Hello all, I just wanted to pop on to the thread to offer thanks to you all for being so supportive of each other on here over the past few days and weeks. We want the Breast Cancer Care forum to be a safe, secure space for everyone affected by breast cancer to talk and share experiences.
It’s such sad news that Kerry has died. I’m really heartened to see that many of you are signing the e-petition cornishgirl linked to, to call on the government to provide more funding for pancreatic cancer. I’ll be circulating this amongst the team here too.
Your conversation about the language used around a secondary diagnosis is a really interesting one. It’s a difficult and very personal issue, and we’re listening to the perspectives raised here with interest. And, on the subject of Breast Cancer Care continuing to raise awareness of secondary breast cancer (mrsblue raised this question yesterday, I believe), I wanted to assure you that the team is keen to reach out to as many of you as possible to help shape our future activities. I’ll be sure to keep you all updated once more details are confirmed.
Hi Belinda, I would be very sad to see you go, you were one of the first ladies I met on here back in 2007, and throughout that time you have given so much support to many many people , Like you, I'm very sad that a lot of the ladies don't post on BCC anymore and now use FB instead, I feel much like you at times and feel like I should also flee the nest , I do sometimes, but then something happens, and I usually end up back here again, but like you I'm not always sure where I fit in anymore, maybe that's a sign to move on too , but I do hope you stay belinda, as the forums and especially the newly dx secondary ladies really need people like you.
Huge hugs to you xxx
I have been very shocked to be honest to see the number of complaints made on the BCC FB Page, I just cannot understand why people would object to reading about the facts of breast cancer, on a breast cancer site, I have been equally shocked and quite saddened with many of the comments, as a fellow primary patient I just cannot relate to any of those views expressed by others like myself , to be honest its been quite an eye opener for me, and I can fully understand why the secondary ladies feel the way they do ,
What I can't understand is that when posts like this one from BCC are put up on some of the other breast cancer Sites/FB pages they seem to have nowhere near the same amount of complaints that BCC do, They do have the odd complaint from one or two people, but the vast majority of the comments are usually very supportive,
Anyway, I hope like everyone else here that BCC continue to raise awareness about all of the important issues that surround MBC , both here and also on their FB pages ,and don't feel pressured by the few to tiptoe around all these important issues just so as to not cause any upset . There really shouldn't be any upset, This is a Cancer Site ,
Signed. Thank you.
I too was very sad to read that Kerry had died over the weekend, My heart go's out to Kerrys family and friends at this very sad and difficult time, Another young life lost to soon to this terrible disease . RIP Kerry, x
Also to say that a lot of the BCC ladies , including myself while not supporting the PCA Ad taglines, have signed the Government e-petition to provide more funding for Pancreatic cancer, I hope all BCC members will consider doing the same.
Yes, I too had seen that Kerry Harvey's life has been taken by pancreatic cancer.
Let's respond to this very sad loss - and to the expressions of hate - by offering our sympathy, prayers (those of us who pray) and condolences to Kerry's family and friends at this time.
And to keep up the fight for more research into detection, treatment, prevention... and cure... for all types of cancer in the UK.
Just to let you know that we are reading this thread with interest. It is really good to see all the support being shared here as well.
If you were wondering why there has not been a clinical response to the questions regarding chronic being a term used for metastatic cancer as yet, that is because our clinical team do not work at the weekends. The questions have been passed on to them and they will provide a response as soon as they are able.
If it was a different response you were looking for, please point me in the right direction as it is entirely possible I have missed something amid such a lively debate and thread,
Yoohoo BCC people, are any of you reading this thread? A reply would be good.... sigh... I don't even know a (user)name of anyone on BCC who is supporting us secondaries, there was Clare Kemsley some time ago but I'm not sure if she is still around... could she or her successor be alerted to this thread?
OMG, ive just been pretty much told off on BCCs FB post from a primary lady that tells me , "There is a clue in the title "Breast Cancer CARE" I see this as a support site I do feel that on a support site that harsh comments like the one made by BCC should be so carefully controlled and public awareness should not be their first concern. I may be wrong but I personally do not see it as primarily a public awareness sight, it's about care and support for each other. "
Am speechless , Doesnt the poster feel that the care and support include's Everyone whatever the stage of disease?
I agree with Georgiex.....the natural extension of calling MBC a "chronic disease" is that there is a "terminal phase" when treatments have stopped working and all preparation is towards preparing for a "good death"....certainly all travel insurance companies deny cover for "terminal illness" and my onc has told me not to say I'm "Terminal" but that there are still treatments helping..........in some ways the issue is not so much whether MBC is chronic or terminal but more what does terminal mean!........in a recent edition of the British Medical Journal there was an article on terminal illness and its different courses...for example there may be a gradual deterioration, (maybe like progressive multiple sclerosis or dementia): an up and down course but with gradual ongoing deterioration..(.maybe like chronic heart disease with occassional heart attacks). Cancer (on average) was seen as an initial plateau phase with only slight or no deterioration at the beginning with a rapid decline at the end. Of course that is not true for everyone and treatments may affect that...but if that is the picture then a chronic illness with a terminal phase fits quite well!xx
Sorry mrsblue, I only just saw your post, and as you rightly say this topic should probably be on a separate thread.
Thanks Lucy, It is confusing I think to a lot of people.
Just a few more thoughts and I may be completely off the mark , but diabetes ,heart disease etc, has a known cause unlike cancer ,and therefore already has established treatments that are known to work ,and certainly people with diabetes can live to a ripe old age if they comply with their medications, these 2 chronic disease also can be impoved quite a lot with diet/lifestyle changes , Cancer on the other hand is a evolving disease, tumors can change their genetic mutations and is thought of as a progressive disease, so we are forever having to find new treatments to keep a cancer stable or at bay for a very long time.
Unlike diabetes ,cancer patients don't know if a paticular treatment will work for them, or it may work for a time, so I wouldn't of thought at this moment in time MBC could be re classified as a chronic disease like other chronic diseases , though in some cases it can be treated like one, Like Dawn says,bone Mets can be keep under control for many yrs , but is this the same for brain Mets, lung Mets, or liver Mets?
I know diabetes and other chronic diseases can have complications, but I don't pesonaly at the moment see those diseases as the same , but thats just me.
I think its fantastic than some types of MBC are being treated like a chronic disease by Drs now, and hope with all the new treatments coming along all the time that all MBC will one day become a true chronic disease like diabetes and heart disease, and managed for the rest of life . and also hopefully without the need for treatments to have such dilibateing SEs , as some of the chemo's do.
The good news is, I read last yr that there are over 500 new treatments for cancer in the pipeline, and hopefully NICE will be willing to fund them , but I suppose that might also be the next hurdle .
Another thought that has just occurred to me, If BC Mets is now seen as a chronic disease, is this why the general public and the recent PCA Ad campaign now think that BC is a good cancer to have?
Anyway, I'm rambling now and these are just my own thoughts ,and I may be completely off the mark with it all .
L xx AKA confused.com .
Another interesting aspect of the discussion - MBC as a chronic / terminal disease - maybe we need a separate thread for this discussion?
I have my own views on the topic as it affects myself, which I won't explain on this public forum - I hope you all understand. But when I was dx with liver mets, 4-and-a-half years ago, I never imagined I'd be living a "normal" life again.... and sometimes I'm not sure how to use the unexpected "extra time" wisely.
Dawn - I can't find it now either.
An interesting topic and one that causes lots of confusion I think, In its simpler term a chronic disease is a long term condition that cannot be cured , so in that sense some people might think of cancer as a chronic disease, However, compared to other chronic diseases, Cancer is a progressive disease regardless of lts management, Diabetes for instance can be controlled for many decades , and while MBC can be controlled in some cases for some yrs , and treatments can keep MBC stable , MBC cannot yet be thought of as in the same category as most other chronic diseases . Researchers are hoping that one day cancer will become a chronic disease instead of being classed as a terminal disease , and some drs are already treating some forms of MBC like a chronic disease that can be managed for many yrs.
Not sure if BCC can raise any clarity on this as I think most people find it confusing including me!
I haven't been joining in the discussion 'cos I have to confess I don't do conflict very well. I do feel I want to comment on the remark about mbc becoming a chronic disease. I didn't see the remark you are talking about tinks but I suspect the 2ndaries being talked about would be bone mets. I have certainly heard frequently the comment about this. It is down to so many more treatments becoming available that are working well for some of us. My own response to herceptin has been quite amazing. I was originally diagnosed with bc 24 years ago and had several recurrences/new primaries along the way. I made the 'magic' 5 years when my hospital moved patients to yearly checks at 5 yrs. I even had that yearly clinic in my appointment card when bingo! another primary. From then on it happened about every 18mths - I would just get through chemos, rads etc., coming out the other end and it would hit me again. Secondaries - very extensive bone mets - came along 12 years after first dx. Herceptin hadnt been around that long and the fight was on to get it for primary her2+ patients. My onc found tissue had been checked on the last surgery I had and was positive. How do I know it was herceptin that did it for me and not just the chemos I had finished? Well I had a lot of very swollen lymph nodes around my neck and jaw right up to under my ears and within days of my first dose of herceptin they all vanished. I have had no further recurrrences since then. (Hope I havent wondered too much off the point). It is quite possible that I could die from something totally different whilst my mbc is being treated with drugs that the cancer has not as yet found a way round and even if it does I know there are now other drugs that have been made available through the Cancer Drug Fund that could be rolled out. Seeing as I was first diagnosed with bc at the age of 45 and will be 70 at my next birthday I think you could say my disease was now a chronic one. I don't see this label being applied to other forms of mbc just yet and of course those of us with bone mets know that it could so easily spread to our other organs tomorrow. 😞
Im not really sure if my view is relevant here, but I thought a chronic disease was a disease that is managed and treated for life and one that you no longer died from, but im not 100% sure on that.
hopefully some of the other ladies will know better.
I've just seen a post on FB that says more and more ladies are living with mbc as a chronic disease (I assume like diabetes etc.). This was by a lady with mbc and was picked up by someone else.
Do others feel the same - that this is a chronic disease?
I can't feel that my illness is a chronic disease - this may be because I'm newly diagnosed and waiting for the results of other tests that may change my prognosis considerably, but I don't think I felt it was a chronic disease before I knew I needed tests.
To me it feels like a post-dated expiration sentence.
Is this how we should be viewing ourselves?
Deleted as I appear to have got it wrapped round my neck.
To be honest I'm slowly loosing the will to live on facbook, Since when did primary breast cancer patients become so wrapped up in self preservation and loose all sense of compassion and humanity for those walking the same road as them?.
I have been shocked and deeply saddened by some of the comments , I'm actually feeling quite embarrassed and ashamed to be called a primary right now as I just cannot relate to any of those selfish attitudes, I never knew fellow cancer patients could be so self absorbed and cruel, I'm speechless.
Please keep up the good work BCC, MBC deserves much more recognition and equal support from all the breast cancer charities , and that includes ALL of their members!!!.