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If it turns out to be the worse how long?

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Crehensal
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

Thanks for that - I already am an old lady - 65!!!!!

Lolag
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

I have just heard about a 20 year mets survivor (that's where it has spread to other organs in the body). She is a lawyer and is still practicing.

If you have primary breast cancer - ie it is contained within the breast, surrounding tissue or lymph nodes - there is every chance it is completely treatable and you will live to be an old lady.

Dyzee
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

Hi Crehensal,

Sorry you are feeling so bad. I had a biopsy a week ago yesterday and also get my results on Monday.
I was really in shock for the first few days but I have read lots of the comments and advice on this site and it has really helped me.

My consultant said it was 50/50 and we wouldn't know anything for sure until the results were back.

Chin up.
Dyzee

Crehensal
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

Let's hope not. Anyone else out there been in this actual situation!

DebbiJayne
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

I have no answer to that Crehensal, but surely he wouldn't build your hopes up if he thought there was a problem?

Crehensal
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

What I can't get my head round is that he says he doesn't think it is anything to worry about but that I still have to go back and have more mammos and an ultrasound

DebbiJayne
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

My problem was Google Crehensal, not a good thing but very hard not to do it, some sites indicated I had cancer, others didn't, every day I googled myself to exhaustion looking for an answer, knowing that only the specialists at the clinic could give me one.

I found this site very calming and humbling, knowing what some of these ladies are going through but are still able to offer kind words and support to strangers is amazing.

Crehensal please try and focus on the fact that your con seems to think everything is ok, I know its hard but please try.

I'll be thinking of you.

Debbi xx

Crehensal
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

Thanks DebbiJayne as I said the Con said he doesn't think it is anything to worry about but you just can't help it can you. I sometimes wonder if reading too much on here is not a good thing - what do you think?

DebbiJayne
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

Hi Crehensal

Its so hard not to worry, I know, I've just been there, luckily for me my problem turned out to be a load of cysts clumped together, I hope you get the all clear too.

My hubby refused to talk about it too, I actually said to him one day "you'd think there wasn't a problem, that theres no lump, no risk, its almost as if you don't care", his response was that he cared alot, he was scared, terrified it was cancer and as long as he didn't talk about it then it wasn't happening, it was his way of coping, I don't know who was more relieved at the clinic, him or me.

I hope everything goes well for you Crehensal, I really do, don't be too hard on yourself, your fears are natural, I had days when I was convinced I had cancer, other days I convinced myself that the lump was harmless, as I said it was good news for me and I pray the same for you.

Debbi xx

Crehensal
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

Now the affected breast has started hurting - guess it's probably psychosomatic!!! I just cannot seem to get it into my head that even if the worst happens on Monday I will probably still be here in a couple of years time. OH is absolutely fed up with me. Says he won't discuss it until there is something to discuss. I know he is right but it doesn't help.

olivia07
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Crehensal - I'll be 69 next month and planning to be around to be a Great Grandmother! Hope the sun comes out this weekend and you keep yourself busy. Do let us know what happends and GOOD LUCK.

Crehensal
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

Thanks Jan. You are my namesake I call myself Jan too. Another 22 years and I shall be 87 and probably past caring!!!!

Janice
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Just thought I would add that I was first diagnosed 22 years ago when I was 38, waiting for results is horrible and I think its only natural to think the worse. Even if it is bad news chances are you will be around for many years to come so try not to think along those lines, I know its easier said that done.

Take care.

Jan

margaretw
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

I'm glad you feel better today and hope you will find some pleasurable things to occupy you until Monday.

Margaret x

Crehensal
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

I feel much calmer today. Monday will soon be here and, although there may be something there, I feel that the Con would not have said he didn't think there was anything to worry about if he thought there was. They have to be absolutely sure I know but whatever I WILL SURVIVE at least for a bit longer!!!

dawnhc
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

Hi crehensal - I'm another one who did get it and that was 17 years ago like olivia and I was 45 at time of dx. I hope yours is 'nothing to worry about' - but if it is we will all be here to help you thru it.

Dawn xxx

sarig
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

Crehensal,
I had similar questions on my head and ask the onc how long, stats and get teary everytime I think about it but now I'm over that. Stats are just stats and everyone reacts differently to the same treatment.

I am currently on 2nd FEC.

Results on Monday? Have a ball this weekend.

Sari

Crehensal
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

Thanks Olivia that's what I keep trying to think but I am afraid logic has gone out of the window. 17 years that is fantastic. Can I ask how old you are?

Crehensal
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

Thanks Margaretw. I keep trying to think if he says he doesn't think there is anything to worry about then he wouldn't have said that unless he thought it was the case. I just keep thinking that sometimes this density hides something else. Talk about crossing bridges before you come to them.

olivia07
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

Am sure you are over reacting and consultants don't say they don't think there is anything to worry about lightly. It is the waiting that is the big problem so try to be patient and stay calm but keep busy. Let us know what happens please. For the record I am still alive and kicking after 17 years and hope to equal if not better my Mother who died aged 90 (with a cigarette in her mouth)!

margaretw
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

Hi Crehensal,

Yes please try and stay calm. Many of us have gone back for further mammos and ultrasound. Your con says don't worry so please focus on that. If, and only if and hopefully there will be no if, there is anything to worry about then is the time to address the issue. Please don't worry unnecessarily. If it helps to post keep on doing so.

Margaret x

ForumMember
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Re: If it turns out to be the worse how long?

Hi.....
How are u? Silly question i know but i thought i would ask. First u need to calm down a bit .U asked how long? Well if it is the big C that dose'nt always mean the worst case scernario. I am sure everything will be ok. I have my last appointment with my plastic surgeon on fri before my mastectomy and i must admit i am worried but that is normal but you need to try and keep and clear head and try and stay positive. I hope i have been some help let me know how it goes
Take care
Michelle
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Crehensal
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If it turns out to be the worse how long?

I posted earlier to say that I had to go back for further mammos and ultrasound although the con said he didn't think it was anything to worry about. My breast is a little more dense in one part than it was 18 months ago. What I am worried about is that if it is the worst scenario how long have I got. I am going off my head with worry. I know that Monday isn't far away and there are people out there with much bigger problems than me but I am frantic.