Hi jay sorry to hear about your wife ,I finished chemo in 2015 I have 6monthly appt alternating between oncologist and surgeon where I discuss any problems I have or I can ring the breast nurse team in between these appointments . My oh was very supportive while I was going through treatment only thing he didn't come with me when I was having my chemo it was my choice I didn't feel it necessary but I do realise some people want someone there he always picked me up though . Hope your wife as minimal SE ,s and you are both able to get out even for little walks .best wishes
Hi jay15 and welcome.
Sorry to hear of your problems and wife's health problem.
I had fec-t and surgery to remove a 90mm lump and am awaiting radiotherapy.
I have been very well since the surgery, so there is life after chemo and surgery.
You will need to be very supportive when your wife is feeling poorly, but there is light at the end of the tunnel.
My husband had to do the shopping during the week after chemo as I was very sick and tired, but I ordered it to be delivered the following week and was able to do the shopping myself during the third week, but we are all different so you will have to see how it goes.
I can't give any diet recommendations. I did drink a lot of dilute orange cordial after the chemo. She will have to drink plenty so will have to find something that she likes.
My wifes been diagnosed with TNBC in August- a 22mm lump. She had her Centenal Biopsy yesterday so the node results are to come next Tuesday (19th Sep). We have been advised with Chemo >> Rad >> Surgery.
Her way of dealing with things are different to mine. She likes to take things as they come and she is the brave one in the family. The posts here are so inspiring and gives me a lot of courage. Your statement " Life does return to normal and treatments are really good now" has given me a lot of hope + the fact that you back at work makes me feel positive.
My question is what happens now that you are done with your treatment? Have the doctors confirmed that they have taken care of the cancer completely? Also are there any superfoods that you would recommed at time of Chemo to boost her immunity and regain strength?
Sorry if my questions are personal and silly but I really love my wife.
Hi.....I was also diagnosed with triple negative breast cancer and was devastated. Just saw my life flash before my eyes. I had a sentinel node biopsy and had spread to 1 node which was removed. I had a bone scan, breast MRI and CT of chest, abdomen and pelvic area, all of which were clear - much to my relief. i had my first chemo cycle last Thursday and am starting to feel ok now...... Really wasn't as bad as I expected. Just so happy treatment has started. Most important for me is not to look too far ahead. I have 6 chemo cycles 3 weeks apart then surgery then radiotherapy. Need to remain positive.....
I am also tnbc, had a 3cm lump but no obvious lymph node involvement. I was also told tnbc is always classed as Grade 3, because the cancer cells are so very different from the normal cells. Three EC chemo sessions have reduced the lump to 1.5 cm so far.
The early days are really difficult,your mind works overtime and you imagine all sorts of things. It does get easier and once you have a treatment plan and realise what can be done you'll feel much calmer.
Hi Cruzita I had tnbc 50mm lump and 3 of 5 nodes sampled were positive so had mastectomy followed by fec-t chemo and then node clearance on right side + 15 rads. The reason for me telling you this is because I was told I was stage 2b. I don't know if you have confused stage with grade as all tnbc with node involvement is grade 3. They normally tell you the stage later in treatment. Hope this helps to settle you a little bit. This is a very emotional time for you but you'll feel better as treatment goes on. I had a year off work and went back last September. My job is quite physical and now I feel really well. I made good changes to diet and take some supplements that I believe in. Life does return to normal and treatments are really good now. Try not to worry too much and take things one step at a time. Xx
Hi to all new people I don't often post I am 3yrs on from my mastectomy and chemo I had two lumps in my breast both tnbc it is very scarey but my advice is not to google , trust your medical team , listen to your body and rest when you can take tablets as adviced try and get out even if it only a short walk , accept help when it is offered it is an hard emotional journey but it is doable I had days when I thought I cant get through but I did ,I have seen two more grandchildren born since I was diagnosed ! Take care and virtual hugs t all X DEN
Hi yes your right it's the waiting that's the worst. I went to my doctors 3 months ago with a lump under my arm and she told me it was nothing and not to worry, I went back and on the 3rd time she referred me. Mammogram found lump in my breast, since then things have been moving quite fast. Hoping it won't be to long before I see the oncologist. It's amazed me how helpful and strong everyone on this forum are, as much as I have very supportive family and friends it's nice to speak to people that are going through the same. Thank you so much everyone. Annie A hope you carry on coping well with your chemo xx
H Kaicorie, sorry to hear of your recent diagnosis and welcome to our friendly club which we'd all rather not be in. I'm 48 and was diagnosed with grade 2 locally advanced invasive ER+/her2- at the end of March. As the tumour is 50mm with diffuse margins and also 4 local nodes testing positive, chemo was not optional it was essential. I just had my second chemo, 2 of 8 and will have an mx at the end. Whilst it's a lot to get your head around early on, once you're into the treatment it gets easier to deal with. I've coped well with the chemo, with minimal side effects. Your medical team are amazing so try and focus on you and getting healthy for treatment and find ways to distract your mind a bit. I've learned to get into relaxed mode by doing things like craft, reading, herbal teas, aromatherapy etc. Coming on this forum has been great for feeling less mentally isolate too. Take care. X
Hi thank you both for your response, I feel a bit more positive today after reading posts on this forum. I've also checked out the face book forum. Thanks again for your help
Sorry to hear you're going through this, it is such a scary time, but there are others here with a similar diagnosis to you.
As well as fb as lilneenz says, if you want to, do have a look at the other threads here, including the 'newly diagnosed' thread & the 'going through treatment' board where you will find the chemo & monthly chemo threads where you can join others at the stage you're at.
There is also the helpline above, if you need to talk things through.