis (the waiting was doing my head in), so my Doctor gave me a prescription for a mild sedative. This has really helped, and I've only taken them when I really needed it. Just knowing they are there if it gets really bad helps. I had visions of giving myself a stomach ulcer from the stress!! As it is, my hair has started to fall out from stress.
I am hoping using this forum will help me too - I hope it helps you. Do talk to your Doctor about your anxiety, you shouldn't have to suffer like this.
BTW, I'm from New Zealand (couldn't find any suitable/active forums in NZ), so joined up here.
So sorry to hear you have been diagnosed and are waiting for surgery. It is a frightening time but hopefully it will get easier. You will find these Forums such a comfort and if you do have the odd panic and feel you need to talk to somebody do contact the Helpline as Sam has suggested . It is there for you and your family. I found it so caring and helpful and my husband has Peer support from another man whose wife had similar treatment to me. There are also lots of information booklets on this site you could download or order from the Helpline.
You could join a thread of ladies having surgery at the same time as you or just browse and see how others are coping and join in if you feel like it.
A big non invasive HUG
Oh, Suzy, how quick from your dx to your surgery! My mx is on Thursday - we should all put out our arms and send hugs to each other who are having ops on Thursday.
Oh my gosh ... looking at the last post I just think how lovely people are on this site ... I, too. am reeling with the news that I have BC ... never thought it would happen to me etc etc ... but it has uplifted me on this site to see all these wonderful people and hear all the advice . I go for surgery on Thursday and I admit I am so scared but I will do what they say I have to as in the end they are there to help me and get me through this awful desease. I was only dx last friday and am still in a mess but this site has helped me so much.
Sending a virtual huggle (((( ))))))))))
I assume you are very recently diagnosed? I am so sorry you find yourself here, but you will find this forum a great source of help, advise and support.
I was diagnosed in Oct, and the best advise I was given was by a friend that has done it. She told me that throughout the journey I will never feel as bad as I did when I was first diagnosed. I can honestly say that it the truth! We all remember that feeling, but it will ease my lovely, it is an awful time when you can think of nothing else and nothing positive. With strength, support and knowledge it will get easier. In the early days all I could do was cry, but 3 months on after mx and 2 chemos (there is still the odd bad day) but on the whole you cope and even laugh sometimes too!
Once you get your treatment plan in place and know what you are facing you will feel like you are in control and doing something.
I found that looking at the whole picture was to over whelming, deal with what you have too as and when it comes along, it seems far more achievable then.
Sending you a big cyber hug xxxxxxx
I love the title of this thread, reminds me of the Mel Brooks film!
Where are you as regards treatment? Have you just been diagnosed? Do you know anything more?
I had a lumpectomy, chemo and radiation. Was totally hospital-phobic when it began, but not any more! The lumpectomy turned out to be much easier than I`d thought, and so was the rest! Tell us where you are up to. Do you have a treatment plan yet? Having that makes you feel more in control. I was the proverbial rabbit in the headlights in the early days. Use the helpline and post on here to keep us up to date.
Oh, and I prescribe a glass or two of something red (or white if you prefer) to relax you at night!
I remember those feelings so well. It's very natural to feel scared and anxious when you are first told the news, and are at the beginning of your journey.
You will feel more in control when you have a treatment plan, and do talk to your BCN - she is there to support you though all of this.
If you have any questions post them here. Everyone is so supportive and helpful. Above all, be kind to yourself, and take all offers of support that will be offered to you.
I’m sorry to read that you are struggling with anxiety at the moment. As well as the support you are receiving from the users of this site you might find it helps to talk things through with a member of staff on the BCC helpline. They are there to offer emotional support as well as practical information. The free phone number is 0808 800 600 and the lines are open Monday to Friday 9.00 to 5.00 and Saturday 9.00 to 2.00.
I hope you find this helps.
Best wishes Sam, BCC Facilitator
I remember so well feeling like you do now & please be assured it's perfectly normal to feel so terrified at this stage. I remember when I used to wake up & for the first few seconds I feel fine & then it would hit me like a cricket bat that I had cancer & nothing would ever be the same again. But I am several years down the line now & as fit as a fiddle and no things are not the same, they are better because cancer changes the way you view life and now that I know it's so precious I enjoy every minute of it & appreciate all the little things that most people take for granted. But getting to this stage wasn't easy & I needed a lot of help along the way. My doctor referred me for counselling which helped enormously. Why not ask your doctor if there is a counsellor you could talk too. I also had some nice relaxing aromatherapy massages which helped the tension in my body. There is a lot of help out there so don't be afraid of asking for it. Things will get better believe me, just hang on in there.
Sending you a big supportive hug.
Does any one have severe anxiety with worry, I get up every morning and can hardly stand on my legs, I feel anxious all day thinking about whats to come with all of the treatment, i feel terrified by it all and so alone, its the unknown that is so scary.