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Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

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netti37
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Thank you Hopalong. Appreciate your message. Its not easy at the moment, but am hoping once I start i'll begin to get my head around things. xx I have been given the Emend tablet, which I am to take when I am on my to the hosp, and have two more to take on the next days. fingers crossed. xx I'm undecided to cold cap or not...I have 'afro' hair and the nurse told me it wasn't really effective. Ive got my appointment for a wig on thurs. But I will take all that you have advised with me just in case.
When did you finish your treatment? Hope you are doing ok. xx
Anon16
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Good luck tomorrow hun xx
Anon16
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Thank you x
hopalong
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Just popping in to say hope all goes as well as it can tomorrow and wednesday for you girls.

The waiting is the worst once you are there everyone else takes on the responsibility / worry for you.

Are any of you cold capping?

If so i recommend taking a small fleece blanket with you. i put mine under the hospital blanket and snuggled. You also need something to put on your head to walk through hospital travel home after as your hair will be wet and covered in conditioner.

If you are nauseous when you get home don't put up with it. There are lots of different drugs you can have. You can also ring and ask the emergency doctor to come / ring the helpline number and get an antisickness injection if you are struggling.

I had a drug called Emmend before and after my chemo sessions which helped greatly.

 

I'm now doing OK and have my 2nd post treatment mammogram next week. I have some post chemo issues but main problems are early menopause issues.

 

My last piece of advice is to accept help, if people say give me a call if you need anything, take them up on it. Friends family find it easier to have specific jobs so ask someone to cook for you one night or to have the children for a play date, or perhaps hoover etc.

Take care x

Anon16
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Yes be thinking of you too x
netti37
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

I'm in at 11.30. So as you finish, ill be starting. Its so surreal isn't it. Xx
I'm in no place to comment on your family, but as a mom, finding something like this out about your daughter is bound to have an impact. I'm sorry to hear your not in contact with your parents at this time.
I'm coping ok at the moment, because my girls are here so I can't let my emotions out anyway. Once they are at school tomorrow I don't know what will happen. I suppose your right about work at least it gets you're mind off things. I might go out shopping or repaint the living room lol. Xxx will be thinking about you Tues ..good luck with it. Its a means to an end .. Hopefully xxx
Anon16
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Yes working tomorrow. I'm head of operations for a small company and they are not going to cope without me. I had started assuring them I'd be fine and nothing would change but now it's actually happening I've changed my mind and don't want the stress. Want tomorrow to be as normal as possible to take my mind off it before Tuesday.

What time are you in? I'm 9am yikes.

I don't speak to my parents as we fell out a few years ago and they moved to Canada without saying goodbye to their granddaughter which I vowed to never forgive them for. Need some family history for my genetics tests as really have no idea if anyone in my family has had cancer or even breast cancer. I've emailed my sister in law's mum who lives in Canada too to get the info from them, of course she will have to tell them. My mind is wondering what they will think when they tell them? (My mum's a stubborn bitch). Anyways off topic - work can do one after tomorrow lol.

netti37
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

I've not worked since DX either. At the time I was too upset. I still am when I talk about it. I used to moan about work everyday...little niggles and groans. but I would do anything to go back now...i would sit happily for hours and get on with things. How ironic. Well done for working Rosie, but your not working tomorrow are you?? I'm beginning to get scared and worried about Tues...i can't believe it still. Fingers crossed all goes well. Not sure if you are keeping upto date with the June starters, there are plenty of words of advice and tips. All of which ill probably forget, but its reassuring to know we are not alone. Xxx
Emma111
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

I will be thinking of you on Tuesday. I'm only a day behind you. Really hope you sail through your treatment xx
Anon16
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Thank you Emma but it's not easy. Yesterday I had a bit of a breakdown about work and I've decided that I definitely come first in this and if I lose my job I lose my job. Last day Monday before chemo on Tuesday and then what will be will be as far as work is concerned. We are about to complete on a house purchase and still going through with it so need some finances for that to happen so fingers crossed. Xx
Emma111
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

I think you are amazing working. I havent been to work since I was diagnosed as just can't face it. Sounds a feeble excuse but some of my clients are very difficult and want their legal affairs sorted yesterday ..... I think I would break down at anyone confronting me about the silliest of things. I'm usually fiesty and would usually rise to the challenge but just don't think I could deal with that right now or when treatment starts.

You are amazing for working while going through such a difficult time x
Anon16
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

I am at work so my mind is off things but can't say I've actually done any work yet lol. Rosie
netti37
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Anon, how are you feeling today?x
netti37
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Emma, you'll find it under The Going Through Treatment, under chemo monthly starters xx
Hopalong, thanks for your message. Hope you are well and getting on with your life now xxx
Emma111
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Hi Netti, thanks for the message. I hope it went well as it could for your pre op on the chemo ward. I blubbed yesterday when I went. Where do I find the posts for 'chemo June starters'?xx

Anon, you are not alone in this, none of us our. Together we will all get through this x
hopalong
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Evening Girls,

A text from 1 of my virtual monthly starting chemo buddies has made me browse the forums this evening. Its not something I do regularly now.

I was diagnosed in Sept 14 had mastectomy no recon and then 6 cycles of EC.

Just thought Id say its **bleep** but you do get through it.

It seems as though you need some support and hopefully you can help each other through this and swap stories etc.

If you want to find more young un's (anyone under 45) then please have a browse and think about joining the younger breast cancer group on facebook. I have found this group so useful to me.

Take care girls, much love and hugs.

xx

netti37
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Hello Emma, sorry you have to join us to. I was DX a few weeks ago and it still hasn't sunk in at all. I'm just overwhelmed with it all. I've been to chemo unit today for pre op...ill start next Tues. We've both also posted in the chemo June starters, if you would like to chat to us there Emma.
Anon, sorry to hear you're having a bad day. I've read, it gets easier, but I can't see that being possible at the moment. I just want this all over. Its hard to believe only a few weeks ago, I was so happy with my life and now....well its just **bleep**e.
I'm hoping once I start chemo and get this tn issue accepted ill begin to move on.
Big hugs to both of you. Xx
Anon16
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Hi there, I've never thought I needed support until recently - especially today, it's been a rough day. 😞
Emma111
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Hiya, also just joined the club no one wants to join. I'm 37, was diagnosed on 27 May and start chemotherapy next Wednesday. I live in Exeter, Devon.

Have you joined a support group in your area?

In Exeter there is a charity called Force who are fantastic.

Like you, none of this feels real. I know we will both get through this and come out the other side much stronger. The word 'chemotherapy' still scares me and never thought I'd ever be taking this route in life but I guess no one does but there are so many amazing success stories and it def helps to read all the positive stories xx
AngeNut
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Ignore me - you are IN it -.Im going round in circles... gettng used to the different groups!
Confused. Com 🤓
AngeNut
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

There is a stream for young Mums with families on here ...

It's in a set of topics called 'Talk to people like me' and called 'Younger women with families' 

Anon16
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Glad your ok. I did fall asleep eventually oh well off to work after 3 hours sleep ugggg. Almost looking forward to my appointment on Thursday and Friday lol. Xx
netti37
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

hi, ive calmed down a bit now. had a cuppa and stopped reading (until the morning ;))

the other ladies journeys are so interesting to read, to see how they coped with dx and treatment etc, but theres one or two that really get you thinking.

ive been on this forum ever since I found my lump and it has really helped me. just having a down moment I think. scared about my future.

don't stress about work, that's the least of your worries, your boss will have to understand and accommodate things. my onc advised me not to work during treatment at all, I work in a office but do work shifts. I will see how I feel after 1st chemo. xx.

how are you feeling, I didn't expect anyone else to be awake at this hour. hope your alright. thank you for replying. x
Anon16
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Hi, are you ok???
Anon16
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Hope your ok hun
Anon16
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

I'm awake too but stressing about work which is annoying me. My boss seems to think I'll just have one day off for the chemo and that's it and even though I can't say I won't the fact that he to think I'm going for a manicure not chemo makes me want to leave (plus punch him lol). Work should be irrelevant right now grrr! Is reading other stories helping or not - I'm trying to avoid for now x
netti37
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

My chemo starts tuesday too. Im glad to be getting things progresses, but its all just hit me again...

 

I am still awake, as having a really bad time at the mo. just havent been able to get to sleep. I am just constantly reading other stories and info..my head is in overdrive. Since being told definate TN im in shock all over again.

 

I was worried about my scan results, they all came back clear, thankfully, but now I am back to being worried and petrified about the tn. I just cant beleive this is all happening....i want my life back. but i know, it will NEVER be the same again and i hate the thought of it all xx

Anon16
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Hi there looks like your in exactly the same boat as me. had the call to day my chemo starts 9am Tuesday. But still in denial!! If you want to keep in touch throughout that's good for me too. Rosie x
netti37
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Hello Anon,
Sorry that you are here. I am 37 too, its such a shock isnt it. I have been in denial ever since my dx 2 weeks ago. Found out yesterday that I was triple neg. too. I was expecting that result though, partly due to my age. I will be starting chemo very soon, but have no date yet (within the next 2 weeks), will then have surgery and rads. I have a very supportive family and friend network and I can talk to them whenever, but for some reason, coming on here and talking with ladies who are in the exact same position as me, really helps me. Ive been offered counselling, but at the minute this forum is helping me deal with things (a bit). I hope you vent your anger, upset and feelings on here too and we will all help and support you and others. We are all in this together now. xx
Flower2016
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Hello Anon

Have a look in going through treatment....chemotherapy monthly threads. That is the section for you re chemo. I am 42 and doing chemo currently. So far much better than anticipated so hope it will be for you. 

Best wishes x

Serap
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Re: Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Hi from Turkey. I am 33. I have two sons who are 4&8. Please don't give up. The life is wonderful. I was too anxious when i heard this illness. Your best drug is your happiness.
Anon16
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Im new! 37 and starting chemo soon yikes

Hope you will all welcome me. I joined a forum when I was pregnant and still great virtual friends with them a couple of years later so looking for the same potentially plus support and questions answered.

So I'm 37 was diagnosed a few weeks ago after a lump biopsy and due to start chemo in a few days then after 18 weeks surgery then radiation. Hasn't sunk in yet and im definately in denial!

Hoping there are some similar aged people to talk to as feeling too young to have breast cancer at all of my appointments.

What I'm going to do about work is stressing me out mainly plus my husband randomly burst into tears today about everything.

Sorry if that's a long post. I live in Worcester and have a lovely hubby and awesome 18 month old daughter x