Just diagnosed. Aaaarrrrggghhhh!

[ann-m]

ahh, I've just seen the date too... x

[ann-m]

hi dawn,
Sorry you find yourself here, but there is plenty of support with others going through it & have been through it.
Do pop along to the 'newly diagnosed' thread to chat as you need to.
ann x

[Maldives]

Im so sorry dawn ive just noticed the date on your post. Only 6 months out. Im still trying to work my way around. Shows doesnt it. Well ignor everything i said i expect your well on the road to recovery now.

[Maldives]

Hi dawn. Ive just joined the group and they are great. Ive been struggling along on my own for 2 and half years. You started at the right point because there is always someone on here that knows where your at. Your still in shock and scared i should imagine. Thats a word ive only just plucked up the courage to use. And its ok.
Just roll with it but make sure you understand what they are saying to you in the hospital. They tend to talk over you as if your not there. If they do this or you dont understand thier jargon tell them. its important for your own head to know your involved in whats happening to you. I tried to join this group when i was first diognosed but i was so confused and scared i didnt carry on with it. Now i wish i did. Good luck with your op. Keep in touch and let us know how your doing. Sending you a hug sue xx

[delly]

Hi Nadzieja, Dawn, Ellie49 - I had to read twice on your response to Dawn, that it was 6 months or so ago.

I do so hope you are ALL doing okay - are you????

Love and hugs Delly xxx 

[nadzieja]

I am very sorry Dawn, i only saw the date of your message now, apologies!! I do hope you are doing fine now 🙂

[nadzieja]

Hi Dawn,

Try to tackle your anger, been reading a lot how important it is to be in a good positive and calm state of mind when dealing with cancer.. I know, easier said than done.. I am going through all sorts of emotions and found that meditation and breathing exercises help enormously. As well as focusing on emotional therapy if you like. These are the links to websites that I have found helpful:

https://www.doyogawithme.com/yoga-meditation

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wkxvpN2WtuA

I am also waiting to receive the book H'oponopono - which is about a Hawaian cleansing/healing ritual - my friend recommendation. 

I hope this will help you focus on getting better. Good luck on 18th and I wish you speedy recovery!!

[Dawn A]

Hi Ellie. Yes it's normal. The last couple of months have been a roller coaster of emotions for me. I am feeling better as time moves on tho. Hopefully it can only get better! I hope you are getting your head round everything more and all is going well with your treatment. Xx

[Dawn A]

Hi ladies, thanks for your support.

I have had my op which was much easier than I had thought it would be and am half way thru radiotherapy. Which is rubbish! I have been experiencing awful joint pain hence being awake at 3 am! Emotions are more under control but still very up and down.

I really thought I would just get this done and get on with my life..... Not so sure it will be that easy now. Trying to remain positive tho. 

Thanks again for your words of support and wisdom..... Onwards and upwards hopefully! Xx

[ellie49]

I know how you feel. On Wednesday I was diagnosed with breast cancer, and was quite poitive at the time, but today feeling really anxious and down.  Is this normal, or am I feeling sorry for myself?

[delly]

 PS.  

Blondie, hope you're doing well too  xx

[delly]

OOOOOPS, 

Sorry Dawn, upon checking back, noticed you said op on the 18th and my previous post was after that. 

Hope you're doing well and that you are out and back home now. You may not yet feel up to posting or ANYthing at the mo' but do let us know how you're going on will you.

Hope it hasn't been as bad as you thought.

Thinking of you

Doolally Delly xx 

[delly]

Hey Dawn

Sorry you're here on this much needed but unfortunate need for forum.

I'm 8 years down the line from having had two seperate mastectomies and I'm STILL angry (!!) if that's any consolation.

It has had such a massive negative impact on what prior to was a relatively happy life and succesful business. Plus I'd taken good care of myself - exercise, diet, moderation of alcohol etc, etc.

Personally, I think ANY person having to face and undergo cancer treatments should be given counselling as a standard accompaniment. If you don't think/feel you need it then great, you opt out and save on the resources that many people DO need and require to help get themself and their life back to some normality.

My own experience of, basically having to have both my boobs removed, has left me with major depression which has been majorly debilitating as a single person (bounced back and coped well after 1st mastectomy but NOT after my 2nd mastectomy, which wasn't even a year later - another reason for anger.)

I do feel very strongly that the government needs to address this (counselling) NEED caused by such a horrible disease of the 20th and 21st century, perhaps along with possibly lottery funds etc. I am not mentally strong enough to fight and LOBBY for such a cause. And sorry, need to get off my soap box and offer/give my support to people such as yourself.

Yeh, you will feel like your going mad. It isn't a very natural, normal situation to be in.

My advice - You need to ask as many questions as possible - write them down as and when you think of them. Don't EVER think you're making a nuisance of yourself - in fact, it is IMPORTANT to MAKE a nuisance of yourself to ensure you get those answers and the OPTIONS.

And as much as possible - always try to have someone there with you at any appointment that is to discuss your results/treatment - because, you being the one directly affected, YOUR ears and brain are drastically affected by shock, emotion and upset to be able to take in important information..and get them to make notes on what is said.

Good luck and loving thoughts

Delly xx 

[Dawn A]

Thanks, feel like I am going mad! Hopefully will feel better at the other end of this. Just so many things you don't think or know about at first diagnosis! 

[Blondie223]

Hi Dawn, sorry that you find yourself joining our club, but you're in the right place now you're here as you'll find lots of support.

Your emotions are understandably running high anyway, and stopping HRT won't be helping from that side, but hey, if it reduces the odds of a recurrence....I had WLE (and sentinel node removal) in June for DCIS and also IDC which was hormone receptive. I had to stop taking my contraceptive pills and have now started on Tamoxifen, but I was having rages before the Tamoxifen, my mood has been so up and down with the stress of diagnosis, poor OH doesn't know where he's at. However, I finished my fifteen sessions of radiotherapy yesterday and feel that my mood is finally beginning to settle.

Hang in there, as you get through each step of the process things will become clearer and hopefully calmer for you too xxx

[Dawn A]

just diagnosed with BC. Operation booked for the 18th. All a bit of a whirlwind and I don't know which way is up at the moment! I feel so angry all the time..... Maybe that's having to stop the HRT. I'm not even sure what questions to ask. All advice will be well received. Thanks in advance