Why should it be up to you to 'put things right'? Seems to me they are the ones who should be 'putting things right' and apologising to you for their insensitivity! Yes, it can make you feel sad when the 'masks' some people wear slip and you realise that perhaps they are not as nice as you thought - (read my Wheat and Chaff post). My 'nemesis' is now sad and lonely, entirely due to her own actions - still the local 'stitch and **bleep**' club might allow her to join if they are desperate - hee, hee!!!!! Having a sense of humour helps I find! Chin up honey - just read all of the kind supportive comments you are getting - put yourself first now for the sake of your health. Remember all us lovely ladies are here for you, you are not alone xxxx
i have recommended this book alot over these pages too - Emotional support through breast cancer, written by Cordelia Galgut. A psycologist who has had the diagnosis x2 herself.
It is a short book, very readable, but I found very good too, it covered a lot of my *issues*
Hope you continue to manage your return at a pace you can cope with. Have you had any structured input ?
Lexilou x x
Really feel for you and sympathise for all you are going thru. I have been back in a limited capacity in my workplace for 4 months now.
From a distance i too felt well supported, but once back in work it has been different. So much so i sent a long email about my capacity to work, and ways this might be facilitated, to receive no answer whatsoever. I ended up talking to my union, crying down the phone to them, macmillan and breast cancer care as i tried to find ways to resolve this.
I have had an informal meeting with my union rep and managers, but still feel isolation from some.
Some of my colleagues have been, and remain amazing, others not so. Though on reflection, the Not So's were not there when I was off either. I cant afford the energy for the NOT SO's and have as little interaction with them as possible..(however - we have to communicate effectively, so have gone for being polite / communicating to the best of my abilities, but hardly any social interactions) They do gossip together, but then they always did that too pre-disgnosis.
Even before my diagnosis i had made a decision to remive all current colleagues from my facebook. I found some posts of others caused me conflict, and comments from others on my life intrusive. Social media and all we "share" is so new and brings its own stresses.
I have rambled on... i suppose i meant to say - be kind to yourself, your people at work dont seem to have the capacity to care for you in the way you would hope to care for them if you switched places.
I am soon going to be speaking with Someone Like Me arranged via Melissa at Breast Cancer Care re my fatigue and work issues. This may be an idea for you too ?
Sending you many warm hugs,
Lexilou x x