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Tillycat
I have loved and lost so many cats...My British Blue, Tadzio, who walked on a leash and sat in a rucksack while i cycled, had a really special bond with me. My 21 year old sisters, Margaret and Irene,who died within a couple of months of each other and many many more.
Now i have two jellicle brothers, Reuben and Milo. They were rescue cats and were found in a wheelie bin, waiting for the bin lorry. How can people do these things? My current two were obviously not well socialised before i got them at four months old. They are very snooty and will not sit on my knee, but will sit beside me and they have the loudest purrs i have ever heard. their nickname is the Furry Purries and i love them despite their aloof and imperious attitudes. I never compare one cat with another as they are all so different and i really like that about puds.
Blueberry sounds like a bit of a darling and you will miss him terribly. Everyone is different of course, but i have always found it helps to get another cat quite quickly and learn to love the new one. Others feel this to be a bit disloyal, but the pleasure of knowing a cat is an important part of life.
Louisa xx

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Tillycat, more hugs and good wishes.
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Just another hug ((( ))). Thinking of you.
xxx

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Tillycat, I lost my lovely cat (who is on my picture) in December just after Christmas. I'd had her from a tiny kitten and she was one of my strengths through 2 lots of bc. She died of natural causes, but she wasn't old, and I think it's only natural to blame ourselves sometimes - I was constantly asking myself whether I should have noticed her illness/taken her to the vets earlier. I still miss her so much. I couldn't bear the idea of ever replacing her, but I do now have another cat - I have always shared my life with a cat, and I decided after 2 months to adopt another. He is as unlike my old cat as it is possible to be - (large, fluffy black and white male) and he does in no way replace her, but he is slowly worming his way into my heart and I am glad he's here. He's not a substitute, he's himself and that's how i want it to be. We all deal with loss (cat, dog ot person) in our own ways. Whatever you do, it'll be right for you.

Look after yourself and don't be too hard on yourself, love Mo xxxxxx

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Hello Lovely ladies
Thank you for all your wonderful posts.
I have been reading through them all and it has made me cry again.  He was a very special little chap, I've always had cats but I am not sure that I am ready to get another just yet. I know we will at some point but I think I need to be sure that I won't compare a new kitten to Blueberry, it wouldn't be fair.
I am consoling myself with the fact that his life was very happy even though it was so short.  He was a champion purrer and was always up for a snuggle 🙂 I am sure that when the car hit him he died instantly.  I don't think he would have felt any pain
Thank you again for all your kind thoughts
Love Melissa x

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Very sorry to hear about your loss. I have three hairy assassins, a tabby Bella who is eight and two black and White sisters, Chloe and Maude who are nearly two years old. When Bella was still a baby we also had her brother Kurt. He was run over outside our house and I still mourn him. He was such a character. Simon our ginger cat and Rhubarb his mother lived until the ripe old ages of 17 and 18 with Rhubarb passing away peacefully under our Jasmine bush. It's the sudden loss which devastates.
Lots of hugs
Sarah

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So sad Tillycat. We've spoken about your lovely cat before. RIP Blueberry. Thinking of you in your sadness. Hugs. Tara xx

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Hi Tillycat,

I'm really sorry about your loss. I've a special cat in my life too - a Maine Coon, 16 months old, and he's mainly a house cat as like Blueberry has no real street sense. Thinking of you, and hope perhaps you might have another cat in your life so you can enjoy the purrs again x

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Hi Tillycat
I'm sitting here with tears running down my face as I read your post (and all the others). I really do understand how you feel having had 12 special cats in my life, I've shed bucket loads of tears and can remember them all. I had two when I was in Australia and hope to have another one, or maybe two, before this year is out. Sending a big hug and lots of sympathy. xxxx

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Oh Tillycat,

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss of Blueberry.I am driven to tears from reading it...

I remember coming home from treatment one day and seeing a neighbour's Burmese cat in the window, and coming home in tears, trying to convince my OH that it was a good idea for me to just knock on their door to ask it I could just stroke him a little bit (Im allergic to cats but not to burmese, but live in an apartment with no garden). I just knew if I had a little bit of time with him, he would be of comfort. As I'm certain Blueberry was for you.

Cats are special beings, family members, please be gentle & you look after yourself.

Hug xx

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So sorry about your lovely cat.

My lovely cats that I had for nearly 19 years died this year. One in January, and then his brother 2weeks later. They were old, they were well loved and they are missed. We have another cat who was a bit of a loner when the other two were around and he is now very demanding and even joins you for a cuddle.

When I got my dx in march, he (ziggy the current cat ) came into my room and lay on my chest with his paw holding my and, most of the night. Giving the same comfort yours gave you.

The gap from the two old cats isn't as great as it would be because of ziggy so when you are ready perhaps consider getting another.

Eleanor xx

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Tillycat it is so devastating when a pet dies as they are like part of the family. It sounds like you had a very special bond with Blueberry and he sounds like one of those exceptional cats you come across from time to time.

As to keeping him safe - you couldn't have predicted what would happen. In spite of the risks, I feel it's better for cats to have the freedom of the outdoors as they enjoy it as much as we do if not more. Please try not to beat yourself up about that.

As Lemongrove says you and your family gave him a life where he was well-loved and cared for. The strenght of your feeling and that of your family now shows just how much love.

take care and a big hug
Elinda xx

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Oh, Melissa, that's so sad, as any pet lover would know. I was distraught when my youngest daughters cat was run over a few years back, and I mean really upset. I cried for days, she (Jet) was like my baby, she loved being held in your arms looking up at you, just as a baby would 🙂 I know how you called you cat half human, some cats just understand don't they. I don't have any words to help unfortunately, I just hope you and your family don't blame yourselves and can feel better soon. Some cats are naturally more curious, Jet loved to watch the rabbits across our little lane and was oblivious to the traffic, her sister however is far more timid and stays in the garden and has never ventured outside of it.
Hugs
Nicky x

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Melissa

(((((HUGS)))))

So hard to lose a pet, especially one that was so much a part of your family

Lxxx

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Really sorry to read about your cat. I have a dog and it would be devastating to lose him - so I've an idea how you feel. All I can say is at least you know your cat had a good life, with people who who loved and cared.
In my view drivers need to take much more care on the roads, and should by law, required to report any collision with an animal. I live close to the Ashdown Forest, and you would be amazed at how many deer are run over and left dying at the side of the road.

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Tillycat,

I sooooo know how you're feeling. Our precious Bengal tiger cat who was a very special soul was run over at the end of last year. We were devastated and miss her terribly still. I also had to have my darling 13yr old spaniel put to sleep around about the same time. Devastating...Pet bereavement is as awful as human bereavement especially when they have been such a comfort to us when we've been going through horrible times.

Lots of love and ((Hugs)) to you and your children

Wandyx

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I lost my dog last year::( i still cry and miss him to.

Rose x

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I am sad for you. I haven’t got a cat but my son and his partner had a female kitten which would come to stay with us when they were away. I didn’t think I was a cat lover in any way but this one got into my heart. Two years on son and partner split up. For practical reasons the cat stayed with his partner. I never see her now and I miss her so much. It is not as bad as what you are experiencing because at least our little friend is still around though not with us.

Three years ago I would have had no understanding of how you are feeling but I do now.

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I am so sorry - I had the same expèrience with my favourite burmese cat, please don´t blame yourself. I still remember dogs and cats who have helped me through all sort of health issues.........and maybe when you are ready and strong enough you can rescue another cat, an older one that tends to get overlooked in living tribute to Berry?

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Aww tillycat I'm so sad for you ive a cat won't let him out as my last cat died only a yr old with sum virus brought on by fights I think a loss of any kind brings home our illness my oh woke up crying this morn after a bad dream about me my 13 yr old thinks I'm gona live to I'm 80 bless him told me I'm gona be the one it will work for god knows how they cope big hugs for you Laura

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awww, your post has brought tears to my eyes. I am so sorry to hear about your lovely cat. I have two cats and a dog, so understand how upsetting it is to loose one.

Gentle hugs xxx

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So sorry about Blueberry. Our pets give us so much love and happiness. Heartbroken when we lost our dog Archie who was a 13yr old lab. xxx

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Oh Tillycat,

So so sorry to hear about your cat, I have 2 cats and love them so much can't imagine what your going through its so upsetting, your cat sounds like my Mitzi who keeps me company all day long especially when going through chemo. I really don't know what too say to try and make you feel better, just wanted you too know I am thinking of you, sending you big hugs.

Love and light to you
sarahxxx

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So sad. as JulieD says they do become part of the family.

Julie

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Oh that is sad.I know how much pets become part of the family and when you found comfort from him during chemo etc it is even harder to lose your pet. I hope you all recover from the shock and loss and maybe when you're ready you could get another who may give you joy too xx

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Hi,
oh thats so sad, I am sorry to hear about your poor cat. The only way we got through losing our dog each time was to get another one quite quickly.I think it would help the children a lot from my experience. If a kitten is too much work for you right now, you could always rescue one of the many cats that have no homes and are in cages in shelters. See how you feel and again I am sorry and sadly know just how you feel
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Lily x

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My lovely cat Blueberry has been run over and killed.  We found him lying by the side of the road.  He was a beautiful half person half Birman, fluffy grey boy.  He was so soppy and loving.  After I had each dose of  chemo i would come home to my bed and he would join me, purring away like mad thing and being oh so pleased to see me.  He was only 18 months old so hardly more than a kitten. I know lots of people keep Persians as indoor cats and I think I should have done that with him.  He was so daft I don't think he had any road sense at all.  I wish I had kept him safe.
My children are distraught,  my 12 year old kept saying 'I just want him to come back'. I can't make it better for them.  If they are so upset about the cat how on earth are they going to cope when I'm not around any more.
Sorry to post on here, I know it's not really relevant but I just feel so down :'-(
M