Well, I feel a right twit now.....wittering on about my various phobias and surgery neuroses.....and you are fine with it in essence. Ok, forget everything I said.....lol....you'll be in and out as quick as they can achieve it, trust me.
Well Jobey68, congratulations.... you've just given me the first belly laugh I've had since this whole thing started! lol. Thats an awesome way to shut someone up. Although I think we've all been guilty of complaining about things that really don't matter in the grand scheme of things.... I certainly have x
I'm a pass the gin girl myself! 🍸 Welcome to the least popular club ever!! We all try to help each other out and have a few laughs along the way to keep us sane 😜 I only told those that needed to know, there are plenty that still don't even in my family, it's hard enough to deal with without it being the topic of conversation amongst everyone you talk to, it's so nice to bump in to a friend and chat about boring rubbish knowing they don't have a clue! On the other hand it's also a sure fire way of shutting some people up when they are banging on about their issues, I've done that a few times!! 😉 Xx
Is your 'not great with hospitals' as bad as my 'not great'? Maybe I can reassure you if you are really afraid. I had/have a phobia of medication (havent taken paracetamol in 15 years even) and particularly GAs (never had one before this). If you were to do a search you would find threads I started at the time where my fear was so massive, it was greater than the cancer. At my pre assessement meeting I managed to achieve a heart rate of 130 bpm and a BP of 170/95 and I was just sitting there. I had to have a long pre surgery meeting with the anaethetist, to convince me to trust him, even then I thought I would definitely die and wrote a letter to my family lol I can laugh now! It all went fine, obviously, in and out of the hospital in less than 6 hours! Somehow, I was calm by the actual day (read lots of self help books and things) and didn't even need the prescribed lorazepam. So, just shout if theres anything concerning you in particular and I am happy to reassure if I can. x
Its great to hear that your active treatment is finished and you still find and provide support for others on their journey.
Yes, assuming everything is ok at the pre assessment tomorrow, I shoud be going for surgery on 19th September. Not great with hospitals, (is anyone? lol), so just hoping to get in and out as quick as possible.
I'm 47 too. Good, I'm glad you are finding positive strength here, this place saw me through the early days of complete hysteria lol I was only diagnosed early March and had lumpectomy in April, but now active treatment has finished I gain so much advice and positivity from visiting in different ways. There is MASSES of hope for you my friend, the majority of women have very successful treatment, and there are a very special group of women here who have secondaries (and many have had for many years) who are totally inspirational as they are living their lives to the full with ongoing treatment. I'm not saying you have secondaries by the way, just saying that those women inspire me personally.
I hardly told anybody about my diagnosis, 2 friends and only close family. I've only really let people know now after its all over. Everyone is different in that respect; some like to keep it private and feel they might be treated differently if people know of their diagnosis. I certainly felt that way, and just didn't want pitying looks or people asking me, I just didn't want to talk about it with everybody as it helped me retain some normality and compartmentalise the bc and 'life'. There was enough medical discussion without having to repeat to everybody all the details. Others like getting it out in the open and find comfort from others knowing. Neither way is wrong. ;o)
Have you a date for surgery yet?
Hi Janey2 and thank you for the welcome.
The support available here is fantastic and I think it will be a godsend for me, as I'm really struggling with 'sharing my news'. I just don't want people to know! lol. Is this a normal reaction? This is turning out to be a bone on contention between me and my husband but I'm sure we'll sort it one way or the other.
Hi Charys and thank you for the welcome. I'm so glad I came across this forum, it has definitely saved my sanity as before that I was googling everything and scaring the bejesus out of myself! lol. This place is amazing - full of strong women who give me hope, even when things look really bad for me.
My surgeon seems to be suggesting that a lumpectomy would be the best for me, although I am still being given the option of the mastectomy. I would say I am 80% sure that i'm going with the lumpectomy but still feel that if I had to have a mastectomy that would be ok too. I'm 47 so the cosmetic side of things really isn't a priority for me. I also have to have the node thing (still can't get my head round the acronyms for things).
I've been warned that radiotherapy is a definite and chemo a strong possibility. At this point I don't care what they have to do, I just want my life back.
Hi guys. I was diagnosed on 1st September with Invasive Ductal Carcinoma Grade 3, Oestrogen positive, HER2 negative. I also have node involvement - I never have believed in doing things by half! I have my pre assessment tomorrow and, all being well, I will be going for surgery 19th September. I don't have any questions at the moment but wanted to introduce myself, in case anyone else is recently diagnosed.