Hi Laura c ,
Im so sorry to hear about your friend and my heart truely gos out to her and her family, this is a cruel vile disease and there seems to be no ryme or reason to it, i have also lost many friends that ive met since my own dx, many here on BCC, some of them with very good prognosis at Dx , each of us is different ,and each and every cancer is different ,also each of us responds to treatments differently sometimes.
I just wanted to clear up what i meant when i said i dont think anyone is "Lucky" to have Breast Cancer , Breast Cancer is thank goodess very treatable but it also has no cure, most people will be "Lucky" (though i realy dont like that word) and hopefully will never have to deal with breast cancer again after inital treatment, However, there are also many other people who go on to get reocurrences or sometimes secondaries, or as in my case even a 2nd primary at 5 yrs, some people can get recurrencess even yrs later, even 10,20 yrs later , (breast Cancer does not have a 5 yr all clear like some other cancers) so ALL of us ,whatever our Dx still will live with the Sword of Damocles" in our lives after a BC DX , and none of us will know for sure that we are cured untill we grow old and die of something else. That unfortuneatly is the realities of this disease.
I am glad if anyone can feel after Breast Cancer that it was just a blip in thier live's and that they can close the door after treatments, and i mean that genuinely ,most people learn to put their fears in a box and only let them out occasionaly so as to not allow it to affect their future lives, but it often takes a long time to regain trust in your body, and its not always easy for most to look on their dx as a blip as many people are left with long term SEs, body issues ,daily reminders of their disease, and worst of all fears for their future.
It does get better in time for most people ,and most people will adapt to their new normal and for the most part put BC behind them and hopefully have no further problems ,but because there are no gaurentees with this disease for anyone ,i would never ,no matter what the inital Dx class anyone as Lucky. There is an exelent artical written by Dr Peter Harvey , After Treatment Then What" which explains exactly most peoples feelings after a Dx of Breast Cancer and the Sword of Damocles it leaves behind.
Am sorry if anything i said caused any upset, it realy wasnt my intension, but i think no matter how early the Dx it still shouldnt be thought of as lucky, lucky are those who will never have to deal with Cancer in their lives.
All the very best to everyone