A new category "In Memory" has been created and can be accessed here:-
Sam (BCC Facilitator)
Sorrie aboot the speelling - i fort it woz my stronge pont.
I think people get to choose whether they are included or not and real name or user name
Yes I think you're right msmolly.
I keep changing my mind on this one. Sometimes I do want to publicly acknowledge friends from the site who have died...but only when their deaths were announced at the time by someone who knew them, or when I'm quoting from what is in the public internet domain anyway.
For example I have sometimes quoted jpoets' poetry..which during her life time was on these forums and is now availble on the website established by her husband.
But it does need thinking through.
(Oh thank god the spelling has been corrected - the OCD in me can't stand it!)
I have reservations about this - I personally feel that the creation of memorials are the preserve of family.
I am somewhat concerned that a memorial being posted on a public internet forum (which is searched by all search engines) could be an invasion of privacy.
Will the onus be on individuals to opt in or opt out?
Will real names be allowed or will it be user names only?
I think a little more thought needs to go into this to avoid upsetting individuals and their families.
Speaking as someone with Secondaries who has (some) reservations about a memoriam page I'd like to see it in it's own category not a part of the End of Life secondaries section.
We would like, if possible please, to keep the 'In Memoriam' thread for members of this site only.
Could we have your opinions please as to whether you would prefer a new category or a sub-category under 'End of Life'?
As someone whose daughter died from BC in just 13 months from diagnosis I think it would be lovely to have a page just for those who fought but lost to this awful disease. Whatever age they died then they still died before their time.
I agree with Christine that if you don't go on the site every day then it can be missed that someone who you possibly wrote to in the past has died.
We collected some money for Bournemouth cancer ward after Lisa died and at the hospital they have three 'trees' on various walls where they hang small brass plaques in the shape of apples in memory of people who have died there and now Lisa's name is amongst them. Sad in one way but wonderful to think that her name lives on at the hospital. I just wish that she knew.
Maybe people would feel the same about a page here with their name on it.
Yes, definitely. I don't have time to go through all of the forums and sometimes only realise that a long time member has died when it is rather late for giving condolences.
Yes please definitely. Only people who have died from breast cancer whether or not they use this site. If someone appears on the site then they must have a friend or family member who is using it so they should be listed.
I think I probably won't slope off quietly when my time comes but I do understand why some do. I want least of all to be remembered as anyone inspirational, brave or battling. 'She loved Miriam Engelberg's cartoons' would make me smile though.
Yes thanks Jo..I'm still 'yes' I think but I really wouldn't want to end up on the page myself as my plan is to slope off very quietly..but I guess if I slope off quietly I wouldn't end up on the page..but thought I'd mention this in case anyone else felt similar. Maybe we could add our wishes to our profiles?
I think it is a good idea too but a word of caution. It needs to state In Memory/memorium of our members otherwise you get everyones pet, relative and even celebs and I think it rather loses its meaning then.
In view of the recent deaths we have experienced on this new site, I think it is important to open a new In Memoriam heading. There are two reasons for this. Such significant events should not be allowed to just drop further and further down a page until it is eventually archived (although I acknowledge that after a reasonable time period this will occur with an IM heading), but also for those who come on this site irregularly, it would be very easy to miss the passing of any of our friends in this current format.
If death doesn't warrant a new heading, I'm not entirely sure wha does