Hi Lettie
Welcome to the Breast Cancer Care discussion forums, I hope you will find them to be a good source of support and information.
Whilst you wait for the other users to reply with their advice and information if you do need to talk this through please don't hesitate to give the BCC helpline a call on 0808 800 6000. The staff on the helpline will be able to offer you a listening ear as well as emotional support and practical infromation. The lines are open Monday to Friday 9 to 5pm and Saturday 10 to 2pm.
I hope this is helpful.
Best wishes Sam, BCC Facilitator