I'm 66 and been happily married for 42 years, but libido is a big issue for me now so I'm glad I've found this thread. I don't think anyone or anything can help - but writing this down and sharing might. Before breast cancer, I had been on HRT for 9 years, plus testosterone implants for 5 years, too. This was to help strengthen thinning bones, but in truth I didn't give a hoot about my bones - I was just enjoying the sex drive of a thirty-something! My husband did too, and after 30 odd years of mediocre sex, we whooshed into 10 years of hotsville .... but of course, breast cancer rather put a halt to all that. I had a mastectomy, no reconstruction, and now 5 years of anastrozole plus Vit D and calcium for those returned thinning bones.
The good news is, it's hardly affected our marriage and maybe it was just fun to 'borrow' some youth for a few years. The bad news is, I do miss it. The libido, not the sex. I don't want sex - but we make love and with the mechanical help of a vibrator and plenty of lubrication, we muddle on, possibly as well as a lot of mid-sixties couples. And there's always the consolation of never minding whether it's satisfactory or not because I don't have any need at all.
But just sometimes I feel the loss, throwing those pretty little sexy bras away, wondering if he feels regret (but never shows it), looking wistfully at attractive women who obviously still enjoy sex, oh - just a bundle of sensitive feelings. I doubt I'll ever feel randy again and I'm mostly thrilled to be alive and, I hope, very well. I just wanted to tell you all, a bit selfish really, because my life is good. But still .... thanks for listening. Love Cherry
