Hi ladies,
After reading your posts I have put for you below the link to the area of this website where managing stress and anxiety is discussed and hope you find it helpful.
Also our helpline team are just a free phone call away to help you through this 0808 800 6000 lines open weekdays 9-5 and Saturdays 10-2.
You might also like to join in with our General Live Chat session which runs every Thursday evening between 8.30pm and 9.30pm The session is hosted by one of our nursing team who is there to help answer any of your questions. The regular users of this service are a wonderful support to each other, where you can 'talk' in real time. I have put you the link below to Live Chat and hope you'll come and join us.
http://www.breastcancercare.org.uk/community/chat
Take care,
Jo, Moderator
Hi Tra16
Only been 6 days for me too. I don't even know how big my lump is but it is the fact that it is in the lymph nodes that has scared me. That's all I got told last week. Appt is tomorrow so I suppose I'll know more then but it's the CT scan I want and don't even know when that is yet!
Like you, just want the treatment plan and that might hopefully make me feel more in control.
No I completely understand what you're saying. You might not feel it is helpful but maybe it is. You have every right to be angry about what has happened. And the patience you must have dealing with all this so far. I'm only on day 6 and I'm a basket case. I went nuts searching on Google the other day and scared myself stupid. Luckily I stopped and now the only website I am using is this one.
Thanks Gilly
Must admit, after having two ok days, have absolutely crashed today. Just overwhelmed by how much everything has changed and this constant feeling of fear. Have convinced myself that it has already spread and there is no way forward. I just want things to go back to how they were.
I know everyone feels like this at some point and it's only day 6 but how on earth do you all cope.
Evening Molliana
Do not worry that you've not had staging scans. Some hospitals do them others don't. In reality every Consultant has slightly different ways of working and actually you can only be given an indicator from any scan / biopsy. Once any tumour is removed it is subject to Pathology testing for confirmation of grade which usually matches the prediction / indicator but can be different. Same with staging which can only be confirmed once they know how many nodes (if any) are involved the actual size of the tumour etc.
I was diagnosed with what appeared to be 6.5cm grade 3 tumour, highly likely to be in nodes..... from Ultrasound / biopsy x 3. Had Chemo first to shrink tumour before surgery so had heart scan (which is just to get a baseline) prior to Chemo and and Chest Xray prior to surgery. No other scans and i still haven' t had any other scans. I am 2.1/2 years on from my diagnosis, had reconstruction last year and this just needs some further tweaking..
Had Fec T(Chemo) x 6 then surgery. Tumour turned out to 4.2cm Grade 2 not 3 and in only 1/23 nodes.
You ladies are right the waiting is the worst thing and i felt that i was drip fed the infomation which was quite irritating but with hindsight i guess we can only process so much information at once.
Please just focus on keeping some normality in your lives, keep to your routine and trust the experts to do their job. Keep posting and ask anything that concerns you 'cos you will get replies and support on this forum.
Take Care Gilly x
Yes, it is. Still waiting to know my CT appt. Keep checking the mail.
When is your appt? I hope it goes ok.
Thanks for the supportive message. Is really helping as I'm in school as normal but at the same time everything has changed. Good luck for Thursday
Thank you. It has only been a few days but already everyone on the site has been so supportive.
Purposeful would be good. Thank you for your reply.
Hi Ladies, Just wanted to wish you all the best when you finally get your results. The waiting (as you all know) is really the worst part of all this. Once you have your plan and you know what you are dealing with it becomes easier. I hope you all get good results and start whatever treatment you need as soon as possible so you can start the journey and then get on with your life again. I was diagnosed by routine mammogram, had surgery and hoped I would need radiotherapy, hormone treatment and that would be it. Unfortunately cant have hormone treatment so chemo it had to be. Have had my first one and 2nd one due on Thursday. You will get lots of support on the forum and dont be scared to share your worries and concerns as we all feel them aswell and I am sure there will always be someone out there that can offer reassurance to you.
Big hugs to you all
Lynda xxx
Thank you. That is exactly how I'm feeling at the moment. Yes, I keep being told to 'be positive' when actually I just want to be practical and know what I'm up against.
Thanks again.
Thank you lolly73, this is reassuring. I can understand why this is the most stressful time - I just want to know what I am dealing with. So scared as it has already spread to the lymph nodes and just want to know that it has not spread further.
Did anyone else out there have a CT scan before starting their treatment?
Is this normal or a sign that they think it has already spread?
Looking for some reassurance this morning. For the past few weeks, my lymph nodes have been swollen and painful and I was reassured that this was just the lymph nodes doing their job. This morning for the first time no pain. Did anyone else have pain and swelling in their lymph nodes? Did it come and go?
Hi Teacher,
It may be only the first lymph node, when they took my biopsey it was the first one only that was affected, so they took them all, i was happy with this. as i know the damm C as i call it, can lurk, All rest were clear, so no chemo. So hopefully yours might be same. june
Hello Fluffydave
Welcome to the forums.
I'm sorry to hear of your diagnosis, the first few weeks are always difficult when coming to terms with your diagnosis and treatment.
As well as the support you will receive on the forums you might find it helpful to order the BCC resources pack. It has been specifically designed for those newly diagnosed and contains information to help you understand your diagnosis, test results and the various treatments available. If you would like to order a copy just follow the link bellow:-
http://www2.breastcancercare.org.uk/publications/diagnosed-breast-cancer/resource-pack-primary-early...
You may also like to talk things through with one of the helpline staff, they are there to offer emotional support as well as provide information. The free phone number is 0808 800 6000 and lines are open 9-5 Monday to Friday and 10-2 Saturday.
Best wishes
June, moderator
Good luck on Thursday. Take care.
Good luck for this week.
Mainly shocked. I have told a few friends and family and discussing it with them has helped.
The waiting is very difficult and I am very aware of the lump and especially the lymph nodes because they are swollen and sore. Once I have the full test results back and the CT back, I think I will have a clearer head. It will be a very different thing to deal with if the cancer has already spread.
How are you?
Yes. I went for the hospital appt thinking they would say it was a cyst.
They gave me an examination, then a mammogram, ultrasound and two biopsies.
They had a fairly good idea based on the mammogram and ultrasound but couldn't confirm until they had the biopsies back.
Hello Teacher39
Welcome to the forums.
I'm sorry to hear of your diagnosis, the first few weeks are always difficult when coming to terms with your diagnosis and treatment.
As well as the support you will receive on the forums you might find it helpful to order the BCC resources pack. It has been specifically designed for those newly diagnosed and contains information to help you understand your diagnosis, test results and the various treatments available. If you would like to order a copy just follow the link bellow:-
http://www2.breastcancercare.org.uk/publications/diagnosed-breast-cancer/resource-pack-primary-early...
You may also like to talk things through with one of the helpline staff, they are there to offer emotional support as well as provide information. The free phone number is 0808 800 6000 and lines are open 9-5 Monday to Friday and 10-2 Saturday.
Best wishes
June, moderator
Found a lump on 7th Feb. Took a week to get a doctor's appt then another two weeks for a hospital appt. Had a biopsy on 27th Feb to my breast lump and lymph nodes. A week later (6th March) I was told they had both come back positive for cancer. I am 39 years old with no family history. I have to go back on Thu (12th) for more test results, a CT scan over the next 10 days and my lumpectomy has been booked for 8th April. My first reaction is that this seems a long time to wait without treatment as the cancer is already in my lymph nodes. Waiting to see if the cancer has spread to other parts of the body is proving the most stressful thing.