Job Offer

[Tinkerbelle]

Hi Everyone,

I have just been offered a job with a company that is my dream place to work as the people were so nice, but they were unaware of my diagnosis.  I did tell them and said I would be interested but feel I should say no (the project doesn't start until next year) as I can't guarantee my health.  I think they might have been thinking the same thing but were too kind to say so.

I feel I've put them in a difficult position as they need someone reliable.

Any advice/experience welcome

Tink x

[belinda]

Oh I'm also sorry you didn't get the job Tinks, must say I also think everyone else is right about the reasons why you didn't get it too. Their loss. Take care. X

[2catlady]

Tink,huge hugs,I'm with choc,I think it is the BC but they can't say that xxxxx huge hugs lovely lady,xxxx Helen xxxx

[LemonDrizzle]

Tink, I'm sure you'll find something else that suits you but I'm also sure Chocolates is right in what she says - they obviously don't know what they're missing though. Use your bit of energy wisely... on yourself!
LD x

[Tinkerbelle]

Thanks Chocolates and hugs back (hope your cold improve soon) - I'll just have to throw my (tiny bit) of energy into something else. x

[Chocolates]

Tink - so sorry to hear this. I think, and it is only my opinion, that it is to do with your bc they just can't say as unions, law etc would come down on your side. So do not for one minute think that you are not good enough because you are. It's their loss. I know that doesn't make things any better but Tink you're a lovely person and don't ever let this get to you.

Sending you huge hugs lovely lady xxxx

[Tinkerbelle]

Well, they went with someone else - I'm gutted, but it sort of makes sense to go with someone reliable. 

They did say it was nothing to do with my bc which almost makes it worse!  Now I know it is just me they didn't want rather than the unreliability of illness.

Oh well -  Tink x

[2catlady]

Tink,we all have our fingers crossed for you,huge hugs,Helen xxxxx

[Tinkerbelle]

Thanks Ladies,

I'm just hoping that they don't decide to go with someone else rather than job-share as they were a bit vaguewhen I suggested it.

Fingers crossed.

Tink x

[2catlady]

Tink,that's great,you go girl .
Huge hugs,Helen xxxxx

[jenny29]

What a gift Tink.  It sounds like something you want, so go for it 🙂

[LemonDrizzle]

That sounds perfect Tink. Fingers crossed that it is acceptable. Xc

[belinda]

Sounds the perfect solution Tink, hope it works out for you. X

[Tinkerbelle]

Thanks for the reply Jenny,

Have just spoken with a friend who has recently resigned from another company and she would like to do job-share, so if that is acceptable I could go part-time and if I was unable to carry on she said she could go full-time at a pinch.

Hopefully this will be acceptable and I can still do some work and with lovely people.

Tink x

[jenny29]

Hi Tina

A few questions, which might help. Is it full-time? Long days? How flexible is the workload? If you think about how you are feeling now, do you feel like you could do the job today? If so, could you still accept the offer?

Yes, your health might get worse but who can guarantee how things will be for anyone in six months time. A person with no health issues could take it and then have a crisis or accident. I got a phone call out of the blue last night saying a friend had an accident.

I do know where you are coming from, I find it difficult to do any planning further than a few months because ofthe feeling of uncertainty.   I didnt go for a job that previously I would have loved to have because I know I would struggle with it now. Disappointing but the right choice for me. I havent told any employers of my diagnosis, only that I have a disability.