I'm 66 and been happily married for 42 years, but libido is a big issue for me now so I'm glad I've found this thread. I don't think anyone or anything can help - but writing this down and sharing might. Before breast cancer, I had been on HRT for 9 years, plus testosterone implants for 5 years, too. This was to help strengthen thinning bones, but in truth I didn't give a hoot about my bones - I was just enjoying the sex drive of a thirty-something! My husband did too, and after 30 odd years of mediocre sex, we whooshed into 10 years of hotsville .... but of course, breast cancer rather put a halt to all that. I had a mastectomy, no reconstruction, and now 5 years of anastrozole plus Vit D and calcium for those returned thinning bones.
The good news is, it's hardly affected our marriage and maybe it was just fun to 'borrow' some youth for a few years. The bad news is, I do miss it. The libido, not the sex. I don't want sex - but we make love and with the mechanical help of a vibrator and plenty of lubrication, we muddle on, possibly as well as a lot of mid-sixties couples. And there's always the consolation of never minding whether it's satisfactory or not because I don't have any need at all.
But just sometimes I feel the loss, throwing those pretty little sexy bras away, wondering if he feels regret (but never shows it), looking wistfully at attractive women who obviously still enjoy sex, oh - just a bundle of sensitive feelings. I doubt I'll ever feel randy again and I'm mostly thrilled to be alive and, I hope, very well. I just wanted to tell you all, a bit selfish really, because my life is good. But still .... thanks for listening. Love Cherry
Yes, maybe buy some for when you are ready? Have it in your drawer and remind yourself that you WILL be wearing it! I am going to do the same soon and may even buy myself a nightie for the summer!
There's absolutely no need to feel embarassed about this, I am sure you will find from you fellow forum users that you are not alone. To try to help you I have put for you below the link to BCC's publication Your body, intimacy and sex, also our helpline team will be only too happy to talk to you further about this if you feel you can talk to someone over the phone. Calls are free 0808 800 6000 lines open weekdays 9-5 and Saturdays 10-2.
I've also put for you below the link to the area of this website where this is also discussed.