Francine I was thinking of you and your daughter on Saturday. I went to the summer festival at Ally Pally and did a 'behind the scenes' tour which was fab, got to see the old BBC studios and the theatre which hasn't been open to the public since the 1930s. So pleased they've got some lottery funding to do it all up and re-open it as I'll have a West End quality theatre in walking distance of my home and, presumably, it'll be the same for your daughter.
So, lovely ladies, any advice for me on how to handle returning to work/new job? I'm slightly dreading it as I know what a hard time many of you have had.
Well done Sharon
Job satisfaction is such a good feeling. With food like that, that is one meal you won't have to budget for, Just remember though it's best not to snooze in the afternoon when you are at work
Lets hope our appointments in first week of August are what we hope for Francine.
Thanks ladies. The organisation is a really old, traditional one and the job offer includes free lunch in the extremely posh (strict dress code) dining hall. Just looked at the menu and tomorrow is a soup starter; roast beef and roast potatoes, yorkshire pudding etc (or a veggie alternative of polenta & roasted veggies) followed by lemon syllabub. Think the diet might be under threat! Ah well, I've decided to accept it and just adjust to a life of being poor and fat but hopefully happy!
Good news all round
Francine - really Marching Forwards now - I hope your discussion in august is fruitful and you don't have to wait too long for the date.
The decision about which op is hard, you need to choose which you feel most comfortable with.
Congratulations Sharon, I know you haven't accepted yet but perhaps the job will lead to better things long term. Balancing the pennies is soo very hard though, but finding something that really suits you is hard as well
All the best to you both
Great news Francine. Do you have a date for surgery yet or is that one of the things you're discussing at your meeting on 5th August? And have you decided what sort of surgery you are going to have? Big scary stuff isn't it, really feel for you.
I had good news this afternoon, was offered the job that I wanted so now I'm just trying to work out if I can afford to accept it (the salary is dramatically lower than I usually earn and less than I asked for) but I want to take it if I possibly can so will be seeing where I can pennypinch on my budget to make it OK. Sure I'll manage it somehow and I can't believe I've been lucky enough to get the job. Someone somewhere is looking after me
Pusscat back to his old self this morning so that's great and I was pleased with how my interview yesterday went. Not sure I'm quite what they are looking for unfortunately which is a shame as I really liked the people, the place and the role. Still, I don't think I embarrassed myself and I enjoyed talking to them which makes me feel a bit more confident about the next ones.
Francine if you haven't seen it already, I can recommend The Sopranos boxset: 178 hours of viewing and almost all of it brilliant if a bit gory (but then we've all got quite skilled at handling gory haven't we ?)
Take care all
Are you getting some rest Francine or still too sore? I can lend you a few box sets if you'd like, or a colouring book. Think I've even got some jigsaw puzzles somewhere. Happy to send them on to you if you'd like them to while away the waiting time. I know this is going to make me sound like a madwoman, but when I worked away from home a lot I used to phone my cats as they liked hearing my voice. My OH used to hold the phone up so they could hear me. And I liked hearing them too of course. The fact that I phoned the cats more often than the OH was a source of some tension, lol!
Thanks for kind thoughts Cheryl & Beryl, I know you've both got a lot going on at the moment so hope you are both getting some time just to relax. Does the world still look all bright and shiny with your new improved vision Cheryl or does it feel normal already?
Dollop has improved a bit and is up and about now but looking very sorry for himself. Delighted to see him moving again but keeping him still enough to syringe the three lots of medication down his little throat is a bit of a challenge - still, can't complain because I'm an even worse patient
Definitely going to have to wing it in the interview tomorrow but can't be bothered to fret about it, it'll either be OK or it won't but at least it will be over! Actually I quite like interviews as it's always interesting to meet new people. I have to give a presentation too and I don't think I'll be able to wing that bit of it so I'd better get cracking I suppose *adjusts specs, brushes hair out of eyes and tries to look vaguely professional*
Love to all
Sharon I feel for you
Peased cat is perking up but restless nights are all part of loving a pet/person etc.
Do you have to go to the vet again today?
I hope you have a beter day. I am sure you will cater for his every need(well nearly every need!!!) and make him really comfy and give him lots of hugs.
You will of course be rewarded with lots of purrs back
I hope the job iis as good as it looks and that you manage to survive the next day or so .
I can wing it when necessry as well
Wish you all the best.
it's nearly midnight and I'm just back from the emergency vet with my adored kitcat Dollop who is very sick. Was worried that I'd be coming home having said my goodbye (he is 16 next month so generally pretty creaky at the best of times, really thought I'd lost him earlier). Couldn't bear to leave him at the vets as he was so terrified he was hyperventilating so I've brought him home. I've been told to keep a close eye on him overnight and take him back immediately if he gets any worse. It's going to be a long night
Job thing is moving along nicely Beryl, heard this afternoon that I have got an interview on Monday for the job I like the sound of so I hope it looks as good then as it does on paper (and that they like the look of me too of course). So worried about my cat I can't seem to care much about the work thing at the moment though so might have to wing it a bit during the interview (although in fairness, spouting rubbish is one of my specialities so I'm sure I'll be no worse than usual!). Glad to hear the hospital are finally checking you and hopefully you'll be discharged to just annual visits now too.
Love to all
Edit: Pusscat improved this morning although still feeling ill poor thing. Phew, very relieved cat mum!
Well my GP certainly got a move on - had a hosptal appointment through for August 3rd - hope it will be to discharge me to yearly check ups.
Still don't know why I hadn't heard from them, as have always found them caring and efficient before.
Take care all of you
Sorry Sharon, forgot to ask you how the job interview/search is going?
Phew Francine! Horrible having to do yet another set of medical visits but at least no bowel surgery needed for now so hopefully you're back on track to get the BC sorted soon. I'll be so happy for you when you can get through the breast surgery as you'll be on the home stretch then. Will be standing along side you, albeit virtually, cheering you along all the way
Hope you can relax a little bit now and get some sleep.
Look after yourself
Great news Francine
Bum, tits now what else?
I hope the tumour behaves itself for you. I had been wondering about you today.
Do you think you will sleep or is it very elusive?
Had GP secretary on the phone today, double checking dates I have visited hospital so they can try and get a solution to if am I discharged to yearly appointments or not. Really felt reassured they are on the 'case'.
Just to say 2 menopauses is absolutely yuk - drug induced is far worse!!
Once again good news - Keep us posted please
Fingers crossed for you this morning Francine, hope endoscopy results are good and you can straight on to the BC treatment. Don't know how you're keeping your sense of humour, you're a star.
Have you moved now Pandorra? Lots of new space to decorate so that should be fun once the hard work of unpacking is done. Well, the decorating isn't exactly fun is it, but choosing just the right accessories to go in a room is a pleasure that I can spend hours over. It's one of those things that I get to do with my Dad as I like old stuff so he spends ages scouring junkyards and car boot sales for me to find bits and bobs (found me a gorgeous 1930s typewriter recently) so that gives him something to do that he enjoys as well as helping me.
Good luck with the change in hours Cheryl, it's hard to stay disciplined enough to just do 'normal' hours isn't it, somehow or other there is always a reason to end up there 10/12 hours. Sure that such long hours can't be good for anyone never mind those of us who've had health issues to deal with.
Off out with friend to the National Portrait Gallery tomorrow to see an Audrey Hepburn photography exhibition (I think she was the most beautiful woman in the world, so elegant and stylish) and then on to Somerset House for a photo exhibition of The Jam and a nice lunch. Don't think the weather will be good enough for too much outside wandering but that should keep us busy enough.
Boob very achy around scar and where the tumour was so I've gone back to my surgical compression bras for now. I'm beginning to wonder if it is just normal monthly hormonal tenderness but exacerbated by the surgery. It isn't bad enough to worry about, just a bit uncomfortable. Beryl and Francine, I've got the whole dryness thing going on too but I'm not taking any hormones so perhaps it's just the start of the menopausal hormone changes kicking in. You wouldn't think a few simple little hormones could bring about such dramatic effects would you - but at least a natural menopause should be easier to deal with than one induced by the treatments *crosses fingers and hopes*
love to all
My face is dry and I have dry eye anyway.
Simple moisturiser works on my face - not that rich and need to do it regularly but better than the over perfumed stuff I also have that seems to aggravate other things.
Dry eye -I get drops from doc but don't like using them - can't afford the optrex spray but are supposed to be really good- optician rcommended them but not sure they are available on NHS
Fingers crossed for your biopsy results.
I used to love meeting up and swimming. It is a group that teaches confidence in the water for oldies like me. I love it and have improved so much but have been told no swimming until am healed for 6 months. From op that would be now BUT because of recurring infections it is now looking like it will be December before I can go back. They are keeping my place as there is a waiting list.
Thinking of you tomorrow - let me know please.
This morning I went to see GP. Result - cream for hands, cream for feet and referral to physio for arm.
Also he has asked hospital for up to date records as he has had nothing since March and it was May when I had the infection.
He also checked my sore 'lump' and thought it was scar tissue as well.
Feel better just having seen someone
Have had a short break - having met other doggy people and with Mr Google's help we have determined that Pippin is a collie cross corgi. In fact on google are a couple of photos that could ber her!!
Well done on the walk, hope your feet were OK, again thank you for doing that.
My scar really is sore sometimes, I would love to go into a pretty bra but am so wary of aggravating the scar tissue. I have a small lump of it(I think) that is raised above the rest and rubs on the 'soft' bra when I walk or garden, then it gets sore, and if I sweat (well i don't glow!!!) it is sore. I have taken to keeping extra sensitive baby wipes by me and if it s bad or iI have been really hot i wipe the under scar area with one. - seems to do the trick
GP's next week though - I have these patches of hard skin that keep opening up on hands and feet - Anastrozole I think. Especially worrying is the one that won't heal on my left side (Op side) Also want to try and get some physio to strengthen that arm and improve movement.
Well done on hanging on about that job Sharon - something better is always just round the corner
Good wishes all -Keep smiling and striving - or is it striving and smiling
Omg francine, that is not acceptable at all, probably not at the forefront of your mind at the moment but I reckon you have good grounds for a complaint
it's such an important time for you and your family
Sending a big hug
Hi Sharon, will send all the vibes I can collect from everywhere! So pleased to hear about the job. It makes such a difference when you have an interest in what you want to do. Let us know the date and we can all hold hands. Oh yes, I just love london now, just meandering along, stopping for the odd drink, and you can really lose yourself. Dont mean that literally, although I can never be in london on my own as I wouldn't know where I was! Hope to get to St.Catherines dock one evening as we love sitting there. How's everyone else doing? Anyone had their follow up appointment yet. The months are flying by aren't they, we have all had so much going on and to deal with and I have just been told it's 171 Days to Xmas! Sorrrriiii but at least you have been told!
so all my special ladies sending masses of hugs, now back to watch wimbledon and I so love Novak! Brilliant player. Lol xxxxxxxxx
Hope you enjoyed the Pink Ribbon Walk Cheryl and your feet aren't complaining too much. You should be incredibly proud of yourself... I'm proud of you and I've never even met you!
V glad you're back Pandorra, thought you might be buried under a pile of moving boxes. Been hearing on the news that a tube strike is planned from tomorrow evening so hope it doesn't coincide with your pal being here. London is fantastic at this time of year isn't it, nothing better than plonking yourself in a nice bar or coffee shop and watching the world go by. Sorry to hear you are still suffering and hope it sorts itself out soon.
Well I've been brave (or stupid, depending on your point of view ) and pulled out of both of the job selection processes that I was involved in as I just can't face the long hours/travelling again. And hey presto, the very next day one of my agencies contacted me about a job which sounds great, nice easy commute, tiny little charitable organisation in a field I'm interested in). So, interviewing for that the week after next and will ask you all to send some positive vibes my way as, on paper at least, it looks perfect.
Hope you're all doing OK and life is a bit more settle for those of you who have gone back to work.
love to all
Hi ladies, I logged myself out, didn't mean to, and couldn't get back in! It was awful. Just like in the Bond films, the moderator came to my rescue and I was so grateful. So, hope everyone ok, Francine any news? Well done to those on the walks, phenomenal. I had to go back to using a support bra as so much pain around the scar again. It feels like thousands of pieces of glass and then I get a few days better. But I ws told it takes a long time to heal. Gets you down though doesn't it. Hope you are getting there Sharon, how's the decorating are you finished. Hoping to have a london day soon as my girlfriend is over from Dubai, love just wandering and people watching. Sending love and xxxxxxxxx to all xxxx
Cheryl you are a superstar, only wish I could be there to cheer you along. I wish you every success with it and hope you get to enjoy it too. Blubbing a bit now because of your kindness.
Good luck for the walk later and thank you so much for what you have done for Breast Cancer Care, your fundraising will be put to good use to help others who have to travel the same path. Your efforts are very much appreciated by everyone here at BCC.
Take care and kind regards
I would not go for a job with travel, just remmeber we have been through a lot and you may find it more tiring than before BC.
I haven't any appointments or anything, not even for the mammogram and check up. I am not sure if I have been discharged either after the last infection.I suppose I should follow it up.
Enjoy your break in Harrogate, lovely town and have fun with your red car, Francine. My friend always has a red car, she says she can a lways find it in a car park
Never been to Wimbers but watch it avidly , tht Raffa match was so exciting
we are going away fro a few days from Monday. You can be sure the weather will change!!!
Glorious here again, but like you very wary now about going outside in the sun and the heat
Love Beryl x